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my wifes mom came into some money , had a family gathering, she gave each of her kids an envelope each contained 4000 dollars , i asked my wife for 400 for a crossbow , and a bit for survival food stuff...


well she says its hers not mine, weve been married for 12 yrs... im worreid what what will happen if i die will all the money left over be HERS and none go to my kids ...


im hurt , or am i just being greedy... i thought when you got married you became one in ALL respects....


The envelopes containg the money only had her kids name on it...


when i got my inheritence i opaid off her house...

ya know i asked to BORROW the money like id pay her in three cks postdated , she didnt evenm go for that...


like i said im devasataed or IS SHE RIGHT to do this...


im just fkn crushed!!!! i feel like this is the gamechanger ....


OR AM I WRONG ...please help with your opinion
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sorry opie, but you are just a meal ticket to her.

Look up Briffault's law. It explains everything.

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Also, check out heartiste.worpress.com to understand women's behavior.

Next time, try marrying someone from Asia or Eastern Europe.
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BRIFFAULT’S LAW:

The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.

There are a few corollaries I would add:

Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association.

Any agreement where the male provides a current benefit in return for a promise of future association is null and void as soon as the male has provided the benefit (see corollary 1)

A promise of future benefit has limited influence on current/future association, with the influence inversely proportionate to the length of time until the benefit will be given and directly proportionate to the degree to which the female trusts the male (which is not bloody likely).


BTW, opie. When she gets her full inheritance, be prepared to be kicked to the curb, since she doesn't need you anymore.
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my wifes mom came into some money , had a family gathering, she gave each of her kids an envelope each contained 4000 dollars , i asked my wife for 400 for a crossbow , and a bit for survival food stuff...


well she says its hers not mine, weve been married for 12 yrs... im worreid what what will happen if i die will all the money left over be HERS and none go to my kids ...


im hurt , or am i just being greedy... i thought when you got married you became one in ALL respects....


The envelopes containg the money only had her kids name on it...


when i got my inheritence i opaid off her house...

ya know i asked to BORROW the money like id pay her in three cks postdated , she didnt evenm go for that...


like i said im devasataed or IS SHE RIGHT to do this...


im just fkn crushed!!!! i feel like this is the gamechanger ....


OR AM I WRONG ...please help with your opinion
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 15323087


Okay, relax. Her money, your money.

Inheritance will bring about some very strange reactions.

Try my situation, not 4K but 400K--actually more like 2 millinon.
It changes everything.

BTW, if your wife loves you....give it time.

Best to get your own crossbow...knowing it will not make a dent in your combined estate.

It is a speedbump, test....you are fortunate.

Most likely she is overwealmed with the winfall...

Give it time.

If you are truly wondering about 4K...then realize you have the problem not her.
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You two need to check out Dave Ramsey. Totally changed my wife and I relationship and the way we handle finances. We now have no debt a fair amount in the bank.
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OK,guy,here is the real deal. Women will not respect a man who treats her nice. They always pine for the guy who was indifferent and demeaning,he was a "real man". I've seen this too many times. You want her heart,mind and soul? Make her feel like you don't know she exists. Act aloof. In other words,be a real dick. If you don't believe this,watch reruns of "Sex and the City". It is all about women chasing after the bad boy users.
 Quoting: grassyknoll


^THIS RIGHT HERE^...This is bullshit IF you say all women!
I've seen a lot of marriages fail because of what this poster just told you to do!

Op...Maybe your marriage has been over for some time now, and this just gave her that chance to really show you, But I promise you this, if you still love her, and don't want it to end, then don't take that advice, or it will be over for damn sure!

You need to get your ass off glp, and sit down with her and tell her how you feel!
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he said be a real Dick , Thus be like jesus.
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Not your money dude.
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oh yeah sshe makes 2000 a month last yr she said the money sha makes is HERS....

I've been married for 49 years, and we've never had any problem like this.
If the money she makes is hers, then the money you make is yours. Tell her so, and then prove it! This isn't a marriage. What's hers is hers and what's yours is hers. It will only get worse.
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BRIFFAULT’S LAW:

The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.

There are a few corollaries I would add:

Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association.

Any agreement where the male provides a current benefit in return for a promise of future association is null and void as soon as the male has provided the benefit (see corollary 1)

A promise of future benefit has limited influence on current/future association, with the influence inversely proportionate to the length of time until the benefit will be given and directly proportionate to the degree to which the female trusts the male (which is not bloody likely).


BTW, opie. When she gets her full inheritance, be prepared to be kicked to the curb, since she doesn't need you anymore.
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my wifes mom came into some money , had a family gathering, she gave each of her kids an envelope each contained 4000 dollars , i asked my wife for 400 for a crossbow , and a bit for survival food stuff...


well she says its hers not mine, weve been married for 12 yrs... im worreid what what will happen if i die will all the money left over be HERS and none go to my kids ...


im hurt , or am i just being greedy... i thought when you got married you became one in ALL respects....


The envelopes containg the money only had her kids name on it...


when i got my inheritence i opaid off her house...

ya know i asked to BORROW the money like id pay her in three cks postdated , she didnt evenm go for that...


like i said im devasataed or IS SHE RIGHT to do this...


im just fkn crushed!!!! i feel like this is the gamechanger ....


OR AM I WRONG ...please help with your opinion
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 15323087




Tell your wife you are sorry that you asked for part of the money she got from her mother. Be nice and tell her you want her to spend the money wisely and it was selfish of you to ask for money she got from her mother to use on yourself. Ask her to forgive you. And act nice about it. No grudging and bad behavior. Forget about it and forgive and forget about the crossbow. (She might even surprise you with a gift and don't want you to ruin it.)

Not knowing the whole story I'll give you my opinion in general.

Both of you make income which should be used for common good and shared. If you both have kids from previous relationships and she uses some of that money she earns towards her children instead of burdening you that is good for you. She needs to stop bailing kids out from jail, it will not help them. They need to straighten up. You have to tell her that in a nice way. Many people had to learn it the hard way and only when they stopped bailing out their kids did they shape up.

When you marry you become ONE and have one purse, however when one spouse get a gift from their parents it is meant for the one who received it unless the giver specify it is for the couple. Now having said that a loving and caring spouse would not use the money on her/him self if the family as a whole is in need for the money. If one spouse is lacking and is given a gift and the family as a whole has no special need the extra money can be a pleasant gift where the one receiving it can use the money on things like gifts etc. or for things they need for themselves or other needs instead of wants.

If this is a single incident shape up but if this is part of a trend you better talk about it. Crossbow and some survival stuff for your own ego is not something of high priority in a marriage, especially if it put a stress on the finances.

If you both have kids from former relationships you better set up a will who gets what for inheritance.

A gift to her is not inheritance, get over it, be nice and polite and observe how she spends the money. That will tell you what to do she is up to.

If you get in trouble it is time to seek God's help in your marriage if you have not done so already.
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Crossbow??? I'm guessing she may think you're not responsible with money.

Anyway, this is how money is spent in a good marriage: its both of yours, but that doesn't mean either of you get 50% of it. It means you both have to AGREE how 100% of it will be spent. Doesn't matter who earned or inherited or won it.

It is not uncommon for it to take a long while and many discussions for a couple to come to a full agreement about what to do with sudden new money coming in,or what to cut if money is suddenly in shorter supply than it was.

Your patience, tolerance and ability to convince your partner to see your view (as well as the ability to see hers) are essential tools you need to bring to a happy marriage. Same goes for her.

Its not about whose ideas "win" more often, but about both of you genuinely feeling, in the end, that the money should be spent that way.

Nobody ever said marriage was easy. Money issues divide many weaker couples, in which one or both of the partners don't approach it with the right attitude. If one person resents the way the money is spent, that will catch up with the couple in the long run.
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my wifes mom came into some money , had a family gathering, she gave each of her kids an envelope each contained 4000 dollars , i asked my wife for 400 for a crossbow , and a bit for survival food stuff...


well she says its hers not mine, weve been married for 12 yrs... im worreid what what will happen if i die will all the money left over be HERS and none go to my kids ...


im hurt , or am i just being greedy... i thought when you got married you became one in ALL respects....


The envelopes containg the money only had her kids name on it...


when i got my inheritence i opaid off her house...

ya know i asked to BORROW the money like id pay her in three cks postdated , she didnt evenm go for that...


like i said im devasataed or IS SHE RIGHT to do this...


im just fkn crushed!!!! i feel like this is the gamechanger ....


OR AM I WRONG ...please help with your opinion
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 15323087

If you share everything you have then she should do the same.Marriage is suppose to be 50/50 but people don't seem to see it that way anymore.I mean 100/100.So sorry she's selfish.I'm married to a selfish guy.It is heart breaking.I know.
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After marraige there is no money. Seriously,I've been thru marraiges and "arrangments" over many decades,and the only workable way is to each have your own checking accounts. You split the bills equally. You pay for your own car,clothes,hobbies,etc. If you (or your spouse) can't afford something,then you do without,no whining about "sharing". Anything you both use you split the costs. This way,you don't have to explain the new suit,or the new $400 handbag. Or why you spend so much on lunch every week. Putting both salaries into a joint account and only spend if you both agree is the shortest route to hurt feelings at best,and a quick divorce at worst.
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This is not a real marriage,but in this world I understand you.
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Op, go to some marriage, therapy, psycho mumbo jumbo
site to get your answers.

WTF? this is a fckn conspiracy site dumb ass!

Now go get your help! not here!
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my wifes mom came into some money , had a family gathering, she gave each of her kids an envelope each contained 4000 dollars , i asked my wife for 400 for a crossbow , and a bit for survival food stuff...


well she says its hers not mine, weve been married for 12 yrs... im worreid what what will happen if i die will all the money left over be HERS and none go to my kids ...


im hurt , or am i just being greedy... i thought when you got married you became one in ALL respects....


The envelopes containg the money only had her kids name on it...


when i got my inheritence i opaid off her house...

ya know i asked to BORROW the money like id pay her in three cks postdated , she didnt evenm go for that...


like i said im devasataed or IS SHE RIGHT to do this...


im just fkn crushed!!!! i feel like this is the gamechanger ....


OR AM I WRONG ...please help with your opinion
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 15323087


I smell alimony, child support, and giving away half the house you paid fully for...

Women DON'T GIVE A FUCK ABOUT MEN - SURPRISE!!!

They can always find a hot jock to stuff their vaginas till they orgasm. Other than that men's only function is to supply money, and carry their fat lazy asses.

Trust me - I pay about $115/day from the last one. Every day.
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After marraige there is no money. Seriously,I've been thru marraiges and "arrangments" over many decades,and the only workable way is to each have your own checking accounts. You split the bills equally. You pay for your own car,clothes,hobbies,etc. If you (or your spouse) can't afford something,then you do without,no whining about "sharing". Anything you both use you split the costs. This way,you don't have to explain the new suit,or the new $400 handbag. Or why you spend so much on lunch every week. Putting both salaries into a joint account and only spend if you both agree is the shortest route to hurt feelings at best,and a quick divorce at worst.
 Quoting: grassyknoll


This is not a real marriage,but in this world I understand you.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22965214


yeah, it is depressing to hear about "marriages" like this, that's more like roommates.

Marriage is not 50%/50%, its 100%/100%. Either partner puts in less than that, and the marriage is toast.

Like I said earlier, nobody ever said marriage was easy. Too many people rush into it without being fully prepared and fully determining whether they truly trust and want their partner to become their "other half." People these days often seem to not understand what that simple phrase actually means.
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my wifes mom came into some money , had a family gathering, she gave each of her kids an envelope each contained 4000 dollars , i asked my wife for 400 for a crossbow , and a bit for survival food stuff...


well she says its hers not mine, weve been married for 12 yrs... im worreid what what will happen if i die will all the money left over be HERS and none go to my kids ...


im hurt , or am i just being greedy... i thought when you got married you became one in ALL respects....


The envelopes containg the money only had her kids name on it...


when i got my inheritence i opaid off her house...

ya know i asked to BORROW the money like id pay her in three cks postdated , she didnt evenm go for that...


like i said im devasataed or IS SHE RIGHT to do this...


im just fkn crushed!!!! i feel like this is the gamechanger ....


OR AM I WRONG ...please help with your opinion
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my wifes mom came into some money , had a family gathering, she gave each of her kids an envelope each contained 4000 dollars , i asked my wife for 400 for a crossbow , and a bit for survival food stuff...


well she says its hers not mine, weve been married for 12 yrs... im worreid what what will happen if i die will all the money left over be HERS and none go to my kids ...


im hurt , or am i just being greedy... i thought when you got married you became one in ALL respects....


The envelopes containg the money only had her kids name on it...


when i got my inheritence i opaid off her house...

ya know i asked to BORROW the money like id pay her in three cks postdated , she didnt evenm go for that...


like i said im devasataed or IS SHE RIGHT to do this...


im just fkn crushed!!!! i feel like this is the gamechanger ....


OR AM I WRONG ...please help with your opinion
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 15323087


I smell alimony, child support, and giving away half the house you paid fully for...

Women DON'T GIVE A FUCK ABOUT MEN - SURPRISE!!!

They can always find a hot jock to stuff their vaginas till they orgasm. Other than that men's only function is to supply money, and carry their fat lazy asses.

Trust me - I pay about $115/day from the last one. Every day.
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when I hear divorcees that talk this way, I often think, "what came first? The chicken or the egg?" ...this is what I mean about one or both of the partners having the wrong attitude. Wrong attitude and divorce go together like peas in a pod.
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Wow. Sorry OP, that really sucks. My husband and I have shared every bit of money we've ever had. Inheritance (small), our salaries, extra money we've come into (very small :). I can't imagine not sharing. That just isn't right.
"When tyrants tremble in their fear, and hear their death knell ringing,
When friends rejoice both far and near, how can I keep from singing"

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After marraige there is no money. Seriously,I've been thru marraiges and "arrangments" over many decades,and the only workable way is to each have your own checking accounts. You split the bills equally. You pay for your own car,clothes,hobbies,etc. If you (or your spouse) can't afford something,then you do without,no whining about "sharing". Anything you both use you split the costs. This way,you don't have to explain the new suit,or the new $400 handbag. Or why you spend so much on lunch every week. Putting both salaries into a joint account and only spend if you both agree is the shortest route to hurt feelings at best,and a quick divorce at worst.
 Quoting: grassyknoll


This is not a real marriage,but in this world I understand you.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 22965214


yeah, it is depressing to hear about "marriages" like this, that's more like roommates.

Marriage is not 50%/50%, its 100%/100%. Either partner puts in less than that, and the marriage is toast.

Like I said earlier, nobody ever said marriage was easy. Too many people rush into it without being fully prepared and fully determining whether they truly trust and want their partner to become their "other half." People these days often seem to not understand what that simple phrase actually means.
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Whoever you are, that was well said.

Now, lets get back to conspiracies please!

Is this Godlike Counseling?
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In most states, an inheritance is called "sepatate property" and is not subject to become marital community property. Sorry, but this has been the law for a very long time.
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In most states, an inheritance is called "sepatate property" and is not subject to become marital community property. Sorry, but this has been the law for a very long time.
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It's not yours, you are being selfish. It is from her MOTHER to HER, not YOU, not YOUR KIDS, not YOUR NEIGHBOR, not WHOEVER.. It's hers.. Get your own mom and money.
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And the fact that you are "devastated" over something like that.. Heh, that says a lot about you. If her mom wanted you to have the money too she would have given some to you. Men are selfish children, AS USUAL...
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You said you pay the bills. Just wondering does your wife get any discretionary $$? If she's a SAHM she might feel like she can't spend any of the family money on herself.
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This might be the case, in which case she feels right to for once have spending money.

Honestly if one person takes care of household costs and the other doesn't but no determination was made ahead of time for a situation like this one, don't expect to see the money. If you aren't sharing with her, she won't share with you. If she has to ask to purchase stuff, she probably won't share this extra cash with you. Etc and so forth. and fwiw, you are butthurt over 4k? over a 400 dollar xbow? Save up your money so you respect your xbow more than you will. Her own mother, mom, gave her that money. That sort of thing I'd also look at as different from sharing lottery proceeds. Her mom might've given stipulations on how she is allowed to spend the money. It was her mom's gift to her and not to you, so for all intents and purposes, it's your wifes. Inheritance issues are a bit retarded. If you have someone in your fam that gives you money for xmas gifts, does she get half? this list goes on and on. it's
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sorry, meant to finish that thought. O.o

It's retarded.

But anyways, these things should be straightened out before the wedding. It appears there was a failure to straighten out money matters prior to putting a ring on it, so it's really not my problem in how you decide your fate. To end a marriage over 4k is a bit ridiculous, but so is marrying someone without making financial agreements ahead of time (verbal, prenup, or otherwise) is just asking for shit to hit the fan.

But now you know and next time you are on the dating scene you'll know better.

There are many degrees of things that need to be predetermined before marriage. I used to talk about this all the time on glp because I went more anonymous in my ways. Let me explain a few that are important:

*thoughts on raising kids (how to, how many, spanking, how to deal with a hellion, etc)
*willingness to have kids live with you after they are mature adults
*thoughts on hard and soft drugs/herbs
*smoking or lack thereof
*diet (ie: vegetarian, omnivore, etc)
*finances/dealing with debt
*travel interests
*debate vs full on verbal argument with namecalling etc
*emo issues, mental health issues, therapy, etc. if you both need a therapist would be a major thing to consider because if he/she doesn't want to go and you need couples therapy, you're a bit screwered.
*fav foods, hated foods, foods that better not be cooked in the house, etc
*types of movies, types of sports, types of extracurricular activities, types of tv shows watched
*time spent on the phone, on apps, on the computer, texting, or chatting with the moms or pops.
*whether to get married or remain happily dating until you both kick the bucket

Really this list is only as extensive as you or your significant other or potential significant other deem important. If you fail to make these determinations prior to happily ever after wedded bliss, it should fall to you to get things straight or leave (though whether I agree on if 4k should be used as leverage as to why the other person is terrible and should be divorced is not important).
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nice post. When my husband and I were planning to get married, we did a lot of researching. We have an age gap that his family disapproved of, and they were concerned we were setting ourselves up for failure. To prove them wrong, but also to see if they had any valid points, we went through a "conversation checklist". We found it online and i cant find the link now. But basically it was a massive list of every conversation a couple should have before getting married. We found that we agreed on 99% of things naturally. But it was nice to have hose conversations out in the open, before there was any fighting or hurt feelings involved. As for the OP, dont worry about your children. Make a will, and let that take care of them.
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OP I would make SURE your kids are provided for as YOU want in YOUR will. I'm a stepchild and I can tell you if you see ANY sign that she cuts your kids out of things now in ANY way, you can be assured that without a will protecting your children they will NOT get all you intend for them to have.

Maybe your wife fully embraces your kids now but if there's even a hint of a question in your mind protect your kids and get your will done.

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Depends on your state law. Here, the inheritance is separate property. Your paying off the mortgage with yours may be considered comingling of separate and joint property.
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You are in serious trouble if you believe she will "take care of you."

Get over it and confront it.

She made her choice long ago, it appears.
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OP you're right to be upset. I've been married 9 years and there is only 'our' money, one joint bank account. I had trouble with the concept for about the first year we were together as I had the money (I worked my arse off and had saved a shit load of cash saved). I wasn't used to sharing but got over it and now would never think like that again.

She should have given you half IMO. She sounds very selfish OP. Especially considering you paid off the house! WTF?!

Once you get to 'mine' and 'yours' that could signal trouble.

What makes this even worse is that she didn't even earn the money, it was just given to her. Tell her if you get an unexpected lump sum of cash or win the lottery you're not sharing :-P You could punish her by withholding sex for awhile :-P Also don't do a damn thing in the house or yard and make more mess than usual to give her more work to do:-P You could also have a few buddies over as often as possible - sit around, drink beer, BBQ & have a good old time.

You could show her this thread in the hopes she realises what a bitch she's being...
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10/06/2012 11:45 PM

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That's just wrong. Whatever money I've ever come into, I've always "shared" with my husband. If there was something he wanted, or needed, I insisted that he get it.People who are selfish often end up alone.
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