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Message Subject If a man keeps turning down sex...
Poster Handle Anonymous Coward
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Believe it or not - sometimes we men (adults) actually get tired of sex. Masturbation is quick and easy with none of the emotional hang-ups that comes with a partner.

Me and my wife have been together for a wee bit over 20 years and for a period of 3 years I'm not sure if we even had sex - and although I felt guilty, I simply was not interested.

Things changed after I read something (I wish I could remember the title and could post a link) that explained that the sex drive had to be exercised. If you (and him) made an effort to simply go through the motions 2 to 3 times a week the sexual appetite will come back and will last. It's one of those things where the more you do it - the more you want to do it.

Hon - I've watched or read porn throughout my marriage and have never cheated on my wife. I loved her than and now (even though she's now a bit on the chubby side like myself) but would never consider being with another. It's an escape into my imagination - that's all.

Best thing to do is talk to him - explain that YOU have a need and ask him to do this for you. Set up a schedule (Tuesdays and Fridays or whatever) and keep to it no matter how either one of you feel that night. Make the night a little special - favorite foods, wine, use your imagination. Before long he will start reminding you that it's Nookie Night and will enjoy it himself. NEVER deviate from the schedule (unless one of you are truly ill or away) - but feel free to add an extra night whenever the "need" arises for him. You can always "test the waters" for your own desires.

If he loves you, and you explain that it's a need for you, he'll go through the motions for you at first, and begin to enjoy it again in the near future. If he refuses to meet your needs to save your relationship - well... to put it bluntly - he doesn't love you and you will have to work that out on your own.

Hope this wall of text helps... It saved my marriage.
 
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