I am the parent of a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder/ADHD. There is relief for parent AND child.

Oppositional defiant disorder

Last reviewed: January 30, 2010.

Oppositional defiant disorder is a pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures.
Causes, incidence, and risk factors

This disorder is more common in boys than in girls. Some studies have shown that it affects 20% of school-age children. However, most experts believe this figure is high due to changing definitions of normal childhood behavior, and possible racial, cultural, and gender biases.

This behavior typically starts by age 8, but it may start as early as the preschool years. This disorder is thought to be caused by a combination of biological, psychological, and social factors.
Symptoms

Actively does not follow adults' requests

Angry and resentful of others

Argues with adults

Blames others for own mistakes

Has few or no friends or has lost friends

Is in constant trouble in school

Loses temper

Spiteful or seeks revenge

Touchy or easily annoyed

To fit this diagnosis, the pattern must last for at least 6 months and must be more than normal childhood misbehavior.

The pattern of behaviors must be different from those of other children around the same age and developmental level. The behavior must lead to significant problems in school or social activities.
Signs and tests

Children with symptoms of this disorder should be evaluated by a psychiatrist or psychologist. In children and adolescents, the following conditions can cause similar behavior problems and should be considered as possibilities:

Anxiety disorders

Attention-deficit /hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)

Bipolar disorder

Depression

Learning disorders

Substance abuse disorders

Treatment

The best treatment for the child is to talk with a mental health professional in individual and possibly family therapy. The parents should also learn how to manage the child's behavior.

Medications may also be helpful, especially if the behaviors occur as part of another condition (such as depression, childhood psychosis, or ADHD).

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Thanks for sharing. Perhaps your experiences will be helpful to others.

Most parents just shoot their kids at that stage.

As an 18 year old child with ODD,
YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO READ
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true.

Hi Salt.
I have an adult friend who has Asperger's. We've always believed there was something else in addition to that because he has many other behavioral problems apart from just Asperger's we haven't found answers for and this is the first time I've heard of O.D.D. but it fits to a T. Thanks. I'm going to look into this more

i have a cousin that was incorrectly diagnosed Aspergers but was later correctly diagnosed ADHD/ODD.

Salt, I knew you had some other challenges, too. I hope things get better and think it's nice you're putting yourself out there to help others.

Sounds like the little shit just needs more spanking. "Oppositional Defiant Disorder" my ass. Is that what they are calling brats these days? I blame helicopter parenting and the classification of proper discipline as "child abuse".

What a crock of bull shit.

if spanking was the solution, we wouldn't be here today.

spanking doesn't work with these kids. they actually prefer to have the spank over relinquishing control.

thanks D.

I understand...I'm a nanna who takes care of a 6 year old My son is bi-polar. Angel is so young and is adad. It is unreal. I have done my best.

caring for children with mental illness is not for sissies. Give yourself a pat on the back. It is hard work and takes tons of strength

He will be a president someday

She might. She is scary intelligent and extremely resilient, and will never relinquish her will for ANYONE.

You folks that believe all this alphabet shit need to go out back and shoot yourself in the head. A teacher tried to tell me my child had some alphabet syndrome and it took everything I had not to grab her flabby fragile neck. You all that say your child has issues should look in the mirror or JUST STOP PHUCKEN BREADING YOU GENE DUMBASSES.

Someone's opinion. See 50 doctors get 50 different opinions.

No real proof such a thing exists.

Listen Parents!

You are not a bad mother, or a bad father. Your child's behavior is not a reflection of your inadequate parenting skills.

I am not a bad mother. I am a parent of a child with a mental illness.

I deal with more challenges as a parent in a day than most parents deal with in a month or a year.

wrong.

What do you believe in, AC?

Last Edited by Life and Love on 09/19/2012 08:18 PM

sorry to troll but there is NORMAL and there is RETARDED. THATS IT.

I am just about convinced which one you are.

i used to think like you.

i used to take all the blame.

i used to think that if only i could gain control and do something different, my child would stop melting down 7 times a day.

i used to think that putting a label on kids was wrong.

i used to think that diagnosis were thrown out too often.

i used to think that if i could only spank more and punish more that she would finally come around.


until you are at your wits end, you will open your mind to other possibilities.

ODD/ADHD is real.
it is a metabolic and brain chemistry condition.

there is a solution.

unless you are a parent of a child with mental illness, you simply will not understand.

what the hell do you mean? I just made a simple comment about what I believe, and its pretty self explanatory. I will defend mine with all I have.

well, we can see which group you are lumped in.