believe me OP I agree with you totally my first wife got me kicked out of the army because she was so crazy fake a pregnancy and then when she came over and I got married to her she said she spontaneously lost her baby but since I was already married I stupidly I continued to have sex with her when she finally got me kicked out of the army on her belly we came back to live with my parents and she was completely of a rocker and I couldn't take it anymore and so I sent her back to live with your family in another state she finally had the baby and I wanted to be a part of the kids life so I moved the status she was in that only after being there for 2 months I realize that she was a major drug addict a mess head and living with a lesbian lover and have been kicked out for families house and was living on the streets or living with other drug I can crack houses in math houses and living on the streets and I spent over 10,000 dollars trying to get custody of my son and bring him into a stable loving house but after 3 * of going to court and the judge is tell me that yeah she's a drug addict but even drug attics to make good parents I decided that I no longer want to be a part of that situation the court told me I could see my son every other weekend for 8 hours a day and when I tried to get my son I never knew where she was she was living in hotels crack houses map houses I finally gave up fast forward 10 years now she's living with a rich dude and I'm required to pay 300 dollars a month but even know she has quick amphetamines but now she's a raging alcoholic and I refuse to pay anything that I know my money is going to go supposedly quit math she is a raging alcoholic and I refuse to pay any money to her to provide for her addictions she only let me see my son when it was convenient for her and I had him for 3 months 3 summers ago and I do not like that kid in a lease and I could not wait to get rid of him I refuse to be a father 32 hours a every otherweek when that kids old enough to think for himself I will have a relationship with him but not before that woman put me in my family through hell the last 14 years