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psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.

 
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psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
I need advice on what to do. Long story short:

I dated this guy when I was high school, we dated for two years. I moved away after high school and we broke up.
When we broke up he immediately began stalking my home, calling my phone non-stop, all hours of the day. Would send me pictures of his arm slit up by razors and hit me with his car in the middle of traffic after he caught me leaving my house and was stalking me.

Now 6 years later: He still sends me aggressive and crazy emails,making new Facebook accounts every other day, the emails are scary and possessive. He believes that I am his soul mate, that he can't live without me and that "I made the biggest mistake by leaving him" He is delusional and thinks that I am still in love with him, even though I've told him he is fucking crazy and I'm seriously afraid of him.

The past couple of months I've been having dreams that he is coming to find me and hiding in my home. two of the dreams have involved guns. Last night I dreamt that he was hiding in my car and he shot me in the face when I got in the vehicle.

Now question is: DO you guys think this is the kind of person that would kill someone? I feel like he is a socio-path, delusional, and has mental issues. I'm worried that if he got the chance to find me and where I live that he would hurt me, what do you guys think? I need advice.

He has been on anti-depression meds since 14. Don't write him off as some "emo guy" though. You have to understand, it was a stupid high school relationship and 6 years ago. The emails get more aggressive and possessive each time and I never reply!!!

Also crazy/weird thing about him: I once found, 6 years ago, a box under his bed that had printed out pictures (pictures on a piece of printer paper) of my older sisters and and of girls in his grade and my grade. the pictures were from their myspaces and really grainy, not glossy like an actual picture, i mean these were on paper!??? it was so freaky and weird.

Ive gone to the police before and they never seem to care until something actually happens. Honestly if he ever came near me, I would have no problem using "self defense" if you know what I mean, he scares me that much. I moved all the way to Oregon (job opportunity) but luckily after he found out that I was living in Texas.

I know this may sound stupid, but i'm becoming paranoid, something doesn't feel right and I need advice on how to handle this situation. There was always this crazy demonic look in his eyes and I wouldn't be surprised if he actually was insane enough to come find me. This is more of a mental crazy, rather than a physically abusive person, at least not form what I experience. I don't know if that makes a difference, I guess I'm trying to ask what you guys think are the characteristics of someone who would seriously hurt someone else.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
How does he feel about his mother?

ETA: some just have bad wiring. Try sending love and healing instead of fear, he'll starve!

Last Edited by hillbilly on 07/07/2012 02:58 AM
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
Go with you gut, it never fails.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
Get a shotgun...invite him over...shoot him in the face...twice or three time (to make sure you get him) = problem solved
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
How does he feel about his mother?

ETA: some just have bad wiring. Try sending love and healing instead of fear, he'll starve!
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Thanks. Haven't heard that advice before, but I like it. I should try and be more positive about this. I think he wants fear, but it's hard not to be afraid of a situation like this, all I ever think is the worst.

I'm constantly keeping everything I do private, yet he always figures about things that he knows about my current life.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
How does he feel about his mother?

ETA: some just have bad wiring. Try sending love and healing instead of fear, he'll starve!
 Quoting: hillbilly


Thanks. Haven't heard that advice before, but I like it. I should try and be more positive about this. I think he wants fear, but it's hard not to be afraid of a situation like this, all I ever think is the worst.

I'm constantly keeping everything I do private, yet he always figures about things that he knows about my current life.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16175271


He may be a GLP'er too. bet you didnt think of that did you now. ha ha.
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Get a shotgun...invite him over...shoot him in the face...twice or three time (to make sure you get him) = problem solved
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If only you knew...wish it were that easy, I've contenplated getting a gun just in case he ever did come around me. for god's sake he better not, i'm freaking 2,000 miles away from him.
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I'm sorry but when i read this [ Now question is: DO you guys think this is the kind of person that would kill someone? ] i kinda lol'ed . advice is avoid him.
:/sdfhasdfshasd/:
Those who live by the sword die by the sword, those who don't live by the sword are subject to those who do.
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How does he feel about his mother?

ETA: some just have bad wiring. Try sending love and healing instead of fear, he'll starve!
 Quoting: hillbilly


Thanks. Haven't heard that advice before, but I like it. I should try and be more positive about this. I think he wants fear, but it's hard not to be afraid of a situation like this, all I ever think is the worst.

I'm constantly keeping everything I do private, yet he always figures about things that he knows about my current life.
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He may be a GLP'er too. bet you didnt think of that did you now. ha ha.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19275185


ahhhhh!

No I did. I'm not actually revealing my real locations, lol, or anywhere close to them ;)
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
That is scary, I wonder if you shou get authorities involved.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
I'm sorry but when i read this [ Now question is: DO you guys think this is the kind of person that would kill someone? ] i kinda lol'ed . advice is avoid him.
 Quoting: Buddha_


I know it sounds stupid...I know. I'm just trying to get advice or if anyone if familiar with certain characteristics of people who have that kind of shit in them to hurt other people, it's hard for me to word.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
I'm sorry but when i read this [ Now question is: DO you guys think this is the kind of person that would kill someone? ] i kinda lol'ed . advice is avoid him.
 Quoting: Buddha_


I know it sounds stupid...I know. I'm just trying to get advice or if anyone if familiar with certain characteristics of people who have that kind of shit in them to hurt other people, it's hard for me to word.
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He might kinda seems crazy.. just avoid him. Why risk it?
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Those who live by the sword die by the sword, those who don't live by the sword are subject to those who do.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
I'm sorry but when i read this [ Now question is: DO you guys think this is the kind of person that would kill someone? ] i kinda lol'ed . advice is avoid him.
 Quoting: Buddha_


I know it sounds stupid...I know. I'm just trying to get advice or if anyone if familiar with certain characteristics of people who have that kind of shit in them to hurt other people, it's hard for me to word.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16175271


He might kinda seems crazy.. just avoid him. Why risk it?
 Quoting: Buddha_


Defiantly, I don't ever want to see or hear from him. ever! I'm just trying to see if there is anything else I can do. its been bothering me a lot lately, I guess i'm just looking to see if anyone else has dealt with a situation like this and if they were able to handle it or if its' something they have to be careful about the rest of their lives.

I just want the paranoia to stop, the aggressive and scary emails to stop. I hate having this fear on my mind.

Thanks for the advice though, appreciated!
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You're welcome. Good luck, OP!

Last Edited by hillbilly on 07/07/2012 03:15 AM
Water is the only drink for a wise man.
Call me a pot but heat me not.-Putin
Silence is where God speaks. Anything else is but a poor translation. -Rumi
Wanna hear God laugh? Just talk about your plans.
An old broom knows all the corners.
Slow is steady; steady is smooth; smooth is fast.
Success has a thousand fathers but failure only one son.
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.-Gibran
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
he is in your face only because the internet makes it possible. the minute this psycho gets on a bus he will lose it let alone travel the miles and then have to walk the streets of your town.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
Go down to the courthouse or police station or whatever and get yourself a restraining order. Don't wait and don't fuck around. Serve that fool before he does do something like murder/suicide.

Having that legal paper hanging over his head may snap him out of his dumbass delusions, or push him over the edge.

scared
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Car plus GPS=in your face, too.

ETA: pics under the bed? Who 'da thunk it?

Last Edited by hillbilly on 07/07/2012 03:22 AM
Water is the only drink for a wise man.
Call me a pot but heat me not.-Putin
Silence is where God speaks. Anything else is but a poor translation. -Rumi
Wanna hear God laugh? Just talk about your plans.
An old broom knows all the corners.
Slow is steady; steady is smooth; smooth is fast.
Success has a thousand fathers but failure only one son.
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.-Gibran
hillbilly

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07/07/2012 03:27 AM
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Be thankful you actually KNOW who he is!
Water is the only drink for a wise man.
Call me a pot but heat me not.-Putin
Silence is where God speaks. Anything else is but a poor translation. -Rumi
Wanna hear God laugh? Just talk about your plans.
An old broom knows all the corners.
Slow is steady; steady is smooth; smooth is fast.
Success has a thousand fathers but failure only one son.
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.-Gibran
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
Go down to the courthouse or police station or whatever and get yourself a restraining order. Don't wait and don't fuck around. Serve that fool before he does do something like murder/suicide.

Having that legal paper hanging over his head may snap him out of his dumbass delusions, or push him over the edge.

scared
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Yeah commonsense.
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he must be suffering...

we'll see when you get rejected by someone you love
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Stalk him back. See how he likes it.
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he must be suffering...

we'll see when you get rejected by someone you love
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Drink the poison, Romeo.
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Remove your facebook and change your e-mail to a private one.
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^^^^
THIS definitely.

How far away from him do you live?
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Stalk him back. See how he likes it.
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^ lmfao this guy..
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YOU did this to him!... You just walked away and forgot all about him, AND your relationship.. He is the product of your neglect and creation.. I hope your happy with your new life, but you have nightmares because YOU killed someone, spiritually..
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You know this person better than any of us. So you be the judge if you think he is capable of something like that.

Anyway, best way is remove your FB, myspace or whatever. You don't need that anyway. And start living your life.

A lifetime isn't very long, each second you waste in fear and desperation are seconds you could never get back.

Life should be worth living.

With all that out of the way, I know it's stating the obvious but we hope you would be careful and do everything you can to protect yourself. Take his threats seriously, but don't let them run your life.

None of us here want any harm to come to you.
Yes even the crazy shit talker ones.

Perhaps there are some anti-stalker groups or something that you could get better advice from, as from the way it sounds, could be serious.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
YOU did this to him!... You just walked away and forgot all about him, AND your relationship.. He is the product of your neglect and creation.. I hope your happy with your new life, but you have nightmares because YOU killed someone, spiritually..
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14091541


Oh ok, good one. I was in a stupid high school relationship, was not serious. I'm a good person and I can't force myself to stay in relationships just because someone might get hurt, are you serious? Ive gotten hurt plenty of times, but there is a difference between having mental issues and moving on naturally.
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I moved away after high school and we broke up.
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Clearly you deserve everything you get I hope he eats your face godzilla
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
You know this person better than any of us. So you be the judge if you think he is capable of something like that.

Anyway, best way is remove your FB, myspace or whatever. You don't need that anyway. And start living your life.

A lifetime isn't very long, each second you waste in fear and desperation are seconds you could never get back.

Life should be worth living.

With all that out of the way, I know it's stating the obvious but we hope you would be careful and do everything you can to protect yourself. Take his threats seriously, but don't let them run your life.

None of us here want any harm to come to you.
Yes even the crazy shit talker ones.

Perhaps there are some anti-stalker groups or something that you could get better advice from, as from the way it sounds, could be serious.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 17792632


Thank you. I have spoken to family and friends. I just wanted to step outside of the box and hear honest and un biased opinions about what to do.

Thanks for your comments, they are valuable and much appreciated.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
YOU did this to him!... You just walked away and forgot all about him, AND your relationship.. He is the product of your neglect and creation.. I hope your happy with your new life, but you have nightmares because YOU killed someone, spiritually..
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14091541


Oh ok, good one. I was in a stupid high school relationship, was not serious. I'm a good person and I can't force myself to stay in relationships just because someone might get hurt, are you serious? Ive gotten hurt plenty of times, but there is a difference between having mental issues and moving on naturally.
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lol... I was just kidding. I was trying to sound like him. ;) ... I guess sarcasm isn't so obvious online (says the man to the judge).. . But yeah, buy a gun and ignore the pussy.
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Re: psycho ex still contacting me after 6 years...help, i'm scared.
what goes around comes around,karma is a bitch,i would say talk to him seriously but then again i don't know, love sucks i don't think it exists.





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