its unfortunate that you've had bad experiences with pot smokers OP :( i have a lot of pot smoking friends, and the conversations with them have always been really great. they're all into things like music, art, science, philosophy, politics, that kinda thing. when you're new to their group, they'll always offer some smoke to be polite, but they arent bothered if you decline. they dont really talk about smoking weed all the time either because they have more interesting things to talk about i guess.. and "unreliable" isnt a word i would use to describe them either. they're probably the most reliable friends i've ever had.