My girlfriends coworker- I'd love to shag her

Damn... That's some solid advice. Thank you!

I really appreciate all these comments from all ends of the spectrum. Keep em coming.

That's why you need to start with an MMF threesome OP.

Why WOULD your lady give over the sweets in an FFM if she hasn't been given the luxury of a nice passionate (well lubed) MMF first?

Tell you what... you and your GF go to the gym, tell her to pick out the hottest piece of meat she can spot, then go over and ask him if he wants to engage in some MMF with you guys.

After your GF has another man's (much sexier) body all over hers (with your grubby little hands filling whatever spots he's too busy for at the moment)... then I'm sure she'll fork over permission for an FFM threesome.

If you don't like that idea, you should just dump her and tell her it's for a short, cheap fling with a chick who probably has a myriad of STDs and an unhealthy fixation on 'exploring' your asshole when you're on top.

Tell her she looks edible/delicious or some such. Watch her reaction and set up a time to eat out.

go ask for advise here...camtome.com

The one thing more pathetic than this douche is the people actually giving him advice.

and you reading it..

Pics or shes a barker

Don't bother. She isn't very good in the sack. Your girlfriend's actually modestly better. So cheers!

39 years old, and still a frat boy.. as evidenced by your references to your "cock", and where you'd like to "plunge" it..


Well, I was a frat boy too (not saying you were, but the mentality).. obviously you still have a bit of thinking/growing to do. The fact you've given 12 years of your life and love to this woman, well... Shit, shouldn't that count for something?


I had this same situation with a co-worker, she was drop dead gorgeous (but so is el wifey) we were still BF/GF after 7 years, similar situation, and me in my 20's. I'll tell you what, it was nigh impossible to not think of this girl every waking moment ( I still do!) I won't go any further into how I felt about this girl, b/c, it was incredibly intense for the both of us.

But, I realized she wasn't my true, I always wondered maybe she was, but not my GF,, how would I know??? well I have morals and spirit and principles and would never do that to someone I love....... and never did it, and I feel the better man/person/soul for it...


Try to put the urges aside and look into the stuff that gets you where you are, emotionally/love/spiritually.

I'm telling you, it may be fun to fantasize, or even do it, but, it's just not good for you if you truly love her.
You don't speak much of your GF and how you feel about her, just that she isn't putting out. That's hardly a reason..

If you don't love your GF, then, just let her know and do what you gotta do..


It ain't easy, you gotta do some soul searching.

Clearly the 12 years he and his girlfriend have invested into their relationship is worth less than fucking some other bitch. OP, you are a loser dirt bag and you deserve to have your dick fall off.

Does this coworker girl show any cameltoe?...wearing really tight slacks with no undies?

Speaking of that, there used to be a gay guy at work who sported a "reverse" camel toe. Don't ask. Just envision. Yep, you got it! lol

Be confident. Go for it!

Yes,in fact last time I saw her she was wearing tight fitting athletic pants and I could spot a clear and present camel toe.

She's younger than my GF and me. She's about 29-31.

Some more on my GF.... Her and I get along quite well. Almost too well. It's as if we are just 'buds' at times. The romance escapes us more that I wish. Our 12 yrs has been on and off. More off than on in the past 3 yrs.

Another added dilemma is I get along great with my GF brother. I'd hate to see the drama ensue if he found out I had a sexcapade with his sisters coworker.

Uggghhhhh..... I just wish it were all so much easier.

What OP?

You don't like my MMF idea?

The idea of a much better looking man with a much bigger cock riding the fuck out of your girlfriend, having her do dirty shit you never knew she was capable of and loving every minute of it...

While you... you know, do whatever with your average dick.

Do you not like that idea?

I just don't understand why.

Meanwhile, the holier than thou haters on here have no problem with butt fuckers getting married in our country. Fucking stooges!

that's normal though, hitting the "bud" stage...after that much time, things morph, and will then morph back, it ebbs and flows over DECADES.. that's why you decided to be with this person.

shit, me and my wife have had sex maybe 3 times the past year (kids don't help there)... I never once thought to seek greener grass (except for that first part).. I just learned through it.


good luck, do the right thing, whatever that is for you

gotta add, unless she's already done the same thing you're talking to us about (sounds like she didn't), but, if she did,

shag away... that's how I always felt, but, it never happened..

long term relationships are some tough shit.


you know her better than us, yes, there's bumps in the road, but, there's also things much bigger than that...

OP ill only say this one more time your best bet is a hall pass or 3some (though u said that isnt an option, perhaps the MMF idea will help haha)

seriously though if you truly care about your gf this will fuck up your relationship. it sounds like ur thinking with ur dick and not thinking of all the consequences with her and her brother etc. it could end up ruining your life. and then that other girl will probably suck in the sack. or her period will start and ruin it.

im just saying the universe works in pretty obvious ways and this shit never works out for anyone

so you should just be honest with ur gf and get some permission. or be honest about how u feel and maybe the sex life will reignite

This guy seriously has the personality of a 15 year old, and is 38. He has no honor, and is a big pussy who cant just come out with it to his gf. Only a big puss would cheat on his gf like this.

Get some morals, and stop being such a prick.

Ditch the boat anchor and go with the action, it's not going to get any better at home. Why would she do the things anymore that made you want to be with her 12 years ago? She doesn't have to, or so she thinks.

She needs a wake up call, she's too comfortable.

I can't believe no one has brought up that OP GF's behavior sounds like she's already getting the cock somewhere else.

Do you make your way through life making impulsive decisions without thinking about the consequences??? This is not hard to spell out.

Pro's:
- Short term sexual gratification

Con's:
- Guilt knowing you cheated behind somebody's back and violated trust
- Getting caught and causing your GF a significant amount of emotional pain
- Ruining the work environment of both your GF and her coworker since they would never be able to work together if it got out
- GF finding out and you having to deal with an extremely uncomfortable break up being is that you currently live together!
- potential signficant long term feeling of regret over your actions if these consequences play out

You risk far more by taking the impulsive, self-centered path. Not just for you but for everyone involved.

Why not man up and address the situation with your girlfriend? Find out what the problem is and after HONEST communication, find out whether the relationship is worth repairing. Maybe she's not feeling the relationship anymore either and hasn't been able to tell you. Maybe she's falling for someone else too. Or maybe something entirely different and personal to her is affecting her mood/behavior and you had no idea it was even on the radar. Either way, settle your relationship shit first before you even think about acting on any physical impulses with other individuals. If you break up you will feel free to pursue other women without the guilt of the potential consequences outlined above.
But don't be naive enough to break up for the sole reason that you think this other girl is going to be 'the one' for you, since it's clear you only value her as a piece of meat.

If you value your character you'll know what decision to make. If you want to live with regret and have to learn your lessons the hard way, you know what decision to make. Choose wisely!

Mister Obvious, you're quite set that I do a MMF first. I can ell you my GF would never consider that. Se views any sort of non normal sex as perverse and in natural. It's one of the reasons I had brought this up in the first place.... My sexual desires are not being fulfilled like they used to.

There's been great advice on both sides. The party is tonight. I'll process all this info and work out a solution tonight.

oooh snap!

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Hey .... your GF has had several guys while you two have been dating. Probably has a married "regular" on the side right now (ie: her lack of interest in sex WITH YOU at a time that her natural libido has been increasing).

Advice?

First do the "spy" routine to figure out who she is playing "lose the panties" with (and document it) ... then you are psychologically free to do your own thing.

You are in a dead end situation with the GF and know it (at least subconsciously), or you wouldn't even be considering a "fling". Get the facts out on the table and EVERYBODY will be better off, versus playing a bunch of games and engaging in regular lying.

Talk to your girlfriend and be open, tell her that you want to shag her friend.
I´m sure she will be understanding. Women value honesty above all.

I suppose that is possible but not likely. If I did find out she was flinging it'd sure make this decision a no brainer.

S the coworker girl just put up a Facebook post saying she's attending the party tonight. I 'liked' the post. My GF won't be attending this party tonight because she's on shift and of course coworker girl knows this. It's not really a party per we, but a get together for a mutual friend we have who is moving away for 6 months to Alaska. But there will be booze and hanging by the pool. It's being held at a resort nearby her house. My GF is on shift until 3am.

This is do or die... I'm going to play a crafty hand and go all in. I'm leaving here to head that way in about 2 hours.

So how can I get in touch with your GF? I'll show her what attention she's been missing. I know you'll be ok with that.