If a man keeps turning down sex...

WAKE HIM UP TO A BLOWJOB, BEST SHIT EVER

Well, last week when he was off work and in a good mood and we talked. I didn't bring her up by name, I just told him I was concerned that he wasn't attracted to me anymore and that I was afraid there was someone else. He told me there wasn't and that he was because he was "tired." Yet, he's still turning down sex!!

Are you fat? Just askin.

I'm a little overweight, yes. Not huge or anything, but I could stand to lose a few pounds. But I am good-looking, and not to toot my own horn, but I am really good in bed. So, I don't know.

Yes.

Most likely he has poisoned his natural sex drive by watching sadistic types of porn.

Being that once one watches porn repeatedly over the years, more depravity is needed to 'get there' if you will. Once one learns to rely on this edge, they find they can no longer perform under more productive sexual practices with a loved one or willing partner.


There is only one way back, and that is a complete removal of said stimuli to re-balance one natural sex drive.

I'm smaller now than I was when we met...and he's skinny, always has been. Hey Trin, any chance I can get a pin? LOL I never get a pin. :(

You could be right, but I don't think so. He's watched porn the entire time we've been together and it's never been an issue.

What kind of porn is he turned on by?
Is it something you're not doing so he's looking for it there?
Have you bothered to try watching it with him and using it as foreplay?

Green pin for a fat girl.

Yes, we have watched porn together several times as foreplay.

So, what's the problem?

But it is now right?

Hence why you asked...


The only Absolute is Change.

We are all ever evolving Minds from one moment to the next, so 'how he was' is not 'how he is' one moment to the next.

He could have found access to some type of porn which has further degraded his ability to perform with you.


Or...and this is quite simple, he is not attracted to you anymore.

And I am uncertain that if one loses attraction to a partner, if it CAN be re-ignited.

I am sure it IS possible with a lot of work and patience.



Good luck Kristina.

First, your girlfriend's opinions don't count. What do guys think about you? Do they want to fuck you?

Next point:

He doesn't want you living there. How did you rope him into letting you move in? Guilt? Didn't give him sex until he said yes? Are you working, if yes get the hell out, if not - then that explains it all. He feels like a mule pulling your wagon. And the best he gets out of the deal is a quick whip to his ass (take out the garbage, do this, do that etc) by a "little overweight" girlfriend.

There is no such thing as "a little overweight"! Stop eating for one week and take off the "little overweight". And see if any other guys want you.

I AM working, but it's part-time until at least the beginning of next year, when it MIGHT go full-time. So, I can't really afford to move out right now.

Thanks so much for the green pin!! YAY! I've been pinned! LOL

um ya, that sounds like a bad plan in this one Trin!

Kristina, masturbation is about the fantasy and the visual. Try giving him the fantasy and the visual. If he's worth it to you let your inner porn star shine girl.
At 5 1/2 years the 'oxytocin' production/stimulation (love chemical) drops significantly. You must work to get it up - pun intended.

Take a day, be ultra nice but ultra flirty... then later on get down and dirty.

Masturbate in front of him if you have to. You'll get his attention, or know 100% he's out.

When you're with a long-term partner (over 3 years) the more you do it, the more you'll want it. Take any extended break and you must kickstart the love drugs again.

It's all basic survival of the species chemical biology.

Don't be insecure about your weight as a lot of men like chubby girls. Also who would like to fuck an anoressic pile of bones?? Try finding a job and a cheap single mothers apartment, then dump it! I would suggest you contact a lawyer as soon as possible, telling her you want to divorce him and keep the baby, he will be forced to pay you and your son aliments. Think about it. Good luck nice lady.

Have you put on weight recently?

OP, what do you look like?
if you aren't at least a 7 and already 30yrs old, you better start worrying!

Face it, if they aren't loving you, they just aren't loving. Don't waste your time. Leave with your shirt on before it is too late. Find real love. Life is too short to spend any of it with a wanker.

Totally, for me too, I thought I'd never know of some other guy who felt that way

Whoa, wrote my post then saw the taunts. If any of you "guys" have ever been trapped with a frigid bitch, this girl deserves your empathy. She is married to a frigid bitch, and it is his choice to be that, not hers. All she needs to change is her address or his.

So you did rope him into moving in..... Move out! Rent a room for $400.00 a month. Just get the hell out.

I don't what number I am! LOL I'm not ugly, but I'm not a supermodel or anything. Just average good-looking, 5'6, long reddish/black hair. And I'm 39.

PICS OR IT DINT HAPPEN!

GUYS This is a great lesson for all of us. A woman can turn us down all day long and we come back for more. You turn a woman down and look what happens....

Lesson: Turn her down, say, not tonight, maybe later this week and watch what happens. This guy is pissed over something. And look how his overweight girlfriend, who only works part time, while he works full time busting his ass feeding her.... and he say no and her head explodes.

If every guy posted on this site who gets turned down on a regular basis posted.... the site would crash!

BABY, WELCOME TO OUR WORLD.... LIVE WITH IT.

Be grateful.

Guess what?

There Is More To Life Than Sex.

It's a message for you.

Recieve it.

Had any work done? Tune up?

Written by someone who ain't gettin' any.

OK, look...you don't know all about me and you don't know all about the situation. I WOULD work full-time, but the job I am at, which is a GREAT JOB, is just part-time right now. And I buy most of my groceries. And this has been going on FOR MONTHS. I just posted this to try and get some advice. My head is still intact.