When you mention working 80 hours a week and say I can't afford a $20 cake, it makes me think you are a liar! And makes everything else you've said seem like bullshit!

For real did you ask that woman if her kids birthday was soon, or if she's some fat ass that is gonna eat a whole cake. Or since you were so upset by her using an ebt card, when she could by the same thing for around 25%. and use her food stamps on something else. Instead of it being an issue of your own entitlement (80 hours and can't spare $20) you could have said hi I'm (insert your name here) I notice you are getting a very expensive cake and could bake your own for less than half the price. And its very simple to bake it yourself, unless you are living at a shelter (which of course you can't use an oven).

But instead you get on the net and judge her. If you didn't offer her an alternative, you have no room to judge her. Ask your husband how many dicks his mom sucked to put food on the table! I can remember before I was put in a foster home and later my grandparents custody, my mom would go steal food from the store. Not junk food, hamburger and that kind of thing. Other times we ate cat food.