What is the longest time that it took you to get over someone?

Give it time, took me 1 - 2 years after my divorce.

You don't get over them, you just get perspective.

First step, drop the soul mate crap or if you must keep it, embrace multiple soul mates.

The soul mate thing is an awful emotional trap once a relationship ends.

Also, embrace your freedom and embrace what you won't miss.

Treat it like a deep wound and try to minimize the scar you will have. Then be proud of the scar.

That sounds about right, Takes awhile.

I am still not over my first husband. We had a wonderful connection and a loving relationship that fell apart due to different expectations of what living together and marriage would be. We literally got married to save the relationship, which was like a kiss of death to any happiness.

I saw him a few years ago when I was out with my second husband and child, and there was a chemical reaction that happened in me that I could not control. It was a rush of overwhelming need to be close to him. I will never truly be able to get over him. But I have sense enough to know that the relationship itself would not work, and that our personalities and circumstances have changed too much to ever go back.

Don't allow yourself too long without reaching out to someone new. There are good experiences out there just waiting to happen. It's a matter of perspective, and trying not to dwell on the past is very hard.

2 days

25 years. FINALLY over him.

That is what I did wrong. I swore he was it. Everything he said pointed to this as well, plus we connected on a spiritual level.

I really don't want anyone new. The love I felt for him was special. Mostly because I least expected it, but I'm not looking to replace him. It is either him or I stay on my current path.

I was just concerned why it is taking me so long to forget him. He is the first thing on my mind in the morning, I think about him all day and I always thought he would come back. Guess I was the fool. Just would like to move on... since he has left. Would be nice to spend a day without my eyes welling up.

it takes as long as it takes.

the thing is, not to feel that there is something wrong with yourself because you aren't over it yet.
there is no cure, neither man made nor from force of will.
only with time.

you seem to be a wondrous and deserving individual, capable of great love.
you are not being punished for your capacity to love.

the time will come for you to take another chance.
when it does, i implore you , with all my heart, do so.

as painful as it can be, love is what makes you human...what makes you real.

5 minutes.

about 3 years until I stopped thinking of the person all the time and about 6 years until I was totally over it. It's been 16 yrs now and I look back and wonder how I ever let it bother me like it did.

trust me, time will do it's job.

I think we all have someone we will never get over. Time does make it easier, but the deep part of the soul never forgets. In time, you will find peace with it. But you must allow yourself to feel love again. It won't be the same as this person, but it's not supposed to be. Each person is an individual and deserves to be loved on their own merits free from the memory of another.

3yrs for me. I am now in another loving, supportive relationship going on 8years. It is painful beyond words to mourn alove that cannot, or will not be ... whatever the reason. I allowed myself to grieve the loss, though at times felt I would be consumed by the grief itself. I DO understand how a person can literaly die of a broken heart. I wanted to live so I cried, I grieved, I ached, I allowed myself to be broken. Also, I went to work. I got out of bed, got dressed, ate, worked, went to the gym, etc. Life went on , but I grieved. I cried in the bathroom at work, in my car in the parking lot, etc. If I could not hold the tears in ... I didn't. I cried and cried till I could cry no more. A broken heart is an awful thing. You are a deeper, better person for feeling so deeply. If you let it consume you ... it will. I wanted to live, so I did. Allow yourself as much time as you need. If it is years, so be it. There is no right or wrong length of time. You can either go thru the pain or around it, but you will only heal by going thru it. God bless & keep you ... A BROKEN HEART STILL BEATS ...

Month number 5. Somedays are better than others. The worst part is waking up every morning and relizing all over that she is gone. I've accepted the fact that I screwed it up. Not sure I will ever get over her.

5+ years and counting. If it is your true love, it never goes away, especially if you were the one who screwed things up. It persists engagements and probably even marriages. The best thing to do is to always have admiration and love for them but accept you will not be with them and find joy and love in your life in every other way possible.

22 years

so very true

As long as I'm with the dumb bitch I'm with right now, I'll never get over my ex.

You'll be on your tenth husband in 20 years

Actually, I was only married to my first husband for 6 months before we separated. Then met my current husband years later. We have been married almost 4 years and have two children. Nice joke, but neither funny nor accurate. A lot of people have "starter marriages" these days.

I went through the same thing. I was so nuts in love and distance and family commitments made it impossible to see each other often enough and he met someone else. I woke up crying, went to bed crying.
After nearly two years I started to realise I was being consumed by someone who wasn't even in my life anymore.
It really is about your personal strengths and ability to overcome something. Slowly I started to not think about him so much and the tears dried up. Only now 3 years later do I look back and regret mourning so much.
Don't let someone who does nothing for you consume your thoughts and control your emotions. It's a waste of your beautiful life.
Get back out amongst it and meet new people..
I dead set lost two years of my life in sickening grief and I never care to go there again.

30 years