All I can say is I wish I'd been smart enough not to date an 'unemployed' man.

I'm not materialistic, so the fact that he was "temporarily" unemployed didn't even factor into my falling in love with him. 10 years later and the real facts are that this man only works when he wants something for himself.

I was incredibly gullible... I really thought he liked more than my money. When it ran out about 4 years into the relationship, he didn't try to look for work... he got mad and nasty when I mentioned it was time for Him to find a job.

I was in Loooove though. I stayed until I now have nothing. Worked two jobs, along with trying to keep the place clean while he insisted on dogs and a crew of other "temporarily unemployed" in the house, being too 'manly' to help clean or cook meals or damn near anything else... I broke my health and my spirit (to a large degree) for this wonderful "love of my life".

Any of you women reading this... just say "NO" to that unemployed charmer. If he's worth a damn, and really interested in you, he will come back around when he has his shit together. Otherwise, you could end up like me... no money to start over, health too bad to work like you once did and so depressed that death is looking better all the time, even though I'm not particularly suicidal.

A good one won't stay down for long. The rest of them won't get up if you use a crane to help them, and if you do, they will resent you for making them look bad for continuing to play the "poor, pitiful me" card.