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How can I stay positive ?

 
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Hey I've been going through a really tough time for about 3 years and things just don't seem to gt any better my mom passed 3 years ago and my dad doesn't talk to me and I'm 24 years old trying to survive !! Granted I think that I will become stronger but it is very tough I walk to work everyday and I have a clubbed foot which hurts every night . I seem to be just swimming in a spiral of negativity I have one twin sister that has struggled too and has 2 kids with a black man that's abusive and controlling and is 21 and uses other people including my sister . I feel like crap and very alone I honestly don't know what to do. I don't make enough for health insurance or to buy a car and I have no family that contacts me . I already know I will be spending thanksgiving and Christmas alone I could care less abou gifts but it hurts a lot what can I do to stay positive how can things get better ? Thanks
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Jiu Jitsu My Friend ~
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Move to California and practice Martial arts !
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Move to California and practice Martial arts !
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I wish I could I'd like to get away I actually work at a Chinese restaurant with a grand master but he is old and doesn't teach anymore
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dont know, i failed at life myself, just riding out the wave now.
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dont know, i failed at life myself, just riding out the wave now.
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I don't want to fail though I want to become happy again I want positivity to surround me
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choose to be positive.

your choice.
Who does your thinking?
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dont know, i failed at life myself, just riding out the wave now.
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I don't want to fail though I want to become happy again I want positivity to surround me
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best of luck, unfortunatly most people end up like me. your still young enough to get lucky in life so thats something.
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10/11/2012 02:15 AM
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Sorry for your loss.

That's a tough one.

Prayers.
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choose to be positive.

your choice.
 Quoting: Giftedest


choose to be positive.

your choice.
 Quoting: Giftedest


Yes I do try honestly but life gets in the way and money
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I prayed for you OP.

I prayed for you to have guidance and a nudge in the right direction so as to see avenues for further positivity, love and guidance to direct your path in that direction...

It sounded really good when I prayed, lol. wish I could remember what I said, but, we all hear you and HE does too!!!
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I prayed for you OP.

I prayed for you to have guidance and a nudge in the right direction so as to see avenues for further positivity, love and guidance to direct your path in that direction...

It sounded really good when I prayed, lol. wish I could remember what I said, but, we all hear you and HE does too!!!
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Thank you for takin the time ! I guess I'm missing a lot of support in my life and I'm struggling and trying to cope with things on my own I need more support
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10/11/2012 02:20 AM
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Ok sometimes other peoples misery makes ME feel better so here goes my last month...

Ok I just got divorced I haven't SEEN or spoken to my daughter in over a year, (she's pissed,)I pay $1500 a month to my ex she still lives in MY house I rent a small room from some Chinese people,I just got a $8000 bill from my lawyer, $7000 in taxes due, extension is up on the 15th. had a root canal last week , good news they found another bad tooth make it TWO root canals no insurance for that thank you with crowns about $5k.
My job as a mechanic has been challenging as of late nothing easy ,I work on ALL cars. just finished a timing chain on a 06 Altima 3.5 ,4 cam , my first ,on my feet for 10 hours on that gem , gotta pull a dash on an 88 lincoln tomorrow that will suck (heater core), evap leaks , smog fails,electrical drains,NO brake jobs, NO tune ups shocks and struts only PAIN in the ass SHIT and I closed my finger in a car door last week I think the nail is going to fall off hurts like the dickens.
But you know what , I'm happy I'm divorced, I feel free, the best things in life are not THINGS ! everyone is gifted in some area, find it and USE it. Find a higher power to believe in and THRIVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

.. or if that doesn't work for you like my old boss Chala used to say "keep punching"


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oh yea and your sisters life is hers to live, you can't fix hers, fix YOURS !
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I prayed for you OP.

I prayed for you to have guidance and a nudge in the right direction so as to see avenues for further positivity, love and guidance to direct your path in that direction...

It sounded really good when I prayed, lol. wish I could remember what I said, but, we all hear you and HE does too!!!
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16678904


Thank you for takin the time ! I guess I'm missing a lot of support in my life and I'm struggling and trying to cope with things on my own I need more support
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21774159


I hear you, it's been a bit tough here too, but I won't get into it, just, difficult and stressful.

My big thing I do is make a list of my gratitudes. Did I have a meal to eat?, did I have a new day to try to get things better??. etc. etc... It does help. The rest works itself out as long as you are guided in the right direction, and, you ask for help along, no, the entire way...

I hope you will ask for guidance and fully let in the spirit, it does help. We all need faith, it really does help.
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Diamonds are made under years of pressure !
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Ok sometimes other peoples misery makes ME feel better so here goes my last month...

Ok I just got divorced I haven't SEEN or spoken to my daughter in over a year, (she's pissed,)I pay $1500 a month to my ex she still lives in MY house I rent a small room from some Chinese people,I just got a $8000 bill from my lawyer, $7000 in taxes due, extension is up on the 15th. had a root canal last week , good news they found another bad tooth make it TWO root canals no insurance for that thank you with crowns about $5k.
My job as a mechanic has been challenging as of late nothing easy ,I work on ALL cars. just finished a timing chain on a 06 Altima 3.5 ,4 cam , my first ,on my feet for 10 hours on that gem , gotta pull a dash on an 88 lincoln tomorrow that will suck (heater core), evap leaks , smog fails,electrical drains,NO brake jobs, NO tune ups shocks and struts only PAIN in the ass SHIT and I closed my finger in a car door last week I think the nail is going to fall off hurts like the dickens.
But you know what , I'm happy I'm divorced, I feel free, the best things in life are not THINGS ! everyone is gifted in some area, find it and USE it. Find a higher power to believe in and THRIVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

.. or if that doesn't work for you like my old boss Chala used to say "keep punching"


rumble

oh yea and your sisters life is hers to live, you can't fix hers, fix YOURS !
 Quoting: beebob 24800996

Wow man I can't believe how shits just snowballs like that !!! It really doesn't make me feel better that someone is going through something worse then me but I know I'm not alone I honestly don't know how I would be able to manage your life compared to mine ! I feel for you and thank you for putting yourself out there ! One thin I've become to realize is nothing lasts forever
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I prayed for you OP.

I prayed for you to have guidance and a nudge in the right direction so as to see avenues for further positivity, love and guidance to direct your path in that direction...

It sounded really good when I prayed, lol. wish I could remember what I said, but, we all hear you and HE does too!!!
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16678904


Thank you for takin the time ! I guess I'm missing a lot of support in my life and I'm struggling and trying to cope with things on my own I need more support
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21774159


I hear you, it's been a bit tough here too, but I won't get into it, just, difficult and stressful.

My big thing I do is make a list of my gratitudes. Did I have a meal to eat?, did I have a new day to try to get things better??. etc. etc... It does help. The rest works itself out as long as you are guided in the right direction, and, you ask for help along, no, the entire way...

I hope you will ask for guidance and fully let in the spirit, it does help. We all need faith, it really does help.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16678904
. Thanks and I hope your life gets better too one thing I never think about is god I feel like I'm on autopilot sometimes and don't think to much
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10/11/2012 02:29 AM
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Diamonds are made under years of pressure !
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That's a great saying I hope I turn out to be a shiny diamond
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10/11/2012 02:33 AM
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Life is what you make it.. you being a key word. No-one will change your outlooks or situation for you, you must do it yourself.... Do not take those as me being abrasive, its not how I'm trying to convey my attempt to answer your question and I can only do so by applying my life experiences the last 33 year's and I'm sure its much different then yours. Results will vary, you will make wrong decisions you swore were the right , correct or logical ones. Sometimes life is a bloody mess but all you can do is keep tracking and be willing and open to makeajor changes or minor changes in your life and behavior to make a more positive exsistence for yourself.. good luck and chin up.

Word to ur brotha..
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Life is what you make it.. you being a key word. No-one will change your outlooks or situation for you, you must do it yourself.... Do not take those as me being abrasive, its not how I'm trying to convey my attempt to answer your question and I can only do so by applying my life experiences the last 33 year's and I'm sure its much different then yours. Results will vary, you will make wrong decisions you swore were the right , correct or logical ones. Sometimes life is a bloody mess but all you can do is keep tracking and be willing and open to makeajor changes or minor changes in your life and behavior to make a more positive exsistence for yourself.. good luck and chin up.

Word to ur brotha..
 Quoting: sinco


Thank you I gotta keep strong I can't give up
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Ok sometimes other peoples misery makes ME feel better so here goes my last month...

Ok I just got divorced I haven't SEEN or spoken to my daughter in over a year, (she's pissed,)I pay $1500 a month to my ex she still lives in MY house I rent a small room from some Chinese people,I just got a $8000 bill from my lawyer, $7000 in taxes due, extension is up on the 15th. had a root canal last week , good news they found another bad tooth make it TWO root canals no insurance for that thank you with crowns about $5k.
My job as a mechanic has been challenging as of late nothing easy ,I work on ALL cars. just finished a timing chain on a 06 Altima 3.5 ,4 cam , my first ,on my feet for 10 hours on that gem , gotta pull a dash on an 88 lincoln tomorrow that will suck (heater core), evap leaks , smog fails,electrical drains,NO brake jobs, NO tune ups shocks and struts only PAIN in the ass SHIT and I closed my finger in a car door last week I think the nail is going to fall off hurts like the dickens.
But you know what , I'm happy I'm divorced, I feel free, the best things in life are not THINGS ! everyone is gifted in some area, find it and USE it. Find a higher power to believe in and THRIVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

.. or if that doesn't work for you like my old boss Chala used to say "keep punching"


rumble

oh yea and your sisters life is hers to live, you can't fix hers, fix YOURS !
 Quoting: beebob 24800996


thoughts and prayers sent your way dude. I'm really sorry... I hope things look up for you, we all do.

Do you know anything about 1998 Suzuki Sidekick JLX 1.8 liter engines?, lol..

Lemme know,, just kidding... it's just another one of those things making life difficult being out a car... but I said I wouldn't get into it b/c I don't even care. I just hope things get better for you all, well, us all...


take care and GOD BLESS
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Life is what you make it.. you being a key word. No-one will change your outlooks or situation for you, you must do it yourself.... Do not take those as me being abrasive, its not how I'm trying to convey my attempt to answer your question and I can only do so by applying my life experiences the last 33 year's and I'm sure its much different then yours. Results will vary, you will make wrong decisions you swore were the right , correct or logical ones. Sometimes life is a bloody mess but all you can do is keep tracking and be willing and open to makeajor changes or minor changes in your life and behavior to make a more positive exsistence for yourself.. good luck and chin up.

Word to ur brotha..
 Quoting: sinco


Thank you I gotta keep strong I can't give up
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faith helps with this, it isn't so much asking someone to help you, it is asking for a guiding hand to help you figure it out, It works through YOU..... I don't think many understand this.

The result of the guiding hand is up to you, the request of the guiding hand is also up to you

;-)
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My advice to you op..get out of the system as soon and as much as you can..away from cities..towns..etc..head for small rural villages..here in europe they are lovely..dont know what they are like over there.Live simply in contact with nature..limit your needs and debts or better still have none..grow spiritually and try to surround yourself with loving people with true values

Live from the earth, with tne earth..get animals..love them..they help to heal emotionally in my opinion.

As consumers we are addicted to society..we tick according to its values..get a job..make money..etc..but tbe world of God tbat is here though we dont see it says...leave everything..and follow me..

Look for the signs to lead you and point the way..if you ask for them they will happen..Too often God speaks to us..pointing the way where he wants us to be..our place..a place prepared for us and us alone..but we are tied to things and people that lead us astray and we dont listen to God..and when we take that one wrong turn at the crossroads its usually too late.

Make the right choices op and run..run away..this place is cursed

At least that is what i believe
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Life is what you make it.. you being a key word. No-one will change your outlooks or situation for you, you must do it yourself.... Do not take those as me being abrasive, its not how I'm trying to convey my attempt to answer your question and I can only do so by applying my life experiences the last 33 year's and I'm sure its much different then yours. Results will vary, you will make wrong decisions you swore were the right , correct or logical ones. Sometimes life is a bloody mess but all you can do is keep tracking and be willing and open to makeajor changes or minor changes in your life and behavior to make a more positive exsistence for yourself.. good luck and chin up.

Word to ur brotha..
 Quoting: sinco


Thank you I gotta keep strong I can't give up
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21774159


faith helps with this, it isn't so much asking someone to help you, it is asking for a guiding hand to help you figure it out, It works through YOU..... I don't think many understand this.

The result of the guiding hand is up to you, the request of the guiding hand is also up to you

;-)
 Quoting: ! 16678904



K, instead of being labeled an AC on that post, I am labeled by the forum as "!".

what does that mean? never seen it before.... maybe I'm onto something??. It'll probably change at some point and someone will throw up a BS flag or something...

God bless you all, I seriously mean that. These ain't easy times. Keep yourself grounded and strong and faith in the light/postitive, for me that is Christ, b/c we gonna need it...
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Move to California and practice Martial arts !
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I wish I could I'd like to get away I actually work at a Chinese restaurant with a grand master but he is old and doesn't teach anymore
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you place you are now, should bring it to you!
you could contact the old man at the restaurant,
telling him exactly that what you told us..

you will see!
moral reasoning takes about 250 miliseconds
we make errors in between
perception->relation->behaviour
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom OP...that's so painful and has got to be tough at your age. Young women need their moms. You must feel so alone...and I understand that feeling.

Your dad must be hurting inside too...I don't know what the problem between you is...but family is forever and as you get older...you'll realize how much family matters. I hope you can bridge that gap with him somehow.

What your sister is going through is so dysfunctional....but you need to realize it is her problem...not yours. You can be supportive to her, but separate from who you are, and don't let it effect your daily emotions because ultimately, it is her problem to solve when she's ready.

Sounds like you need some supportive people around you. I know that's tough when you don't have money or close friends, so maybe join a young persons group at a church? You could find like minded people there who will understand and do things with. Maybe also you could find a wise woman there to be like a mom to you.

Also...our thoughts shape our perspectives of life. So guard your thoughts and keep them positive because WHAT you think becomes your reality. Prayers and love out to you sweetie. hf
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OP the fact that you are here posting is a good thing and you haven't given up yet.

Stay positive man, why don't you sign up here on glp?

It's not always positive but it's something to do and is funny sometimes too.

Keep us posted man
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set some goals in your life
little ones at first (get a bike to cycle to work)
welcome the day with a smile even if you feel like crying
(fake it till you make it)
and stop feeding the wrong wolf

One day an old Native American grandfather was talking to his grandson. He said, "There are two wolves fighting inside all of us - the wolf of fear and hate, and the wolf of love and peace."

The grandson listened, then looked up at his grandfather and asked, "Which one will win?"

The grandfather replied, "The one we feed."


what ever you focus on in life you make real ...
try to keep your focus positive.

also do not blame life ..when you have a choice in the way you wish to look at it.

keep positive
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Try to make a change today, that will make somthing in your life better or easier tomorrow.
Love yourself and forgive yourself for past mistakes.
Learn from the past and create the future. hf
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Awe I send you a big hug that's really rough...

Ultimately the good is more worth it than the bad...

But ur in a shitty situation, just know how strong and good u are in spite of the shit.

U will always appeciate the good more than others, u will b less of a douchebag because you've lived realistically, not in a fantasy.

Stay strong gurl and know there are forces (non religious) which feel for you and love you, including this random stranger :)

Just keep on keepin on gurl and do what u can to make things better, even just in small ways, small things can make a big difference sometimes :D
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Awe I send you a big hug that's really rough...

Ultimately the good is more worth it than the bad...

But ur in a shitty situation, just know how strong and good u are in spite of the shit.

U will always appeciate the good more than others, u will b less of a douchebag because you've lived realistically, not in a fantasy.

Stay strong gurl and know there are forces (non religious) which feel for you and love you, including this random stranger :)

Just keep on keepin on gurl and do what u can to make things better, even just in small ways, small things can make a big difference sometimes :D





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