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If a man keeps turning down sex...

 
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
Men are usually visual women are emotional (when it comes to sex) and therefore porn excites him more than sex with you. Lose some weight, spice it up, offer him some excitement.
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
Men are usually visual women are emotional (when it comes to sex) and therefore porn excites him more than sex with you. Lose some weight, spice it up, offer him some excitement.
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
honestly op i think it is the net porn
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10/09/2012 09:25 PM

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Well, I never imagined this thread would go like it did. Thanks for all the good advice and the not-so-good advice. hf LOL But, I do have to work in the morning, so I'm going to go.
DOOM better not interrupt my Walking Dead!!
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10/09/2012 09:26 PM

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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
Porn is a searching of the imagination....... If he really is addicted to Porn then he may need the freedom to understand that it is just an illusion. The only thing that is real is the affection between two people that love each other.

I can speak from the perspective of someone who was addicted to eroticism........ all consuming, all entrancing.

He can only escape when he realizes it is an illusion. If you have the nerve, ask him what his wildest fantasy is....... And if you can stand it.....give it to him.

If this doesn't open his eyes then you must decide how long you can wait until he comes down from the erotic high. Honestly it could take years.

Unfortunately you must also accept the possibility that his affection for you is going away.

Nothing in life is every easy!

Last Edited by scimitar on 10/09/2012 09:27 PM
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
...because he says he's too tired, yet he still "does it" to Internet porn, could he REALLY be too tired?? Or could there be another logical reason? Or is he just cheating? I know, I'm beating a dead horse here (see my prior posts) but I would just like to hear from the guys out there. Could there be a logical excuse??
 Quoting: Kristina


sent you pm.
 Quoting: warriorsbond


I got it, thank you. I'm a free member, so I can't PM you back. But, I was born in 1973 and he was born in 1957.
 Quoting: Kristina


WTF? Why you with someone that much older? Money huh? Guess he figured it out..My bets are that he is cheating with the woman at work..Why be with you? Youre way too easy.
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10/09/2012 09:29 PM
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
how long have you been together?

I'm guessing for years now?
 Quoting: ^TrInItY^


About 5 1/2 years and we've been living together about 3 months.
 Quoting: Kristina


yea well there you go

since you've moved in together he pretty much figures the battle is won and isn't putting forth the effort anymore

he needs to be made "unsure" of that
 Quoting: ^TrInItY^


This is bad advice and you should feel bad.
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10/09/2012 09:30 PM
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
My wife at times has me wanting nothing to do with her. We've been together 8 years and married 3. I used to be the biggest sex addict there was

The problem is, she really pisses me off sometimes. I am not a man that will be bossed around and she tries to! I don't want to argue, I don't want to compromise. I know what I want and if I don't get what I want, f* it. My biggest thing is my wife feeling like she can "tell me" what to do (outside of the bedroom). Then she wonders why I don't want her and if I'm cheating, etc. Think of what happens/how you treat him prior to him going on these "no sex" binges.



You'd also be surprised if you actually became less demanding and more fun it might go a long way (god I wish my wife would learn this). Have a good time, go out, start teasing in public, enjoy the time out without the "Well you haven't had sex with me for the past 4 days" crap
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
My wife at times has me wanting nothing to do with her. We've been together 8 years and married 3. I used to be the biggest sex addict there was

The problem is, she really pisses me off sometimes. I am not a man that will be bossed around and she tries to! I don't want to argue, I don't want to compromise. I know what I want and if I don't get what I want, f* it. My biggest thing is my wife feeling like she can "tell me" what to do (outside of the bedroom). Then she wonders why I don't want her and if I'm cheating, etc. Think of what happens/how you treat him prior to him going on these "no sex" binges.



You'd also be surprised if you actually became less demanding and more fun it might go a long way (god I wish my wife would learn this). Have a good time, go out, start teasing in public, enjoy the time out without the "Well you haven't had sex with me for the past 4 days" crap
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 12938566


Wow u have more issues than most women I know...I would not be able to stand a whining sex witholding man...YUCK!
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
You need to blow him
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He doesn't even want to do that!!
 Quoting: Kristina


does he like boys??
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
I believe you came and visited me at my office about this subject, did you not?
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10/09/2012 09:37 PM

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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
You may have asked for a Psychic ten days ago.... But you also asked for a hacker today.
 Quoting: Travis Bickle


No kidding eh?

Maybe if 'somebody' posted her e-mail and physical address,
she might understand how little privacy we really have.
 Quoting: wisc_natureboy


Well, that's not nice and not necessary!
 Quoting: Kristina


I didn't post shit about you, you did.
And in doing so you invited this.

There is no privacy.
You may not like it, pero es verdad.

 Quoting: wisc_natureboy

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10/09/2012 09:39 PM
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
cheating or gay
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10/09/2012 09:40 PM
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
He is not into you. That simple.
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I believe you came and visited me at my office about this subject, did you not?
 Quoting: Top Hat


Did you offer to investigate?
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
...because he says he's too tired, yet he still "does it" to Internet porn, could he REALLY be too tired?? Or could there be another logical reason? Or is he just cheating? I know, I'm beating a dead horse here (see my prior posts) but I would just like to hear from the guys out there. Could there be a logical excuse??
 Quoting: Kristina


You should of laid down the law about porn when you first met.Now its too late.You've let internet whores spoil him.
I let my man know from day 1,NO PORN. And he respects that and never looks at it.My man is ALL MINE!
 Quoting: sunshine4mealwayz


This poster really does have the right attitude. Never give up your morals for a man..and a man with no expectations from his woman..well she should expect nothing.. My experience to this is women with expectations from their men tend to have better husbands/bf's. Those that have no expectations get cheated on etc. JMO
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
...because he says he's too tired,yet he still "does it" to Internet porn, could he REALLY be too tired?? Or could there be another logical reason? Or is he just cheating? I know, I'm beating a dead horse here (see my prior posts) but I would just like to hear from the guys out there. Could there be a logical excuse??
 Quoting: Kristina


He is addictted to porn , people have already posted its the problem. It is becoming very come with the high-speed internet age, women too.

send him to www.reddit.com/r/NoFap
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
Go on a vacation for a while without him.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23097787


Can't afford a vacation, but I might be going to a Walking Dead season premiere party Sunday without him. But, that's just because he has to work.
 Quoting: Kristina


Thread hijacked, a season premier party? Wtf? People do this?
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
It could be a simple thing too ok.
It could be that you turn sex into an event and he just wants uncomplicated pleasure. Masturbation is very selfish and economical for a man. Maybe he really is too tired to do the whole "love making" thing and worrying about feelings and emotions.
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
Yes.

Most likely he has poisoned his natural sex drive by watching sadistic types of porn.

Being that once one watches porn repeatedly over the years, more depravity is needed to 'get there' if you will. Once one learns to rely on this edge, they find they can no longer perform under more productive sexual practices with a loved one or willing partner.


There is only one way back, and that is a complete removal of said stimuli to re-balance one natural sex drive.
 Quoting: Seer777


Porn will do that to you. Moreover even if you are an attractive woman it won't make up for the fake women and the fantasies generated by his depraved porn soaked brain.

I recommend dumping him and let him know why, he has cheated on you with his porn fantasy girl.
 Quoting: SevenThunders



Lack of sex was the main reason I left my marriage. I still don't have much sex, but at least I don't have to watch him get drunk every night.

And yes, he had problems with porn, too.
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Looks like OP got baned for her 'Call-out' thread.
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
be nice and
pick a girl for him
maybe a relative so things stay in the family


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...because he says he's too tired, yet he still "does it" to Internet porn, could he REALLY be too tired?? Or could there be another logical reason? Or is he just cheating? I know, I'm beating a dead horse here (see my prior posts) but I would just like to hear from the guys out there. Could there be a logical excuse??
 Quoting: Kristina
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
First let me say,

I doubt he is cheating. My guess is its a rut.
Have you tried "catching him" but reacting ina good way. then get interested in what he is looking at,,, mov his hand away and take over... innocely talk dirty the whole time.... or


May I suggest a get-away. Just for a weekend or 3 days away together. It does not have to be extravagant.

Doing this had a positive affect for my own marriage.

1. hotel rooms are small, and if you go away for a couple days there is no reason to bring a laptop... so the two of you will be forced to spend time in the same room andto sped time site seeing or whatever.

When we did this I saw a ton of other women while we were walking around, going to dinner etc. some were quite hot and dressed quite sexy. It was stimulating but not forced or sleazy like a strip club would be.

Since you are away, you will likely dress up yourselves for dinner etc. Now he will see you dressed up the whole time and start to notice you.... and with no internet porn around to compete you will gain his attention.

After spending the day/night with the wife out and about I started to notice hot she was again and why i liked her when we met. I couldn't wait to getback to the room and...

After the mini vacation, it stuck for a while. Now we take weekend trips more often and things hav improved greatly.


just my 2cents
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
the poor bastard might just be physically and emotionaly
burned out with everything that is going on in the world.

if he is a good man otherwise give him time and any assistance you can.

im like that if business and finances are bad i loose all interest in sex
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
With some of my EXs we used to masturbate face to face if intercourse was unwelcome in that particular period. A very intimate feeling.
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
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This.


Porn=Poison.

hf
 Quoting: Seer777


The Great Porn Experiment: Gary Wilson at TEDxGlasgow



OP WATCH THIS.
IT WILL EXPLAIN EVERYTHING.

 Quoting: pink cat


Yes.

Most likely he has poisoned his natural sex drive by watching sadistic types of porn.

Being that once one watches porn repeatedly over the years, more depravity is needed to 'get there' if you will. Once one learns to rely on this edge, they find they can no longer perform under more productive sexual practices with a loved one or willing partner.


There is only one way back, and that is a complete removal of said stimuli to re-balance one natural sex drive.
 Quoting: Seer777


You could be right, but I don't think so. He's watched porn the entire time we've been together and it's never been an issue.
 Quoting: Kristina


They just told you the problem.
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
Problem with porn here! I don't think I have had sex w/my wife in 6 months. All things even though, we both have gained about 30 lbs since being married. Unfortunately for her 30lbs is much more obvious. We have pretty much lost our sexual attraction to each other.
On a brighter note, we both just started going to the gym :)

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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
Been married since I was 18. Crazy I know. Its been over 35 years now. You need to stop needing and start turn your relationship to love. True love will change it. Instead of need turn it to true love. Love with out conditions. It will take time but you will be happy in the end. Just saying.
 Quoting: Joker


don't listen to this mamsy pamsy joker

you need to make him think other men want to fuck his woman

if you want him to fuck you like he did back in the old days

;)
 Quoting: ^TrInItY^


This.....guys can just get too comfortable. My husband of 7 years has never cheated, nor have I, but honestly? What gets him going the most is if we're out for a walk or otherwise in public and he catches another man eyeing me. Totally serious.
"Live each day like it's your last, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like no one is watching."
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Re: If a man keeps turning down sex...
Could be anger issues, which at his age probably won't be going away even with therapy.

Some guys/gals get off on setting up impossible situations, setting people up to fail. They don't keep friends of either sex very long.

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