If a man keeps turning down sex...

Men are usually visual women are emotional (when it comes to sex) and therefore porn excites him more than sex with you. Lose some weight, spice it up, offer him some excitement.

Men are usually visual women are emotional (when it comes to sex) and therefore porn excites him more than sex with you. Lose some weight, spice it up, offer him some excitement.

honestly op i think it is the net porn

Well, I never imagined this thread would go like it did. Thanks for all the good advice and the not-so-good advice. LOL But, I do have to work in the morning, so I'm going to go.

Porn is a searching of the imagination....... If he really is addicted to Porn then he may need the freedom to understand that it is just an illusion. The only thing that is real is the affection between two people that love each other.

I can speak from the perspective of someone who was addicted to eroticism........ all consuming, all entrancing.

He can only escape when he realizes it is an illusion. If you have the nerve, ask him what his wildest fantasy is....... And if you can stand it.....give it to him.

If this doesn't open his eyes then you must decide how long you can wait until he comes down from the erotic high. Honestly it could take years.

Unfortunately you must also accept the possibility that his affection for you is going away.

Nothing in life is every easy!

Last Edited by scimitar on 10/09/2012 09:27 PM

WTF? Why you with someone that much older? Money huh? Guess he figured it out..My bets are that he is cheating with the woman at work..Why be with you? Youre way too easy.

This is bad advice and you should feel bad.

My wife at times has me wanting nothing to do with her. We've been together 8 years and married 3. I used to be the biggest sex addict there was

The problem is, she really pisses me off sometimes. I am not a man that will be bossed around and she tries to! I don't want to argue, I don't want to compromise. I know what I want and if I don't get what I want, f* it. My biggest thing is my wife feeling like she can "tell me" what to do (outside of the bedroom). Then she wonders why I don't want her and if I'm cheating, etc. Think of what happens/how you treat him prior to him going on these "no sex" binges.



You'd also be surprised if you actually became less demanding and more fun it might go a long way (god I wish my wife would learn this). Have a good time, go out, start teasing in public, enjoy the time out without the "Well you haven't had sex with me for the past 4 days" crap

Wow u have more issues than most women I know...I would not be able to stand a whining sex witholding man...YUCK!

does he like boys??

I believe you came and visited me at my office about this subject, did you not?

cheating or gay

He is not into you. That simple.

Did you offer to investigate?

This poster really does have the right attitude. Never give up your morals for a man..and a man with no expectations from his woman..well she should expect nothing.. My experience to this is women with expectations from their men tend to have better husbands/bf's. Those that have no expectations get cheated on etc. JMO

He is addictted to porn , people have already posted its the problem. It is becoming very come with the high-speed internet age, women too.

send him to www.reddit.com/r/NoFap

Thread hijacked, a season premier party? Wtf? People do this?

It could be a simple thing too ok.
It could be that you turn sex into an event and he just wants uncomplicated pleasure. Masturbation is very selfish and economical for a man. Maybe he really is too tired to do the whole "love making" thing and worrying about feelings and emotions.

Lack of sex was the main reason I left my marriage. I still don't have much sex, but at least I don't have to watch him get drunk every night.

And yes, he had problems with porn, too.

Looks like OP got baned for her 'Call-out' thread.

be nice and
pick a girl for him
maybe a relative so things stay in the family


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First let me say,

I doubt he is cheating. My guess is its a rut.
Have you tried "catching him" but reacting ina good way. then get interested in what he is looking at,,, mov his hand away and take over... innocely talk dirty the whole time.... or


May I suggest a get-away. Just for a weekend or 3 days away together. It does not have to be extravagant.

Doing this had a positive affect for my own marriage.

1. hotel rooms are small, and if you go away for a couple days there is no reason to bring a laptop... so the two of you will be forced to spend time in the same room andto sped time site seeing or whatever.

When we did this I saw a ton of other women while we were walking around, going to dinner etc. some were quite hot and dressed quite sexy. It was stimulating but not forced or sleazy like a strip club would be.

Since you are away, you will likely dress up yourselves for dinner etc. Now he will see you dressed up the whole time and start to notice you.... and with no internet porn around to compete you will gain his attention.

After spending the day/night with the wife out and about I started to notice hot she was again and why i liked her when we met. I couldn't wait to getback to the room and...

After the mini vacation, it stuck for a while. Now we take weekend trips more often and things hav improved greatly.


just my 2cents

the poor bastard might just be physically and emotionaly
burned out with everything that is going on in the world.

if he is a good man otherwise give him time and any assistance you can.

im like that if business and finances are bad i loose all interest in sex

With some of my EXs we used to masturbate face to face if intercourse was unwelcome in that particular period. A very intimate feeling.

They just told you the problem.

Problem with porn here! I don't think I have had sex w/my wife in 6 months. All things even though, we both have gained about 30 lbs since being married. Unfortunately for her 30lbs is much more obvious. We have pretty much lost our sexual attraction to each other.
On a brighter note, we both just started going to the gym :)

This.....guys can just get too comfortable. My husband of 7 years has never cheated, nor have I, but honestly? What gets him going the most is if we're out for a walk or otherwise in public and he catches another man eyeing me. Totally serious.

Could be anger issues, which at his age probably won't be going away even with therapy.

Some guys/gals get off on setting up impossible situations, setting people up to fail. They don't keep friends of either sex very long.