i stopped having sex with my fiance

The perfect relationship:


His: I hope she never changes.

Hers: let's change this & this and that and this...


Advice - move on.

he ignores me when i say that too.

Read your title.. you stopped having sex with your fiance.

If you go through it.. we will have a thread "I never have sex with my husband".

Then what are you going to do?

Nah, he said when we started dating that he is trying to lose weight. so either he lied, because im not trying to help him do something he never said he was trying to do, or he has a health issue. Im not trying to change anything he hadnt already been trying to change (or so he said)

Op, he needs to go on a healthy eating plan. No processed food or drink. They contain chemicals that are addicting and make you fat.

That includes standard cheese and bread.

Tell him to see a good sports/weight loss doctor that understands nutrition.
The weight will come off fast.

All the processed crap is addicting and designed to cause fatty liver. So it is hard without the proper supplements.

The weight loss doctor should know how to do this. Mine did.

I met him and he was i think 250# and not hot but we seemed to have a lot of similarities ans he is rather nice and he claimed he has been trying to lose weight.

In the last 4-5 months he stayed ~the same weight and i cant help but be a bit baffled.

My issues: i really think oral is nasty receiving but he can make me cum like that but it is useless. I want to cum on him but i cant because his fat is this huge flab it hangs over and even worse for him the fat making giving him a bj near impossible lest i suffocate.

So i keep trying to tell him to keep track of food intake, etc, and eating certain ways and he sneaks massive amounts of cheese on his carb loaded foods and that is not the best idea for weight loss. I wamt laissez-Faire. I want to have no part in his weight loss. He ignores me and i want him to hire a nutritionist and personal trainer and its just so hard for him to do that. He whines. He whines about veggies. He whines anout how salad makes him gag and he is going to die eating it and he whines about the workouts. Never have i met someone so slow to get it and he ignores me. He cares so much that im skinny and he isnt that he thinks i can just magickally fix him if he ignores me. Last night he asked why i dont give him bjs anymore and without picking on him i explained why. He sarcastically says thanks and proceeds to be grumpy moody. It is too freakin much for me. I cant sleep in the same bed as him. I want a bed! i see a chiro for his weight screwing up my back and he still whines way more about every detail and then asks me "is it ok if i eat xyz" and he should already know x is a carb and y is super bad for him. I want sex daily but cant bring myself to fuck him.

I know im a terrible person for this but i dont date fatties and this is just out of my realm of how to behave to help a person. He zones me out so i am just not important enough but he says i mean the world to him. This shit stinks and i would rather be alone than with someone that is ok with being fat. The other thing, his diet shouldve worked or health issues may be the culprit. He never went to a doc about it which told me he is lying about the diet or about the exercise. I offered to go with him to the gym and he says no and whines about how he doesnt want me to watch him? how the hell am i supposed to help him from the house if he isnt doing any challenging workouts.

This isnt a joke post btw, im literally on the fence about sticking around.

Hun,
The very fact that you felt strongly enough about this to ask GLP for relationship advice, shows that you are already considering leaving this man. If you are not happy leave, he sounds like a fat pussy anyways, always bitching and whining, and that excuse about gagging on salad, thats fucking ridiculous, leave him to his fate, and find a nice guy.

Leave him and find someone you don't have to change.

id just resurrect this thread. He knows i wont marry him until he thins out. So there would be some sex if we did get married, unless he gained it back overnight.

Yeah, like a tattooed drug user...get rid of that fat slob!






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OP, you get a special award for Most Fucked Up Use of GLP.

Postpone the wedding. Tell him he has six months to drop 70 pounds or you'll leave him.

You will be saving his life. True love hurts sometimes.

Already plotting out the justification for cheating on the poor fat guy while she is overseas...

All women do this shit.

Join the process with him, make it a couples thing- work out together, eat better together, embark on a journey together- perhaps its difficult for him to do it on his own in your circumstances whatever they may be. offer support and love rather than judgement and hate.

OP either lace up running shoes tomorrow am and go running with him or...

Make him a sandwich and STFU!

I dont cheat, i masturbate. There is no justifying cheating. If i wanted sex that bad id fuck him or id leave him. Im not 18 dude.

OP either lace up running shoes tomorrow am and go running with him or...

Make him a sandwich and STFU!

That's because you bitch too much...

Right, I can hear the conversation upon your return now. "I wouldn't have had to gangbang those 18 Japanese business men if only you'd lost 20 pounds."

Of course it will ALL be his fault.

I've heard conniving shit like this before. If you two stick together and end up having a child, I hope he rides your post pregnancy ass hard about getting back to an ideal weight. Bet then he will be an insensitive prick huh.

O.o O'rly?

Not much to say. He either looses weight or you leave as it seems. Tell him. His decision.