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| CrazyMama73 Offer Upgrade  User ID: 22659997  Canada08/27/2012 09:39 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This weekend my neighbor died. His little old wife came running in to our home asking for help. I ran over there, found him with out vital signs, hunched over his dining room table. They were just having dinner. His wife couldn't pick him up and place him on the floor and start CPR like the 911 report had told her. I some how managed to pick him up and place him on the floor and started compressions immediately. His face was already blue. I didn't stop CPR until after the paramedics arrived. I couldn't revive him. It is killing me. Yes he had four prior heart attacks and a shot load of medical issues. I had just redone my CPR and first aid course and it didn't help. I just feel awful that I got there too late. When does this crappy feeling go away?  CrazyMama73 |
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| CrazyMama73 (OP) User ID: 22659997 Canada08/27/2012 09:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I~m sorry you had to go through that Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16364203  The pain will ease in time. Remember his wife and what she must be going through also. You tried your best  She was so happy that I was there and that I acted and tried to help. The wife reminds me of my grandmother. They were going to celebrate their 60th anniversary next month. CrazyMama73 |
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| THE INQUISADOR TRUTH.. JUSTICE AND THE AMERICAN WAY User ID: 1577310 United States08/27/2012 09:44 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This weekend my neighbor died. His little old wife came running in to our home asking for help. I ran over there, found him with out vital signs, hunched over his dining room table. They were just having dinner. His wife couldn't pick him up and place him on the floor and start CPR like the 911 report had told her. I some how managed to pick him up and place him on the floor and started compressions immediately. His face was already blue. I didn't stop CPR until after the paramedics arrived. I couldn't revive him. It is killing me. Quoting: CrazyMama73 Yes he had four prior heart attacks and a shot load of medical issues. I had just redone my CPR and first aid course and it didn't help. I just feel awful that I got there too late. When does this crappy feeling go away? Life is life, and not yours to control, You tried your best. He is in a better place now.. THE INQUISADOR |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 20277007 United States08/27/2012 09:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This weekend my neighbor died. His little old wife came running in to our home asking for help. I ran over there, found him with out vital signs, hunched over his dining room table. They were just having dinner. His wife couldn't pick him up and place him on the floor and start CPR like the 911 report had told her. I some how managed to pick him up and place him on the floor and started compressions immediately. His face was already blue. I didn't stop CPR until after the paramedics arrived. I couldn't revive him. It is killing me. Quoting: CrazyMama73 Yes he had four prior heart attacks and a shot load of medical issues. I had just redone my CPR and first aid course and it didn't help. I just feel awful that I got there too late. When does this crappy feeling go away? if only everyone had neighbors like you..... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 564592 United States08/27/2012 09:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You seem to have done what you could and in no way is this your fault. You didn't fail to save him, he simple couldn't be saved. It's sad when people die and it will be around for a while, but unless he was a close personal friend of yours, you'll bounce back pretty fast. Don't feel bad about it either. You tried and that counts a lot. Be well. |
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| ArunaLuna ~(0)>(0)~ User ID: 898568 United States08/27/2012 09:49 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation |  The crappy feeling will go away when you realize his life wasn't really in your hands...but yours is...and you did a beautiful thing...most likely your presence that day was vital for his widow. I imagine she's probably grateful for not having been alone for the whole event until the paramedics arrived. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 16364203 Australia08/27/2012 09:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I~m sorry you had to go through that Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16364203 The pain will ease in time. Remember his wife and what she must be going through also. You tried your best She was so happy that I was there and that I acted and tried to help. The wife reminds me of my grandmother. They were going to celebrate their 60th anniversary next month. Aww poor old darling. 60 yrs is an amazing length of time to be married. They were soul mates for sure. Just check in on her now and again to make sure she is alright, plus it will help you mend also. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 18335718 United States08/27/2012 09:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Was an EMT for years, and unfortunately not everyone is able to be saved. You did your best, in a time of distress. Thank you for giving all you had. Be there for the widow now, she will need all the love and support you can give, and it will help you in the long run! |
| CrazyMama73 (OP) User ID: 22659997 Canada08/27/2012 09:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I~m sorry you had to go through that Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16364203 The pain will ease in time. Remember his wife and what she must be going through also. You tried your best She was so happy that I was there and that I acted and tried to help. The wife reminds me of my grandmother. They were going to celebrate their 60th anniversary next month. Aww poor old darling. 60 yrs is an amazing length of time to be married. They were soul mates for sure. Just check in on her now and again to make sure she is alright, plus it will help you mend also. I promised her I would. I couldn't imagine spending that much time with the same person and now having to do it alone. CrazyMama73 |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 16364203 Australia08/27/2012 09:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I~m sorry you had to go through that Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16364203 The pain will ease in time. Remember his wife and what she must be going through also. You tried your best She was so happy that I was there and that I acted and tried to help. The wife reminds me of my grandmother. They were going to celebrate their 60th anniversary next month. Aww poor old darling. 60 yrs is an amazing length of time to be married. They were soul mates for sure. Just check in on her now and again to make sure she is alright, plus it will help you mend also. I promised her I would. I couldn't imagine spending that much time with the same person and now having to do it alone. I~m glad you will be, it will mean alot to her also that you are there. I~ve been with my hubby 20 yrs, couldn`t imagine my life without him. I wouldn`t know where to start. Has she got family that are close by for support. Also support for you would be on the cards. Alot of people don`t know what it is like to have someone die in your arms. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 18972829  Germany08/27/2012 10:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This weekend my neighbor died. His little old wife came running in to our home asking for help. I ran over there, found him with out vital signs, hunched over his dining room table. They were just having dinner. His wife couldn't pick him up and place him on the floor and start CPR like the 911 report had told her. I some how managed to pick him up and place him on the floor and started compressions immediately. His face was already blue. I didn't stop CPR until after the paramedics arrived. I couldn't revive him. It is killing me. Quoting: CrazyMama73 Yes he had four prior heart attacks and a shot load of medical issues. I had just redone my CPR and first aid course and it didn't help. I just feel awful that I got there too late. When does this crappy feeling go away? YOU are not God. Understand your limitations. |
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| CrazyMama73 (OP) User ID: 22659997 Canada08/27/2012 10:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: CrazyMama73 She was so happy that I was there and that I acted and tried to help. The wife reminds me of my grandmother. They were going to celebrate their 60th anniversary next month. Aww poor old darling. 60 yrs is an amazing length of time to be married. They were soul mates for sure. Just check in on her now and again to make sure she is alright, plus it will help you mend also. I promised her I would. I couldn't imagine spending that much time with the same person and now having to do it alone. I~m glad you will be, it will mean alot to her also that you are there. I~ve been with my hubby 20 yrs, couldn`t imagine my life without him. I wouldn`t know where to start. Has she got family that are close by for support. Also support for you would be on the cards. Alot of people don`t know what it is like to have someone die in your arms. She does have family that are close but live far from her. I told her son I would be here for her. He thanked me for being their with her during everything. As for me, my husband has been comforting and supportive. CrazyMama73 |
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| AtsuiPanda o.o User ID: 16510251 United States08/27/2012 10:06 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This weekend my neighbor died. His little old wife came running in to our home asking for help. I ran over there, found him with out vital signs, hunched over his dining room table. They were just having dinner. His wife couldn't pick him up and place him on the floor and start CPR like the 911 report had told her. I some how managed to pick him up and place him on the floor and started compressions immediately. His face was already blue. I didn't stop CPR until after the paramedics arrived. I couldn't revive him. It is killing me. Quoting: CrazyMama73 Yes he had four prior heart attacks and a shot load of medical issues. I had just redone my CPR and first aid course and it didn't help. I just feel awful that I got there too late. When does this crappy feeling go away? Damn.. sorry you had to experience that shouldnt blame your self tho you did try and thats all you can do ): :grouphug:  If you're going through hell, keep going. "Dude sucking at something is the first step to becoming sorta good at something - Jake the dog" However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them? Buddha |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 16364203 Australia08/27/2012 10:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16364203 Aww poor old darling. 60 yrs is an amazing length of time to be married. They were soul mates for sure. Just check in on her now and again to make sure she is alright, plus it will help you mend also. I promised her I would. I couldn't imagine spending that much time with the same person and now having to do it alone. I~m glad you will be, it will mean alot to her also that you are there. I~ve been with my hubby 20 yrs, couldn`t imagine my life without him. I wouldn`t know where to start. Has she got family that are close by for support. Also support for you would be on the cards. Alot of people don`t know what it is like to have someone die in your arms. She does have family that are close but live far from her. I told her son I would be here for her. He thanked me for being their with her during everything. As for me, my husband has been comforting and supportive. THats good to know OP. You both take care of each other. Wish there were more people like you around |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 14788332 United States08/27/2012 10:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I~m sorry you had to go through that Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16364203 The pain will ease in time. Remember his wife and what she must be going through also. You tried your best She was so happy that I was there and that I acted and tried to help. The wife reminds me of my grandmother. They were going to celebrate their 60th anniversary next month. Aww poor old darling. 60 yrs is an amazing length of time to be married. They were soul mates for sure. Just check in on her now and again to make sure she is alright, plus it will help you mend also. What a nice reply. I say same. Helping her will ease the pain, I agree. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 16364203 Australia08/27/2012 10:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I~m sorry you had to go through that Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16364203 The pain will ease in time. Remember his wife and what she must be going through also. You tried your best She was so happy that I was there and that I acted and tried to help. The wife reminds me of my grandmother. They were going to celebrate their 60th anniversary next month. Aww poor old darling. 60 yrs is an amazing length of time to be married. They were soul mates for sure. Just check in on her now and again to make sure she is alright, plus it will help you mend also. What a nice reply. I say same. Helping her will ease the pain, I agree. |
