My boyfriend says he is dumping me

I don't want to be too judgemental here....but i cringed a bit when I saw that line too J-Honey

haha, you dumb bitch.

Better than him "Dumping ON you"


PS...you have a trashy user name...

Move on. ....

Sometimes relationships just don't work out.

People change.
Circumstances change.
People get tired of same old same old.
People's mental health changes.
People's health changes.

It is sad when one party still wants to make it work and the other one doesn't, but that is part of life ... unfortunately.

Marriage OF OLD (not today) was a bond that kept people together during those times ... and hopefully people would grow close again, though we KNOW that usually that usually did NOT HAPPEN and often they would just come to hate each other and be tapped in the relationship at the same time.

You can try to repair the relationship, but IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO, ... and if it proves to be unrepairable you WILL be able to grieve and then eventually move on.

Best of luck

I don't think there is 'a test' for bi-polar. But those drugs they dish out will kill you! - Even if slowly (if you were healthy to start with)

He was probably 'a case' anyhow, but I would leave anyone that wanted me drugged.

Maybe he feels you ran his son off..so now he is paying you back by leaving.

Honestly, you are way too sheltered and coddled to know much of a shit about anything.

Are you hanging on for the money? I'm asking this because I'm in the same situation. 100% V.A. and SSDI. It can be attractive to some.

sounds like you both have problems... he may have made the right decision for you both.. before things get out of hand.

30 yrs ols and 4 fucking thousand a month?????

He needs a real Thor hammer no plastic ones but Hes headed in the right direction. [link to www.swordsdirect.com]

At least he's honest and isn't stringing you along.

He is no longer needy and broken....doesn't need you anymore. With that much money and benefits, he can get a girl much younger than he is, where he could not before. He wants a fresher younger thing.....she'll dump him after she can get all she wants from him... so typical.

I think I've posted in like 2 threads that you've ever posted in?

What's wrong with calling a 16 year old a 'brat'? You didn't even inquire as to what the kid's actions were to warrant such a designation from the OP, before judging her... For all you know he lies/steals/disobeys/gets violent.... Some teenagers are absolute terrors.... Don't believe me, tune into A&E channel and catch an episode of Beyond Scared Straight.

Certainly there may be some control issues with the OP but that doesn't mean she's picking on this guy's son for no reason... He may very well have earned the designation.... Doesn't hurt to ask before assuming does it?

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mans is pigs oink

I took a 16 yr old in last year.. and to show me how grateful he was.. he robbed me..

My spidey sense was a - tingling reading the op. Maybe I read it wrong, but what I got out of it was she nagged him to get max benefits, nagged him to get a better house, thought of his son as a brat, so probably nagged him about that a lot,son didnt like her so left, and her b/f knows who is to blame.
Sorry op to sound so negative here, but there are always two sides to every story, and I have found with experience that when someone goes on and on about how great they are but the guy is dumping them, there is usually more to the story. As for the bi-polar, he probably left over that too. He doesn't have bi-polar. If he did you would have gone into a bit more detail about it. When talking about your sainthoodedness in the relationship, you would have told us how hard it was for you to live with someone that was having dangerous mood swings, sudden bursts of anger or suicidal depression. But all you had to say on that front was he spent money (that he earned, not you) on things you did not approve of. So you nagged his dr to medicate him, then nagged him to take those meds. ya see what I mean? what you didnt say speaks more than what you did.

People that get wounded in wars are heroes.

I feel sorry for you and the soldier.

Yup, plus she gets her own personal space & freedom back!

Sounds like he did the right thing. Men are not pets.
And you my dear sound like a control freak. Control is not LOVE. You are sad for the dog but not the son? Women like you are doomed to be angry and alone weather you are with a man or not. You called his shrink because he stood up for himself? Shame on you. Vanity is your is your portion, I hope you enjoy yourself. Next time try listening, oh and living together before marriage is a bad move. Ask the dog.

I agree with this assessment.

Not only that, but as soon as a woman says "I was the best thing to ever happen to him", you can be SURE you're only getting one side of the story.

His PTSD sounds like it is kicking in. When that happens it is hard to control even with the meds (or without) One tries to control things that are beyond thier control, (his 16 yr old) ect. And you then start to have to walk on eggshells around him. Yes he needs help, but you may not be the one to help him, sorry to say that. Best wishes and prayers your way.

That is terrible. Hope you find a new one in 10 minutes.

Party, like it's 1969.

There's sdomething really glaring in your post OP. He was likely much happier with the $1200/month. All that other money he received is most likely the seed of your relationship's destruction. It changed him and it changed you.

You have the feeling that you rescued him from himself and he has the feeling that life was richer before the easy money rolled in.

Alot of guys do well with new structure (or a leader) in their lives. Even those guys have to have their ego's validated once in a while. Chances are, you held on to the "look what I did for you attitude" and he might have held that against you.

I don't want to sound mean but some women want to wear the dick in the relationship. Once certain men feel they are no longer the "man" in the relationship they move along. He was probably being mean to you because he was already distant and had his mind made up.

Try not to get involved with a tit for tat break up or jealousy or blame. Allow him his distance and see what happens...don't wait for him to change and don't promise him you'll change. That just leads to torment and misery unless you are both willing to try.

Since he walked out like that without including you in any plans...he's not going to be willing any time soon.

Stick with your other firends and try not to rehash your relationship over and over...everything works our for a reason.

and 50K???