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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 21982181  United States08/20/2012 12:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sell your mothers house, and build a room on your house for her. Take care of her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1290518 It's not the governments problem to take care of your family. Whats wrong with people. I know people in my church who have taken eldery people to live in their home to help them out. Until they are too sick to live at home or are a danger (starting fires or leaving to freeze to death outside) to themselves or children in your home, YOU should take care of your family. Thats what life is all about. Taking care of each other. Take care of your mother. The jig is up pal, you can spout that kind of stuff all you want, meanwhile 70% of the vehicles parked in front of our Local and Childrens Hospitals license say BAJA! The whole system is rout with corruption, no way to fix it regardless of ideas or finger pointing. Sad, but true. Free medical, food stamps, housing, education, etc. I know one thing, we have done EVERYTHING to stay out of the social services system and not become wards of the state. I have worked my fingers to the bone, exhausted my body and mind... if we caregivers were PAID for the services we render, it would amount to BILLIONS of dollars in this country. Of course, the government doesn't want that. Sooner or later, as planned, they will get us to a point where we either die or are forced into the system. If all you noble bastards want us to die while you sit on your high horses and tell me to go to Wal-Mart with the rest of the trash, - well, screw you. Where there's life there's hope. I've never had a vacation, I work everday until I'm physically exhausted. I pay my taxes and I help others when I can. Obama is squashing every little bit of life and hope out of us. It is a rotten thing to do - for these seniors out there - to see this rotten ass Communist destroying the country when their strength is fading and the light is growing dim. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States08/20/2012 12:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: AnotherOne I feel for you. My mother is 85 , currently in a rehab center (sick sad joke), going back to her house soon. I may end up moving into her townhouse.... not what I want, but I will take care of my mother as she did me. My mother doesn't want anyone to live with her either, with the exception of my daughters.She trusts them. My oldest was staying with her for a while, but she has medical issues of her own, and young children. The middle one has 2 kids, including a 7 month old. My youngest is away at college. Sorry to tell you this but there will be a point at which your mother has no choice. Her health will fail as she gets older ... It is a good time now to sit her down and have a chat about it all.... She seems very filled with pride. We have talked to her doctors, and to a Social Worker. Unless my mother is deemed incompetant, there is nothing we can do. Then do nothing since she is so stubborn she won't listen to reason. Do what you can but until she gives in some let her deal with it. Stop enabling her and let her see how it is. I am going to have to do this soon with my stubborn mother. Sheesh, they become like little stubborn children. If she wants to live on her own then she will have to take everything that comes with it. Eventually they will break something and have to be put into a home or live with someone. It is crappy getting old but it must be dealt with and stubbornness is not the way to go. |
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tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:07 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just a hundred a month? What if she had a car payment? In your state, do car payments count as necessary expenses? I find the whole medicaid system ridiculous. Nineteen year olds that pop out kids and never worked a day in their life can qualify, but God forbid older Americans with no minor dependents need medical. We went through this with my mother in law. It's a nightmare. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 15450698 Car payments are not allowable deductions. She never learned to drive, anyway. Yes, it is a nightmare. :( Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sell your mothers house, and build a room on your house for her. Take care of her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1290518 It's not the governments problem to take care of your family. Whats wrong with people. I know people in my church who have taken eldery people to live in their home to help them out. Until they are too sick to live at home or are a danger (starting fires or leaving to freeze to death outside) to themselves or children in your home, YOU should take care of your family. Thats what life is all about. Taking care of each other. Take care of your mother. Yes THIS since when is it someone else's responsibility to take care of someone's family?? 100 years ago people did it automatically Why is it everyone in this country feels ENTITLED in some way? The elderly think it is someone's responsibility to take care of them.... The poor think they are entitled to hand outs Take care of your own family We feel entitled because the government keeps taking and taking and taking until there is nothing left. Now, if you have a decent insurance policy, they are going to tax that by 40%. Sometimes I just think the government wants society to fail. Everything THEY do is a failure. But to answer your question, take a look at the deductions on your paycheck then YOU tell ME why we look to government. A portion of your payroll taxes go to fund Medicare; what part of that don't you understand? If they'd keep their friggin' hands out of our pockets, we could afford things like long-term care insurance, etc. They have been taking since before I was born... This is the system here. Take take take I am young; but it seems NO ONE seems to really care. They keep voting for the same and the system never changes... 2 party system?? it is all the same. Like I said, I am young but I see it clear as day. Why don;t people DO something about it? NOw, the same thing is happening. Everyone is told they are 2 choices for "president"?? They seem like the same choice to me... Nothing EVER changes in this f'ing country.... But everyone like to biaatch about it but no one wants to CHANGE it I don't understand people's reasoning here... My parents, their parents put up with the same damn shit Now, my generation will put up with it and even more.... THere won't be anything left We are told by the time we are in our 80s, no health care benefits and NO social security...better start saving now.... But they can find plenty of money for all the wars, plenty of money to give to other governments... This shit just goes on and on and on Agree wholeheartedly. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 21982181 United States08/20/2012 12:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: tiger1 My mother doesn't want anyone to live with her either, with the exception of my daughters.She trusts them. My oldest was staying with her for a while, but she has medical issues of her own, and young children. The middle one has 2 kids, including a 7 month old. My youngest is away at college. Sorry to tell you this but there will be a point at which your mother has no choice. Her health will fail as she gets older ... It is a good time now to sit her down and have a chat about it all.... She seems very filled with pride. We have talked to her doctors, and to a Social Worker. Unless my mother is deemed incompetant, there is nothing we can do. Then do nothing since she is so stubborn she won't listen to reason. Do what you can but until she gives in some let her deal with it. Stop enabling her and let her see how it is. I am going to have to do this soon with my stubborn mother. Sheesh, they become like little stubborn children. If she wants to live on her own then she will have to take everything that comes with it. Eventually they will break something and have to be put into a home or live with someone. It is crappy getting old but it must be dealt with and stubbornness is not the way to go. and soon your day will come. And your freedom and independence will be labeled "stubborness" - and you will be seen as a burden to all around you... |
| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sell your mothers house, and build a room on your house for her. Take care of her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1290518 It's not the governments problem to take care of your family. Whats wrong with people. I know people in my church who have taken eldery people to live in their home to help them out. Until they are too sick to live at home or are a danger (starting fires or leaving to freeze to death outside) to themselves or children in your home, YOU should take care of your family. Thats what life is all about. Taking care of each other. Take care of your mother. The jig is up pal, you can spout that kind of stuff all you want, meanwhile 70% of the vehicles parked in front of our Local and Childrens Hospitals license say BAJA! The whole system is rout with corruption, no way to fix it regardless of ideas or finger pointing. Sad, but true. Free medical, food stamps, housing, education, etc. I know one thing, we have done EVERYTHING to stay out of the social services system and not become wards of the state. I have worked my fingers to the bone, exhausted my body and mind... if we caregivers were PAID for the services we render, it would amount to BILLIONS of dollars in this country. Of course, the government doesn't want that. Sooner or later, as planned, they will get us to a point where we either die or are forced into the system. If all you noble bastards want us to die while you sit on your high horses and tell me to go to Wal-Mart with the rest of the trash, - well, screw you. Where there's life there's hope. I've never had a vacation, I work everday until I'm physically exhausted. I pay my taxes and I help others when I can. Obama is squashing every little bit of life and hope out of us. It is a rotten thing to do - for these seniors out there - to see this rotten ass Communist destroying the country when their strength is fading and the light is growing dim. If obama wins, America loses what it has left. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: tiger1 My mother doesn't want anyone to live with her either, with the exception of my daughters.She trusts them. My oldest was staying with her for a while, but she has medical issues of her own, and young children. The middle one has 2 kids, including a 7 month old. My youngest is away at college. Sorry to tell you this but there will be a point at which your mother has no choice. Her health will fail as she gets older ... It is a good time now to sit her down and have a chat about it all.... She seems very filled with pride. We have talked to her doctors, and to a Social Worker. Unless my mother is deemed incompetant, there is nothing we can do. Then do nothing since she is so stubborn she won't listen to reason. Do what you can but until she gives in some let her deal with it. Stop enabling her and let her see how it is. I am going to have to do this soon with my stubborn mother. Sheesh, they become like little stubborn children. If she wants to live on her own then she will have to take everything that comes with it. Eventually they will break something and have to be put into a home or live with someone. It is crappy getting old but it must be dealt with and stubbornness is not the way to go. If caring for her is enabling, then I will continue anyway. At least I will have a clear conscience, that I have done all that I can. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| Mr. Toppit User ID: 21606546 United States08/20/2012 12:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | it starts with the elderly and handicapped, but rest assured it will affect all of us. and yet they give money to other countries and give themselves pay raises. They have medical insurance very different from what they give us. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2122560 Keep voting out the robbers and vote in new, and if they do nothing bring in more new people its the only thing we can do You Mother will have to make a choice, your house or a nursing home. she has to realize she just cant stay in her house any longer, besides soon she will need 24 hour care and unless you have lots of money you will have to go through the same thing again. This country throws their old and handicapped away. The slippery slope is well greased. The elite have no problems when it comes to medical needs, as they have the best care available to them. FTR, politicians are not forced into obamacare. They have their own insurance. If obamacare is good for the regular people, it should be good enough for them. Yes they should have the same insurance as the people who pay their paychecks. But they dont and they get away with it, they get away with anything they want, shame we have no say in nothing Maybe you could rent her a small studio, she would fell like it was hers and small enough so he could get around in it My brothers have tried the apartment deal in a retirement community, and she refused. We went down exactly the same road as you did ... and they refused everything we tried to do for them. We walked away finally. They lied, accused us of stealing, were nasty, and even when the office for the aged became involved wouldn't cooperate in any way. We can't even tell if they're paying their bills now. Almost certainly they aren't. They wanted us to become their patsies and be their slaves. Oh please we're so old. No we won't clean toilets and drive 2 hrs each way every time they needed a ride. No I don't do dishes for charity, especially when they could easily hire a maid. This is what you can look forward to. Get off the band wagon while you can. tsk tsk its the nursing home... and YOU leave the state before they can charge you for their care. The state is desperate for money. Anybody's money. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 22161671 United States08/20/2012 12:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Lo0seR The jig is up pal, you can spout that kind of stuff all you want, meanwhile 70% of the vehicles parked in front of our Local and Childrens Hospitals license say BAJA! The whole system is rout with corruption, no way to fix it regardless of ideas or finger pointing. Sad, but true. Free medical, food stamps, housing, education, etc. I know one thing, we have done EVERYTHING to stay out of the social services system and not become wards of the state. I have worked my fingers to the bone, exhausted my body and mind... if we caregivers were PAID for the services we render, it would amount to BILLIONS of dollars in this country. Of course, the government doesn't want that. Sooner or later, as planned, they will get us to a point where we either die or are forced into the system. If all you noble bastards want us to die while you sit on your high horses and tell me to go to Wal-Mart with the rest of the trash, - well, screw you. Where there's life there's hope. I've never had a vacation, I work everday until I'm physically exhausted. I pay my taxes and I help others when I can. Obama is squashing every little bit of life and hope out of us. It is a rotten thing to do - for these seniors out there - to see this rotten ass Communist destroying the country when their strength is fading and the light is growing dim. If obama wins, America loses what it has left. ...Romney is just the other side of it all "republican" What does that mean? What did we have under Bush republican? Wars, 9/11 |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States08/20/2012 12:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As of August 1st, Medicare drastically cut their covered services. As reported on the news, BILLIONS of dollars have been removed from the Medicare fund, and used for obamacare. Quoting: tiger1 Here is how it affects my mother; My mother is 89, and doing pretty good overall until earlier this year. She had a pacemaker put in, and subsequently developed congestive heart failure. She is now on oxygen 24/7. She probably only has 1-2 years left max, maybe less, because of the congestive heart failure. As of August 1st, her medicare coverage was drastically reduced, as it was also for millions of other people. She previously had a Therapist come in 1 day a week, a Nurse 2 days a week for a couple of hours, and a Home Health Aid for 2 hours, 2 days a week.Due to the medicare cuts, all she has now is the Nurse for 1 hour once a week, and the Home Health Aid for 2 hours, once a week. Myself, and one of my older brothers live relatively close by. We stop by frequently to her home(yes, she still lives in her own home), and check on her, cut the grass, rake the leaves, trim the bushes, take out garbage,do her laundry, etc. We really depended on the medical professionals to fill in the gaps, and now they have been taken away almost entirely. We are in a horrible situation.My mother is deteriorating, refuses to live with anyone, and her medical help is down to almost nothing. Financially, no one can really afford to hire a full time person to stay with my mother. Thanks to obamacare and the raid of the medicare fund, we are stuck between a rock and a hard place. We cannot afford to hire someone to stay with her full time. We do not want to put her in a nursing home, as there is no doubt she will not last there longer than a couple of months. IF we put her in a nursing home, medicaid would kick in and cover it, after we sold her house and the proceeds of the sale were used up. She doesn't want to leave her home. I wonder how many other children of the elderly are now in the same situation as us? ME - please e-mail me at [email protected]. I am almost about to lose my job due to caring for my parents. Then we are shit out of luck. I have no bro or sis to help. No one. I am a freelance writer on the side and I'm writing an article about this. PLEASE send me a private e-mail - I don't need to know your identity I just want to go over the facts of your situation. NO ONE is talking about this stuff. I have a friend who quit their job to care for an elderly parent. Now that their parent has passed, they cannot find another job. That is why you have to put yourself before them. Take care of yourself first or you can't take care of them. This is what parents have to do with children. And put your foot down with her. Don't let her ruin you or your siblings life. Take care of her but don't let her control you and be unreasonable. She won't like it but that is just the way it is. You have become the parent now so act like one. If she can push you around she will keep doing this until there is nothing left of you. |
| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...and I watched Obama's speech in New Hampshire yesterday, dripping heavy with sarcasm like no other President in history; stuttering, claiming he SAVED Medicare. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21982181 Yeah, saved medicare by killing off all the elderly, the bastard. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 21982181 United States08/20/2012 12:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sell your mothers house, and build a room on your house for her. Take care of her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1290518 It's not the governments problem to take care of your family. Whats wrong with people. I know people in my church who have taken eldery people to live in their home to help them out. Until they are too sick to live at home or are a danger (starting fires or leaving to freeze to death outside) to themselves or children in your home, YOU should take care of your family. Thats what life is all about. Taking care of each other. Take care of your mother. Yes THIS since when is it someone else's responsibility to take care of someone's family?? 100 years ago people did it automatically Why is it everyone in this country feels ENTITLED in some way? The elderly think it is someone's responsibility to take care of them.... The poor think they are entitled to hand outs Take care of your own family how? How do you keep a job to keep a roof over your head and do full time care at the same time? Everybody thinks they have an answer. There is no answer. |
| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22161671 Sorry to tell you this but there will be a point at which your mother has no choice. Her health will fail as she gets older ... It is a good time now to sit her down and have a chat about it all.... She seems very filled with pride. We have talked to her doctors, and to a Social Worker. Unless my mother is deemed incompetant, there is nothing we can do. Then do nothing since she is so stubborn she won't listen to reason. Do what you can but until she gives in some let her deal with it. Stop enabling her and let her see how it is. I am going to have to do this soon with my stubborn mother. Sheesh, they become like little stubborn children. If she wants to live on her own then she will have to take everything that comes with it. Eventually they will break something and have to be put into a home or live with someone. It is crappy getting old but it must be dealt with and stubbornness is not the way to go. and soon your day will come. And your freedom and independence will be labeled "stubborness" - and you will be seen as a burden to all around you... The truth. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: tiger1 The slippery slope is well greased. The elite have no problems when it comes to medical needs, as they have the best care available to them. FTR, politicians are not forced into obamacare. They have their own insurance. If obamacare is good for the regular people, it should be good enough for them. Yes they should have the same insurance as the people who pay their paychecks. But they dont and they get away with it, they get away with anything they want, shame we have no say in nothing Maybe you could rent her a small studio, she would fell like it was hers and small enough so he could get around in it My brothers have tried the apartment deal in a retirement community, and she refused. We went down exactly the same road as you did ... and they refused everything we tried to do for them. We walked away finally. They lied, accused us of stealing, were nasty, and even when the office for the aged became involved wouldn't cooperate in any way. We can't even tell if they're paying their bills now. Almost certainly they aren't. They wanted us to become their patsies and be their slaves. Oh please we're so old. No we won't clean toilets and drive 2 hrs each way every time they needed a ride. No I don't do dishes for charity, especially when they could easily hire a maid. This is what you can look forward to. Get off the band wagon while you can. tsk tsk its the nursing home... and YOU leave the state before they can charge you for their care. The state is desperate for money. Anybody's money. After the money from her house runs out, which would not take very long, medicaid would kick in. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 21982181 United States08/20/2012 12:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...and I watched Obama's speech in New Hampshire yesterday, dripping heavy with sarcasm like no other President in history; stuttering, claiming he SAVED Medicare. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21982181 Yeah, saved medicare by killing off all the elderly, the bastard. I was off work Thurs and Fri to take my mom to a dr. Tomorrow is catscan. We decided to do it the hard way rather spend 12 hours suffering in an emergency room waiting for the illegals and knife stabbing, gunshot victims and drug OD'ers to get treatment before us. Tomorrow I tell my boss at the company I've been at for 8 years that I have to leave early again. He won't tolerate much more of that, he just wants someone at my desk working, and if I can't do it... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States08/20/2012 12:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22161671 Sorry to tell you this but there will be a point at which your mother has no choice. Her health will fail as she gets older ... It is a good time now to sit her down and have a chat about it all.... She seems very filled with pride. We have talked to her doctors, and to a Social Worker. Unless my mother is deemed incompetant, there is nothing we can do. Then do nothing since she is so stubborn she won't listen to reason. Do what you can but until she gives in some let her deal with it. Stop enabling her and let her see how it is. I am going to have to do this soon with my stubborn mother. Sheesh, they become like little stubborn children. If she wants to live on her own then she will have to take everything that comes with it. Eventually they will break something and have to be put into a home or live with someone. It is crappy getting old but it must be dealt with and stubbornness is not the way to go. If caring for her is enabling, then I will continue anyway. At least I will have a clear conscience, that I have done all that I can. Care for her but she is being unreasonable. And you are sounding like an enabler. But if you want to bust you butt for someone who really doesn't care if you get sick/have no life caring for them then go ahead. But I would put my foot down and either she moves in with you or a sibling or she has to fend for herself. My friend finally had to do this to her dad who is close to 90. His wife died and he lived an hour away and couldn't take care of himself. He did not want to leave but they put their foot down and made him move. She is old herself and couldn't deal with it all. He is happier now the decision is made and he is with them. It is not being mean to not let her have her way all the time. It is actually loving on your part to say NO. And to tell her what she is going to do. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 14788332 United States08/20/2012 12:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sell your mothers house, and build a room on your house for her. Take care of her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1290518 It's not the governments problem to take care of your family. Whats wrong with people. I know people in my church who have taken eldery people to live in their home to help them out. Until they are too sick to live at home or are a danger (starting fires or leaving to freeze to death outside) to themselves or children in your home, YOU should take care of your family. Thats what life is all about. Taking care of each other. Take care of your mother. Yes THIS since when is it someone else's responsibility to take care of someone's family?? 100 years ago people did it automatically Why is it everyone in this country feels ENTITLED in some way? The elderly think it is someone's responsibility to take care of them.... The poor think they are entitled to hand outs Take care of your own family And it is sick how children think they are entitled to care from parents also, right? Put the elders out like the folks up North, in the old days, to starve and freeze? Put the kids to work, like other places, right? You will never get old and still have your mind and desire a bit of life, right? |
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| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As of August 1st, Medicare drastically cut their covered services. As reported on the news, BILLIONS of dollars have been removed from the Medicare fund, and used for obamacare. Quoting: tiger1 Here is how it affects my mother; My mother is 89, and doing pretty good overall until earlier this year. She had a pacemaker put in, and subsequently developed congestive heart failure. She is now on oxygen 24/7. She probably only has 1-2 years left max, maybe less, because of the congestive heart failure. As of August 1st, her medicare coverage was drastically reduced, as it was also for millions of other people. She previously had a Therapist come in 1 day a week, a Nurse 2 days a week for a couple of hours, and a Home Health Aid for 2 hours, 2 days a week.Due to the medicare cuts, all she has now is the Nurse for 1 hour once a week, and the Home Health Aid for 2 hours, once a week. Myself, and one of my older brothers live relatively close by. We stop by frequently to her home(yes, she still lives in her own home), and check on her, cut the grass, rake the leaves, trim the bushes, take out garbage,do her laundry, etc. We really depended on the medical professionals to fill in the gaps, and now they have been taken away almost entirely. We are in a horrible situation.My mother is deteriorating, refuses to live with anyone, and her medical help is down to almost nothing. Financially, no one can really afford to hire a full time person to stay with my mother. Thanks to obamacare and the raid of the medicare fund, we are stuck between a rock and a hard place. We cannot afford to hire someone to stay with her full time. We do not want to put her in a nursing home, as there is no doubt she will not last there longer than a couple of months. IF we put her in a nursing home, medicaid would kick in and cover it, after we sold her house and the proceeds of the sale were used up. She doesn't want to leave her home. I wonder how many other children of the elderly are now in the same situation as us? ME - please e-mail me at [email protected]. I am almost about to lose my job due to caring for my parents. Then we are shit out of luck. I have no bro or sis to help. No one. I am a freelance writer on the side and I'm writing an article about this. PLEASE send me a private e-mail - I don't need to know your identity I just want to go over the facts of your situation. NO ONE is talking about this stuff. I have a friend who quit their job to care for an elderly parent. Now that their parent has passed, they cannot find another job. That is why you have to put yourself before them. Take care of yourself first or you can't take care of them. This is what parents have to do with children. And put your foot down with her. Don't let her ruin you or your siblings life. Take care of her but don't let her control you and be unreasonable. She won't like it but that is just the way it is. You have become the parent now so act like one. If she can push you around she will keep doing this until there is nothing left of you. There is nothing I can do with her. She is extremely independant, but yet is so dependant on others. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States08/20/2012 12:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...and I watched Obama's speech in New Hampshire yesterday, dripping heavy with sarcasm like no other President in history; stuttering, claiming he SAVED Medicare. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21982181 Yeah, saved medicare by killing off all the elderly, the bastard. I was off work Thurs and Fri to take my mom to a dr. Tomorrow is catscan. We decided to do it the hard way rather spend 12 hours suffering in an emergency room waiting for the illegals and knife stabbing, gunshot victims and drug OD'ers to get treatment before us. Tomorrow I tell my boss at the company I've been at for 8 years that I have to leave early again. He won't tolerate much more of that, he just wants someone at my desk working, and if I can't do it... Yes, you will lose your job. Hopefully your mom can support you if this happens. |
| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sell your mothers house, and build a room on your house for her. Take care of her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1290518 It's not the governments problem to take care of your family. Whats wrong with people. I know people in my church who have taken eldery people to live in their home to help them out. Until they are too sick to live at home or are a danger (starting fires or leaving to freeze to death outside) to themselves or children in your home, YOU should take care of your family. Thats what life is all about. Taking care of each other. Take care of your mother. Yes THIS since when is it someone else's responsibility to take care of someone's family?? 100 years ago people did it automatically Why is it everyone in this country feels ENTITLED in some way? The elderly think it is someone's responsibility to take care of them.... The poor think they are entitled to hand outs Take care of your own family how? How do you keep a job to keep a roof over your head and do full time care at the same time? Everybody thinks they have an answer. There is no answer. If i was wealthy, I could easily hire full time care for her, but, that is not the case. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1550123 United States08/20/2012 12:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21982181 ME - please e-mail me at [email protected]. I am almost about to lose my job due to caring for my parents. Then we are shit out of luck. I have no bro or sis to help. No one. I am a freelance writer on the side and I'm writing an article about this. PLEASE send me a private e-mail - I don't need to know your identity I just want to go over the facts of your situation. NO ONE is talking about this stuff. I have a friend who quit their job to care for an elderly parent. Now that their parent has passed, they cannot find another job. That is why you have to put yourself before them. Take care of yourself first or you can't take care of them. This is what parents have to do with children. And put your foot down with her. Don't let her ruin you or your siblings life. Take care of her but don't let her control you and be unreasonable. She won't like it but that is just the way it is. You have become the parent now so act like one. If she can push you around she will keep doing this until there is nothing left of you. There is nothing I can do with her. She is extremely independant, but yet is so dependant on others. You can lay it on the line and tell her you can't do this much anymore. That she is going to have to give in and meet you at least half way. Get ready for tough love or you can just let her run your life until she dies. I had to move a few states away from my mom because of work and she knows it is either assisted living for her or moving in with me. I cannot run down to see her at all because finances are tight now. It is rough but you have to do what is best for you. She is 90 years old and has lived a long life. She doesn't have the right to run anyone ragged. She needs to understand she is old and has to deal with it now. And you need to help her see this. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1517542 United States08/20/2012 12:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | sell your mothers house, and build a room on your house for her. Take care of her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1290518 It's not the governments problem to take care of your family. Whats wrong with people. I know people in my church who have taken eldery people to live in their home to help them out. Until they are too sick to live at home or are a danger (starting fires or leaving to freeze to death outside) to themselves or children in your home, YOU should take care of your family. Thats what life is all about. Taking care of each other. Take care of your mother. Yes THIS since when is it someone else's responsibility to take care of someone's family?? 100 years ago people did it automatically Why is it everyone in this country feels ENTITLED in some way? The elderly think it is someone's responsibility to take care of them.... The poor think they are entitled to hand outs Take care of your own family ENTITLED? She has been paying for medicare. It is not an entitlement like medicaid. yea, isnt medicare our money? |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19099851 United States08/20/2012 12:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I love how GLPers act so anti-government and hate "THE MAN" yet when their mothers need free healthcare they get upset when it isn't enough. Your mother shouldn't be living at home, at that state she SHOULD be in an assisted living facility - period. Its insane to complain because you aren't being given enough over the top free taxpayer benefits on this. Its only right that medicare would cover it after depleting her assets - you should pay for your own bills in this country. |
| tiger1 (OP) User ID: 6269153 United States08/20/2012 12:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: tiger1 I have a friend who quit their job to care for an elderly parent. Now that their parent has passed, they cannot find another job. That is why you have to put yourself before them. Take care of yourself first or you can't take care of them. This is what parents have to do with children. And put your foot down with her. Don't let her ruin you or your siblings life. Take care of her but don't let her control you and be unreasonable. She won't like it but that is just the way it is. You have become the parent now so act like one. If she can push you around she will keep doing this until there is nothing left of you. There is nothing I can do with her. She is extremely independant, but yet is so dependant on others. You can lay it on the line and tell her you can't do this much anymore. That she is going to have to give in and meet you at least half way. Get ready for tough love or you can just let her run your life until she dies. I had to move a few states away from my mom because of work and she knows it is either assisted living for her or moving in with me. I cannot run down to see her at all because finances are tight now. It is rough but you have to do what is best for you. She is 90 years old and has lived a long life. She doesn't have the right to run anyone ragged. She needs to understand she is old and has to deal with it now. And you need to help her see this. If we pull out on her, she will be dead in a week. I cannot live with that. Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow !!! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 21982181 United States08/20/2012 12:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I feel for your family Tiger... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16463130 Is there a way she can move in with you or a sibling? Does she have any other health issues other than CHF? Have you tried calling like a center for the aging or such? I took my grandfather in to live with me till he passed. Was the only choice we had outside of a nursing home... Which Was never gonna happen. It actually was a wonderful thing. He became more alive being around my kids. And my kids loved to listen to his stories. Best of luck for all of you. She refuses to live with anyone. She is also almost totally deaf, and legally blind. No one can help, unless we have the money to pay for it. There are no free services out there. yeah, when I had to leave work to check on my parents in the EXTREME heat, one of my bosses called and said "I don't understand what the problem is, can't you take them somewhere, why is the heat such a problem?" Well, let's see - I don't have CENTRAL AIR like you do. I had to buy a second window air conditioner, put it in myself, put up sheets, strategically place fans. Check my father who has COPD, Dementia, on O2 24/7 and make sure he didn't put his flannel jackets on - which he loves to do even in the heat. I had to keep them hydrated. There were no cooling centers open, and even if there were we didn't need one. I had a cool place for them but they need attention beyond sitting them in a cool room. Nobody gets it unless they live through it. Everybody thinks there's SOMEONE out there to help you. There is not; not without big bucks. |
