If a man keeps turning down sex...

No offense to the op but she must be like 300pounds...

Two logical reasons
a: your ugly
b: your pussy smells

Believe it or not - sometimes we men (adults) actually get tired of sex. Masturbation is quick and easy with none of the emotional hang-ups that comes with a partner.

Me and my wife have been together for a wee bit over 20 years and for a period of 3 years I'm not sure if we even had sex - and although I felt guilty, I simply was not interested.

Things changed after I read something (I wish I could remember the title and could post a link) that explained that the sex drive had to be exercised. If you (and him) made an effort to simply go through the motions 2 to 3 times a week the sexual appetite will come back and will last. It's one of those things where the more you do it - the more you want to do it.

Hon - I've watched or read porn throughout my marriage and have never cheated on my wife. I loved her than and now (even though she's now a bit on the chubby side like myself) but would never consider being with another. It's an escape into my imagination - that's all.

Best thing to do is talk to him - explain that YOU have a need and ask him to do this for you. Set up a schedule (Tuesdays and Fridays or whatever) and keep to it no matter how either one of you feel that night. Make the night a little special - favorite foods, wine, use your imagination. Before long he will start reminding you that it's Nookie Night and will enjoy it himself. NEVER deviate from the schedule (unless one of you are truly ill or away) - but feel free to add an extra night whenever the "need" arises for him. You can always "test the waters" for your own desires.

If he loves you, and you explain that it's a need for you, he'll go through the motions for you at first, and begin to enjoy it again in the near future. If he refuses to meet your needs to save your relationship - well... to put it bluntly - he doesn't love you and you will have to work that out on your own.

Hope this wall of text helps... It saved my marriage.

Are you talking about Real sex or virtual fake sex? You know why if it is the latter, only the real thing will do.

My advice would be to talk to him and encourage to build up his "strength" for you. If he waits a day or two, he'll be like a stallion with you.

it means he's an addict and a narcissist. it's not you, it's him. but you're probably not helping.

May have.... I had just sent her a PM too... Oh well, she'll sweat for a while then maybe wise up.

hmmm.very strange.ppl who use sex as reward or panishment, or as blackmailing bargening chip, are so nasty....i don't care how mad you are, or tired, or sick, unless ur partner cheated on you, or killed a puppy, you got to put out....if you are asked for sex by your significant other, it is ur sacred duty to put out....unless yah some serious crime has been comitted....sweety it could be a number of reasons why he is aviding sex, you have to make hi tell you, honestly. if he will not, there you he is hiding something, bt it can still be a number of things, only he knows....

She sent a message in another thread just before the ban, asking me something I said previously. She's searching for so many answers.

Speaking as a female, when I watch porn it totally burns into my brain. I can't get the images out of my mind.

It does affect your psychology and I guess for guys it is more exciting to do the extreme or brutal sex acts that most women will not agree to.

I don't think u should compromise ur self in this way. He is not marriage material.

aw my goodness, i firmly believe that not having sex at least every second day is grounds for divorce. i can go one day without making love to my man,(if i have to) the next day if i don't get mine, i get very nervous and jumpy, and have trouble sleeping.

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Nothing more needs to be said......

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what a troll thread

Yeah... I started to feel bad for her. She seemed a little TOO desperate. That's why I PM'd.

Oh well, Back to


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He does not want to be close to you.

For a man to turn down sex is rare, and there is ALWAYS a reason. It is either mostly his fault (porn?) or mostly your fault (bitching and complaining). Or worse, both of these.

My guess is that he's turned to porn for his sexual and even emotional outlet. The question is why. Like others have said, "It's easier".

If you are a shrew, if constantly nag an nitpick, if you complain or are overly critical, if you get angry and then have a hard time letting it go, then you WILL drive your man away. Most men won't actually 'get up and walk out', though some will. You have a man who has the mindset that 'I need to stay', for whatever reason.

The big problem is not the sex.

The big problem is to figure out what's caused him to not want it from YOU.

I will tell you this, I never turned down the real thing over a computer screen, washrag and Jergen's.

Whether it's real or not, whether you deserve it or not, in HIS mind, the reason is something YOU have done or said or both. And he's maybe even angry for some reason and the passive-aggressive approach is how he gets back at you - denying you something you obviously want. And maybe he does want to leave but doesn't want to be the 'bad guy' (who does?) so he's hoping you will want it bad enough to screw up and get it elsewhere - making his decision to leave both easy and fully justifiable.

Now you just have to figure out how YOU fucked up.

He's cheating!!!! Start snooping and you will find your answer.

LOL ^ winner

My wife is the same way - and I find it hard to sleep without it anymore. The last 4 years it's been my sleeping pill 4-5 times a week (sometimes more). Oddly though - she gets totally energized while I get entirely sedated. I guess we are now "sex addicts" - but with each other so it's all good here. FYI - we're both pushing 50 and it's never been better - not even in way back in my teens.

Big mistake.. it's his house and she can't afford to live on her own!

Not to mention what you don't know what hurt you! :)

cheating on you? no, but the way you always go straight to the negative, i wouldnt be surprised if he left you

ill give you what you need

may I just throw in some other ideas "why not" ?

- STD
- too much wanking and therefore either really to tired or just too used to his hand
- he is getting old. at 52, not all can perform as they did some years ago any more when they are with a woman.
- midlife crisis, thinking that most part of his life is over and all those thoughts that come with that and can be depressing
- propecia or other drugs to prevent hair loss
- prescription drugs for epileptics or depression
the last two points have less interest/ability in making love ..maybe that´s why he is only able to wank off to porn

from personal experience:
- one was falling in love with another woman and therefore had no more interest in me
- one was sexually abused as child by his own mother and had issues with normal intercourse, only could get off when wanking to real harcore pron;
- one was really physically hard working in different shifts every week on a chemical plant and therefore just really too tired - and it did not become better when i asked him for more as it stressed him out even more
- some others had so many things going on in their lifes (which they didn´t chat about as girls normally do, as they are men)that they just lost interest for some time. when they had solved their problems on their own, as men do, everything was back to normal again.

none of them was cheating, I know that for sure.
(the ones cheating never lost their sexual appetite,btw)

i could go on and on why a man can´t or doesn´t want to proof he is a man.

just don´t forget he is a human being with feelings and issues and so on, too. not just a piece of meat.
let go for a while, concentrade on other things.

and may i ask, did anything else change? do you still kiss as you used to, hold hands, say nice words?
if not, why? start it again, see how he reacts.

when it does not go back to normal on its own and everything else is ok, talk to him. but in a friendly way.

You need to suck his balls.

Sometimes the desire and the energy fade away. Hopefully not until you're sixty or more.
He needs to lay off porn, start doing some aerobic interval training and weight lifting to get in better shape, less fatigue.

Just be honest. Tell him you're concerned about how often he's been too tired to do it and then ask him if there's anything that's stressing him out that he'd like to talk about or anything you could do to get re-connecting.

Honestly it could be a million totally innocent things. He could be experiencing insecurity about himself right now.

There is 0 need to manipulate or lie to your partner in this situation so I wouldn't try any of those methods that involve either. Could make something fixable spiral out of control into something not so fixable.

what about cookign him dinner and waiting on him on hand and knee?


or maybe he's impotent and can only get off on internet porn.

why buy milk when you have a cow at home unless his junk dont work on you. which is his fault for being fixated on porn, now that's the only thing that can turn him on.