Godlike Productions - Conspiracy Forum
Users Online Now: 3,138 (Who's On?)Visitors Today: 1,557,896
Pageviews Today: 2,124,211Threads Today: 460Posts Today: 8,078
02:19 PM


Rate this Thread

Absolute BS Crap Reasonable Nice Amazing
 

I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.

 
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 24034692
United States
09/20/2012 01:08 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
He will be a president someday
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 10363614


She might. She is scary intelligent and extremely resilient, and will never relinquish her will for ANYONE.
 Quoting: Salt


Sorry, but why would you want her to relinquish her will? Why do you allow your peers to convince you that your child has a mental illness because your child refuses to allow herself to be BROKEN...like a dog?

Not "giving in" is survival. You should be proud that your child is strong...

Obviously children who are born to be leaders/survivors are much more "difficult" to be "managed".... because they don't need "managing"... only support, nurture, and positive reinforcement. It is difficult to sit back and have faith in our children and watch them try, fail, learn, try again...without interrupting them or trying to get them to do things how we/popular culture "thinks" they should.

Protect your child from the world. Don't try to break this child. Broken children become the victims... sexualized/abused/abandoned by the depraved vultures...

I hope you heed my words. I hope you embrace your daughter/her individuality, find out what she loves and enjoys and help her open doors to those skills/activities. On that note... when your child is acting out, if you sit down and do an honest analysis--you'll probably find that you are not having your daughter be engaged/challenged enough through physical and mental activities.

She will probably be a leader, a survivor and not a victim.... if she doesn't finally get broken by you and the bandit of lunatic fringe doctors that you've allowed to lead you astray.

A dominant/submissive parenting-child relationship is not how childrearing is intended... unless you're a slave trying to raise a slave for a master...

Think about it.
Light to Go

User ID: 8545334
United States
09/20/2012 01:11 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Don't know how bad it is for you. I would try to get your child on a health diet, eliminate the sugar, flouride, aspartame, wheat, etc. Do nature walks, connect with beauty. Don't have stimuli like violent video games or tv that promote violence. Have the child meditate, create by painting or building. Set boundaries, seek help from someone experience with child behaviour problems. Meditate yourself and find peace within, send love orbs to the child when he/she is acting out. Seek out spirituality and connect with source. Peace, Love and Joy to you and your child.
Truth Seeker
A Predatory Species of Human Animals Have Created A System That Gives Them Power & Control Over All Others.
"Eugenics is their signature, bureaucracy their cover" - John Lash
"The United States Congress is Israeli occupied territory" Patrick Buchanan

What is your agenda? Here's mine...
END DUPLICITY-Explore the Narrative

Gaia-Sophia's Correction
Gaiaspora.org
Anonymous Coward (OP)
User ID: 21291600
United States
09/20/2012 01:14 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
He will be a president someday
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 10363614


She might. She is scary intelligent and extremely resilient, and will never relinquish her will for ANYONE.
 Quoting: Salt


Sorry, but why would you want her to relinquish her will? Why do you allow your peers to convince you that your child has a mental illness because your child refuses to allow herself to be BROKEN...like a dog?

Not "giving in" is survival. You should be proud that your child is strong...

Obviously children who are born to be leaders/survivors are much more "difficult" to be "managed".... because they don't need "managing"... only support, nurture, and positive reinforcement. It is difficult to sit back and have faith in our children and watch them try, fail, learn, try again...without interrupting them or trying to get them to do things how we/popular culture "thinks" they should.

Protect your child from the world. Don't try to break this child. Broken children become the victims... sexualized/abused/abandoned by the depraved vultures...

I hope you heed my words. I hope you embrace your daughter/her individuality, find out what she loves and enjoys and help her open doors to those skills/activities. On that note... when your child is acting out, if you sit down and do an honest analysis--you'll probably find that you are not having your daughter be engaged/challenged enough through physical and mental activities.

She will probably be a leader, a survivor and not a victim.... if she doesn't finally get broken by you and the bandit of lunatic fringe doctors that you've allowed to lead you astray.

A dominant/submissive parenting-child relationship is not how childrearing is intended... unless you're a slave trying to raise a slave for a master...

Think about it.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24034692


wow, you posted without reading thru the thread, huh.

i already said that i have no desire to disempower my child, nor do i want to break her will like a dog.

she is a leader.

but there is a big difference when she makes choices that hurt herself on a daily basis.

i want to protect and enrich my child. not break her down.

go back and read. you are making snap judgments just like the other jerk that i recently banned.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 23956675
United States
09/20/2012 01:21 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
As im typing i sit with a loaded gun!
My bipolar/adhd daughter hooked up with a crazy,aryan-brotherhood man that kidnapped her 4 hours ago from Kaufman county,Texas and took her to Dallas.


Police found both of them and she is ok but let me re-cap my day....7am this morning my daughter calls me after he beat her and took most of her meds from her(for his own use.)My daughter then calls her girlfriend for help and she goes and finds her and the apartment all messed up.

She want call police on this man because she has warrants and very affraid of this man,this nut has blown-up my phone and daughters girlfriends phone all day.

He tracks her down at the friends home and gets her close enough ta grab and throw into his truck,then takes off.

She want file charges on him for what he has done and she is off to jail for her warrants and looks like he will walk free tonight.

Im raising her oldest daughter which is on meds for adhd,i just cant handle all this crazy drama from her anymore!
Im almost 50 and my nerves are shot!

Its one thing after another,i just want to run away and never,ever see this woman(my daughter)ever again!

If my grandchild is gonna be anything like her mother? Just shoot me and get it over with!

Oh,cops just called me back,he walked.
GALonFire4TheLord

User ID: 1719055
United States
09/20/2012 01:26 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
I agree the very dangerous choices and all the pain this has caused him helped me make the choice. I love my son so much and have done everything! I don't vaccinate, he eats healthy, no aspartame, TV is VERY limited and I don't like video games at all. I did everything and anything... This was the last straw I didn't want him to continue to hurt himself... and be an outcast. People thought he was bad and other kids were annoyed with him and it hurt me to see him go though this as well. Now he makes better choices.. This has made him think things though all the way and not be so impulsive as well as pay attention..and be sensitive to other kids and adults feeling to where other kids are wanting to play with him! He had nobody that wanted to be his friend and didn't know why kids would tell him to go away. It had me in tears!.... I know eventually he won't need it at all.
GAL
Anonymous Coward (OP)
User ID: 21291600
United States
09/20/2012 01:28 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
I agree the very dangerous choices and all the pain this has caused him helped me make the choice. I love my son so much and have done everything! I don't vaccinate, he eats healthy, no aspartame, TV is VERY limited and I don't like video games at all. I did everything and anything... This was the last straw I didn't want him to continue to hurt himself... and be an outcast. People thought he was bad and other kids were annoyed with him and it hurt me to see him go though this as well. Now he makes better choices.. This has made him think things though all the way and not be so impulsive as well as pay attention..and be sensitive to other kids and adults feeling to where other kids are wanting to play with him! He had nobody that wanted to be his friend and didn't know why kids would tell him to go away. It had me in tears!.... I know eventually he won't need it at all.
 Quoting: GALonFire4TheLord


the best thing we can do is set clear boundaries and expectations, set clear rewards and consequences, keep our cool at all times, take emotions out of it completely, and always always always praise the good behaviors, even the tiny ones.

these kids cannot problem solve like normal kids.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 8083438
United States
09/20/2012 01:28 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
As im typing i sit with a loaded gun!
My bipolar/adhd daughter hooked up with a crazy,aryan-brotherhood man that kidnapped her 4 hours ago from Kaufman county,Texas and took her to Dallas.


Police found both of them and she is ok but let me re-cap my day....7am this morning my daughter calls me after he beat her and took most of her meds from her(for his own use.)My daughter then calls her girlfriend for help and she goes and finds her and the apartment all messed up.

She want call police on this man because she has warrants and very affraid of this man,this nut has blown-up my phone and daughters girlfriends phone all day.

He tracks her down at the friends home and gets her close enough ta grab and throw into his truck,then takes off.

She want file charges on him for what he has done and she is off to jail for her warrants and looks like he will walk free tonight.

Im raising her oldest daughter which is on meds for adhd,i just cant handle all this crazy drama from her anymore!
Im almost 50 and my nerves are shot!

Its one thing after another,i just want to run away and never,ever see this woman(my daughter)ever again!

If my grandchild is gonna be anything like her mother? Just shoot me and get it over with!

Oh,cops just called me back,he walked.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23956675


gasp
Anonymous Coward (OP)
User ID: 21291600
United States
09/20/2012 01:29 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
As im typing i sit with a loaded gun!
My bipolar/adhd daughter hooked up with a crazy,aryan-brotherhood man that kidnapped her 4 hours ago from Kaufman county,Texas and took her to Dallas.


Police found both of them and she is ok but let me re-cap my day....7am this morning my daughter calls me after he beat her and took most of her meds from her(for his own use.)My daughter then calls her girlfriend for help and she goes and finds her and the apartment all messed up.

She want call police on this man because she has warrants and very affraid of this man,this nut has blown-up my phone and daughters girlfriends phone all day.

He tracks her down at the friends home and gets her close enough ta grab and throw into his truck,then takes off.

She want file charges on him for what he has done and she is off to jail for her warrants and looks like he will walk free tonight.

Im raising her oldest daughter which is on meds for adhd,i just cant handle all this crazy drama from her anymore!
Im almost 50 and my nerves are shot!

Its one thing after another,i just want to run away and never,ever see this woman(my daughter)ever again!

If my grandchild is gonna be anything like her mother? Just shoot me and get it over with!

Oh,cops just called me back,he walked.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23956675


well, if the granddaughter gets help now, everything will be fine.

the drama is exhausting, i know. but, when they are grown, you have done what you can, and you can detach in a healthy way and let their own chips fall where they may.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 8083438
United States
09/20/2012 01:33 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
I agree the very dangerous choices and all the pain this has caused him helped me make the choice. I love my son so much and have done everything! I don't vaccinate, he eats healthy, no aspartame, TV is VERY limited and I don't like video games at all. I did everything and anything... This was the last straw I didn't want him to continue to hurt himself... and be an outcast. People thought he was bad and other kids were annoyed with him and it hurt me to see him go though this as well. Now he makes better choices.. This has made him think things though all the way and not be so impulsive as well as pay attention..and be sensitive to other kids and adults feeling to where other kids are wanting to play with him! He had nobody that wanted to be his friend and didn't know why kids would tell him to go away. It had me in tears!.... I know eventually he won't need it at all.
 Quoting: GALonFire4TheLord


I think that's a bit hypocritical. No vaccinations, and no evil aspartame, but oh, you guys want to give him these powerful drugs that will zombify him? No problemo!

What these kids need is a dad that will do his job, not drugs.
Anonymous Coward (OP)
User ID: 21291600
United States
09/20/2012 01:34 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
I agree the very dangerous choices and all the pain this has caused him helped me make the choice. I love my son so much and have done everything! I don't vaccinate, he eats healthy, no aspartame, TV is VERY limited and I don't like video games at all. I did everything and anything... This was the last straw I didn't want him to continue to hurt himself... and be an outcast. People thought he was bad and other kids were annoyed with him and it hurt me to see him go though this as well. Now he makes better choices.. This has made him think things though all the way and not be so impulsive as well as pay attention..and be sensitive to other kids and adults feeling to where other kids are wanting to play with him! He had nobody that wanted to be his friend and didn't know why kids would tell him to go away. It had me in tears!.... I know eventually he won't need it at all.
 Quoting: GALonFire4TheLord


I think that's a bit hypocritical. No vaccinations, and no evil aspartame, but oh, you guys want to give him these powerful drugs that will zombify him? No problemo!

What these kids need is a dad that will do his job, not drugs.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8083438


do not mistake the effects of street drugs with appropriate physician prescribed medication.

my daughter is NOT zombiefied.

her brain chemistry is corrected. there is no side effect and she doesnt get high or sedated from it.
GALonFire4TheLord

User ID: 1719055
United States
09/20/2012 01:36 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Oh agreed. He has his chart and has never been able to get so much stickers as he does now! He is so proud of himself and I am too! I would always praise him for good behavior but then 2 min later he would be totally different.... He loves school and is ahead since he just keeps on wanting to do more. I let him and before it was a struggle! His handwriting is a lot better as well. I really appreciate this thread Salt! I wish I could send you a PM but it won't let me. Anyways I hope this thread will help many who have a wrong view of this or are going through the same things.
GAL
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 23956675
United States
09/20/2012 01:37 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Just got off the phone with one of the friends that filed a report of this evening events,the asshole called him back and told him he had 3 hours ta live for getting his (PUSSY) throw in jail.

Update on the correct gang he is in(scorpions).

The friend called the police again from the nuts threats,maybe they will get him picked up tonight.
Anonymous Coward (OP)
User ID: 21291600
United States
09/20/2012 01:38 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Oh agreed. He has his chart and has never been able to get so much stickers as he does now! He is so proud of himself and I am too! I would always praise him for good behavior but then 2 min later he would be totally different.... He loves school and is ahead since he just keeps on wanting to do more. I let him and before it was a struggle! His handwriting is a lot better as well. I really appreciate this thread Salt! I wish I could send you a PM but it won't let me. Anyways I hope this thread will help many who have a wrong view of this or are going through the same things.
 Quoting: GALonFire4TheLord


hf

it is important to praise every single positive thing they do, even if they were rotten and hateful just moments before or moments after.

important.
GALonFire4TheLord

User ID: 1719055
United States
09/20/2012 01:38 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
I agree the very dangerous choices and all the pain this has caused him helped me make the choice. I love my son so much and have done everything! I don't vaccinate, he eats healthy, no aspartame, TV is VERY limited and I don't like video games at all. I did everything and anything... This was the last straw I didn't want him to continue to hurt himself... and be an outcast. People thought he was bad and other kids were annoyed with him and it hurt me to see him go though this as well. Now he makes better choices.. This has made him think things though all the way and not be so impulsive as well as pay attention..and be sensitive to other kids and adults feeling to where other kids are wanting to play with him! He had nobody that wanted to be his friend and didn't know why kids would tell him to go away. It had me in tears!.... I know eventually he won't need it at all.
 Quoting: GALonFire4TheLord


I think that's a bit hypocritical. No vaccinations, and no evil aspartame, but oh, you guys want to give him these powerful drugs that will zombify him? No problemo!

What these kids need is a dad that will do his job, not drugs.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8083438


What I was saying is that I tried everything that I thought could be the problem. NOTHING worked... My husband is a great dad and does his job thank you for your suggestion. :)
GAL
Anonymous Coward (OP)
User ID: 21291600
United States
09/20/2012 01:39 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
i praise my daughter every time she uses manners, every time she gets ready for school without melting down, every time she carries her dinner plate to the table, every time she is sweet to the dog, etc etc.

she told me she was sorry that she forgot to put her dirty clothes in the laundry basket this morning (she really did forget this time) and i fell all over the place praising her for being truly apologetic.
PravdaDemocrat

User ID: 19228212
United States
09/20/2012 01:40 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
I know that this is entirely politcally-incorrect, but I would suggest a large wooden paddle, or a hickory switch, if it isn't too late.

You have to accustom children to discipline, and the realization that actions have consequences, at an early age, or it is just too late.
Anonymous Coward (OP)
User ID: 21291600
United States
09/20/2012 01:40 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
I know that this is entirely politcally-incorrect, but I would suggest a large wooden paddle, or a hickory switch, if it isn't too late.

You have to accustom children to discipline, and the realization that actions have consequences, at an early age, or it is just too late.
 Quoting: PravdaDemocrat


sigh...
GALonFire4TheLord

User ID: 1719055
United States
09/20/2012 01:41 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Yes it is! hf
GAL
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 24034692
United States
09/20/2012 01:45 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
He will be a president someday
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 10363614


She might. She is scary intelligent and extremely resilient, and will never relinquish her will for ANYONE.
 Quoting: Salt


Sorry, but why would you want her to relinquish her will? Why do you allow your peers to convince you that your child has a mental illness because your child refuses to allow herself to be BROKEN...like a dog?

Not "giving in" is survival. You should be proud that your child is strong...

Obviously children who are born to be leaders/survivors are much more "difficult" to be "managed".... because they don't need "managing"... only support, nurture, and positive reinforcement. It is difficult to sit back and have faith in our children and watch them try, fail, learn, try again...without interrupting them or trying to get them to do things how we/popular culture "thinks" they should.

Protect your child from the world. Don't try to break this child. Broken children become the victims... sexualized/abused/abandoned by the depraved vultures...

I hope you heed my words. I hope you embrace your daughter/her individuality, find out what she loves and enjoys and help her open doors to those skills/activities. On that note... when your child is acting out, if you sit down and do an honest analysis--you'll probably find that you are not having your daughter be engaged/challenged enough through physical and mental activities.

She will probably be a leader, a survivor and not a victim.... if she doesn't finally get broken by you and the bandit of lunatic fringe doctors that you've allowed to lead you astray.

A dominant/submissive parenting-child relationship is not how childrearing is intended... unless you're a slave trying to raise a slave for a master...

Think about it.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24034692


wow, you posted without reading thru the thread, huh.

i already said that i have no desire to disempower my child, nor do i want to break her will like a dog.

she is a leader.

but there is a big difference when she makes choices that hurt herself on a daily basis.

i want to protect and enrich my child. not break her down.

go back and read. you are making snap judgments just like the other jerk that i recently banned.
 Quoting: Salt


Who is making snap judgements with the name calling and the insinuated threats of a ban?

We may not desire to disempower our children, but your error may lie in the biases that naturally come from being raised yourself in a different time. What we think "is best" and will "protect" our child may not be so.

I never said you WANTED to break your child "like a dog." I drew the parallel and left it as an open-ended question. All the words you are using to describe this child indicates that there is some desire for her to "submit."

Not saying youre a bad parent, just urging you to move away from this idea that your child has a mental illness because she has a strong will. The things you describe so far make it sound like treating your child like she is mentally abnormal is not improving her behavior/your relationship with her.

Constantly trying to get these kids to obey is usually what causes all the other behaviors... and their turning into drug users/sexual deviants is usually them self-medicating/coping BECAUSE they have no one to understand/accept them.

Take it or leave it... but I'm far from a jerk nor am I "blaming" you.

Show me/explain the pathophysiology of this ODD, and I'll concede, otherwise please dont take it personal that I am rejecting the premise of your position based on the first 3 pages of the thread versus reading all 5.
Anonymous Coward (OP)
User ID: 21291600
United States
09/20/2012 01:47 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
...


She might. She is scary intelligent and extremely resilient, and will never relinquish her will for ANYONE.
 Quoting: Salt


Sorry, but why would you want her to relinquish her will? Why do you allow your peers to convince you that your child has a mental illness because your child refuses to allow herself to be BROKEN...like a dog?

Not "giving in" is survival. You should be proud that your child is strong...

Obviously children who are born to be leaders/survivors are much more "difficult" to be "managed".... because they don't need "managing"... only support, nurture, and positive reinforcement. It is difficult to sit back and have faith in our children and watch them try, fail, learn, try again...without interrupting them or trying to get them to do things how we/popular culture "thinks" they should.

Protect your child from the world. Don't try to break this child. Broken children become the victims... sexualized/abused/abandoned by the depraved vultures...

I hope you heed my words. I hope you embrace your daughter/her individuality, find out what she loves and enjoys and help her open doors to those skills/activities. On that note... when your child is acting out, if you sit down and do an honest analysis--you'll probably find that you are not having your daughter be engaged/challenged enough through physical and mental activities.

She will probably be a leader, a survivor and not a victim.... if she doesn't finally get broken by you and the bandit of lunatic fringe doctors that you've allowed to lead you astray.

A dominant/submissive parenting-child relationship is not how childrearing is intended... unless you're a slave trying to raise a slave for a master...

Think about it.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24034692


wow, you posted without reading thru the thread, huh.

i already said that i have no desire to disempower my child, nor do i want to break her will like a dog.

she is a leader.

but there is a big difference when she makes choices that hurt herself on a daily basis.

i want to protect and enrich my child. not break her down.

go back and read. you are making snap judgments just like the other jerk that i recently banned.
 Quoting: Salt


Who is making snap judgements with the name calling and the insinuated threats of a ban?

We may not desire to disempower our children, but your error may lie in the biases that naturally come from being raised yourself in a different time. What we think "is best" and will "protect" our child may not be so.

I never said you WANTED to break your child "like a dog." I drew the parallel and left it as an open-ended question. All the words you are using to describe this child indicates that there is some desire for her to "submit."

Not saying youre a bad parent, just urging you to move away from this idea that your child has a mental illness because she has a strong will. The things you describe so far make it sound like treating your child like she is mentally abnormal is not improving her behavior/your relationship with her.

Constantly trying to get these kids to obey is usually what causes all the other behaviors... and their turning into drug users/sexual deviants is usually them self-medicating/coping BECAUSE they have no one to understand/accept them.

Take it or leave it... but I'm far from a jerk nor am I "blaming" you.

Show me/explain the pathophysiology of this ODD, and I'll concede, otherwise please dont take it personal that I am rejecting the premise of your position based on the first 3 pages of the thread versus reading all 5.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24034692


oh i didnt thoroughly search for the right answer for my daughter. i just pulled the first thing that sounded easy right outta my ass. i did no research, felt no urgency, or really didn't give much of a shit what happens to her, as long as i am comfortable and she falls in line and i really don't have to put any work into being a mother.

/sarcasm
Hellena Handbasket

User ID: 1439176
United States
09/20/2012 02:06 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Salt,

Some people just never get it.
They just don't.

I think that is called "concrete thinking".. or, maybe its just lack of insight or else their brain synap function is very low firing.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 8083438
United States
09/20/2012 02:14 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
i praise my daughter every time she uses manners, every time she gets ready for school without melting down, every time she carries her dinner plate to the table, every time she is sweet to the dog, etc etc.

she told me she was sorry that she forgot to put her dirty clothes in the laundry basket this morning (she really did forget this time) and i fell all over the place praising her for being truly apologetic.
 Quoting: Salt


Oh hell, this would drive me nuts if my mom acted this way towards me.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 11995984
United States
09/20/2012 02:16 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Someone's opinion. See 50 doctors get 50 different opinions.

No real proof such a thing exists.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23970153


wrong.
 Quoting: Salt


ik a whole family that deals w/this..they're mixed German and Native American ..i believe Germans have it worst but controllable where the Indian in them wants to explode after yrs of being free then all of the sudden ...NOT! my take as i have a bit of one of these, but i'm quite more calm and calculating until something triggers that pisses me off :D

other then that ik what you're going through..living w/adults that have it is VERY taxing as well!
PravdaDemocrat

User ID: 19228212
United States
09/20/2012 02:16 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
i praise my daughter every time she uses manners, every time she gets ready for school without melting down, every time she carries her dinner plate to the table, every time she is sweet to the dog, etc etc.

she told me she was sorry that she forgot to put her dirty clothes in the laundry basket this morning (she really did forget this time) and i fell all over the place praising her for being truly apologetic.
 Quoting: Salt


Oh hell, this would drive me nuts if my mom acted this way towards me.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8083438


Exactly... At a young age, I would have kept pushing the envelope to see how much I could get away with...
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 21363812
Canada
09/20/2012 02:31 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Hello Salt,

I have not read thru the entire thread but I can speak to the ODD issue. My son displayed a number of the ODD attributes early on, in kindergarten. To make a long story short, we had him professionally evaluated (that 5 hour testing program) and he was identified as having an advanced learning ability along with ODD to a lesser degree. At that time, he was rated in the 95th percentile for a typical grade 4 student.

In grade 5 he was retested, this time results were in the 97th percentile for a grade 11 student (reading, writing, comprehension, problem solving, etc) still with slight ODD.

He's now in grade 11 (and will graduate high-school a year and a half early, this term) and has completed 5 university level credits in five computer languages.

It's been our experience that many children with ODD are often identified as having advanced learning abilities as well, and by offering them the right tools to explore that ability, and understanding that their brains literally don't work quite the same as ours, is a huge step in the right direction in terms of funneling that energy into positive endeavors.

I'm sure you're offering your daughter many opportunities to exercise and explore her own brain's capabilities, which will take her 'mind off' the incredible boredom and frustration they experience with daily life.

I know it's a difficult situation, one that leaves many parents feeling as tho they've done something wrong or not done something right, but hopefully, the professionals you are consulting are assuring you that this is simply not the case - it's no one's fault, it's just one of those things!

Kismet
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 23692278
United States
09/20/2012 02:32 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Most people think that when their child is continually oppositional and defiant that there is something going on with their parenting skills that is making the child behave this way.

myth.

Some people say to me, if you would just spank your child she wouldn't act this way.

Lemme tell ya. If it was that simple, we wouldn't be here today with this problem.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a mental disorder that is in the wiring of the brain. These kids are born this way, as many a parent of ODD kids will tell you. They know something is wrong very early in their lives, but can't figure out why or what is causing it.

These kids cannot tolerate anything that closely resembles any authority, limits, or control over them. Parenting these kids requires ditching all traditional parenting styles, and new strategies that involve eliminating power struggles and careful boundary setting.

It's not easy.

These kids are oppositionally defiant in their personality. There is no parent in the world that can change another's personality.

Any parent, who is today feeling the emotional exhaustion, frustration, and low self-esteem from dealing with a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder and/or ADHA, just remember you are not alone.

 Quoting: Salt



Whatever 'doctor' invented 'ODD' should be castrated with a rusty Ginsu knife, forced to eat his dismembered genitals, and burned at the stake.

Why? Because that's the punishment for heresy and witchcraft.

The vast majority of one's personality is formed LONG BEFORE they ever set foot in kindergarten. And yes, it comes down to parenting in the earliest years. Sorry, but that's the reality of the situation. They're not born that way.

People don't think about it when they're dealing with an infant or a toddler, but they're shaping that kid's personality from day one. By the time the kid is in school, their issues become obvious...but then it's too late.

There's no 'therapy' that will fix it...no drug that will reverse it. But they make the parents feel better about themselves ('it's not MY fault little Billy is a nutcase'), so these 'treatments' are prescribed.

Yuo want your kid to stop being defiant? The first time they throw a temper tantrum, you smack them on the ass. The second time, the hands. The third, right in the mouth. They learn pretty quick that being an obnoxious little shit doesn't work, and they change tactics. Parents who coddle and cave in to their kids' tantrums are creating little monsters that will go on to make life hell for everyone around them, for the rest of their lives.
Valeria

User ID: 17149871
United States
09/20/2012 03:22 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Someone's opinion. See 50 doctors get 50 different opinions.

No real proof such a thing exists.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23970153


wrong.
 Quoting: Salt


ik a whole family that deals w/this..they're mixed German and Native American ..i believe Germans have it worst but controllable where the Indian in them wants to explode after yrs of being free then all of the sudden ...NOT! my take as i have a bit of one of these, but i'm quite more calm and calculating until something triggers that pisses me off :D

other then that ik what you're going through..living w/adults that have it is VERY taxing as well!
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 11995984


WTF you talking about? Free, then all of a sudden not? Being native has nothing to do with odd.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 14814036
United States
09/20/2012 04:18 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
When my autistic son turned three his behavior specialist told me it was time to start ritalin.

Ritalin is for sissies! I told myself. I would not turn my child into a sheep, I told myself. I was able to muddle through until he turned five when I finally gave in and decided to try the evil ritalin.









I now consider those years as lost time.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 14814036
United States
09/20/2012 05:12 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
Sounds like the little shit just needs more spanking. "Oppositional Defiant Disorder" my ass. Is that what they are calling brats these days? I blame helicopter parenting and the classification of proper discipline as "child abuse".

JUST STOP PHUCKEN BREADING YOU GENE DUMBASSES.

ADHD is a fake problem the pills will stuff up your daughters brain when she gets older she will hate you and go crazy get her off them if you want her to have a future

ODD just means you're bad at parenting and yout think that you're the victim. It means you are a selfish brat.

Anything short of imprisonment is futile.

FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is there serious marital discord? Evidence of disrupted attachment? Any behavioral vicious cycles? Neglect? Abuse? Trauma? Parental psychopathology? Learning disorders? Bad teachers?

Whatever 'doctor' invented 'ODD' should be castrated with a rusty Ginsu knife, forced to eat his dismembered genitals, and burned at the stake.
 Quoting: the peanut gallery


Just remember Salt, when you're wondering if you're doing the best thing for your child...

Look at the replies of the naysayers here and ask yourself, "Would I want my child to grow up to have an attitude like any of these people"?

If the answer is no, you're doing the right thing.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 300884
Sweden
09/20/2012 06:26 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.
All these "alphabet soup problems" have skyrocketed in recent decades. At the same time, our tortured soils have become totally depleted of essential minerals. Farmers add NPK to increase crops, but no trace elements!

There is indeed a connection here...

The brain chemistry can be "corrected" by various drugs, but it is only in need of correction because of a severe lack of nutrients. I propose trying to add nutrient supplements before accepting any drugs the doctors push on you.

One key element is Iodine. This element is needed for all kinds of hormones and regulatory activity throughout the body, and it is sorely lacking in normal Western diet. The sites in the cells where Iodine should be are also taken by Fluoride instead. Iodine has plenty of uses, Fluoride does not, it is simply a nerve poison.

Get rid of Fluoride, and add Iodine. Lots of it. The "recommended daily intake" is ridiculously low. The Japanese get a hundred times more from their natural seafood diet!

The Japanese don't have much behavior problems either...

There are other elements like Magnesium and Selenium that also need to be added. This is not the good old days when a balanced diet gave you everything the body needs, the food at the grocery store is simply NOT sufficient in trace elements!

News