Your will power, changing bad habits, clean up house and insist that you are in charge.

Put out consciousness that is strong, and they cannot penetrate it.

They will fight you, but stay string, you will make yourself incompatible after you keep it up, no longer an easy target, they move away.

They may try to come back, that's when you need to be strongest.

Know they do not have power over you, they need you - you do not need them, therefore they are subject to you, not the other way around.