Man, you guys are sad. I feel sorry for the games which appear to have been played on you, for you to see all women like that.
Note: we are not all like that. Problem is, most of us are not out on the prowl, so, you never get to meet us.
Quoting: Esoteric Morgan Stop trying to be a "nice girl" educating a threadful of pigs.
They don't want nice girls, even if they say they do.
They sure as hell don't deserve them, so they won't attract them. Just let the trash attract the trash.
Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23200727 IN DEFENSE OF GUYHOODI'm not going to bash all men, just because they have LEARNED to view women as objects. It's not all their doing. And, I have a feeling
they DO need to hear another side of this subject, because it is totally TRUE that many woman have used men as a meal ticket, or, a benefactor, for nobody's benefit but their own.
Why hide he truth, and let otherwise nice guys run in fear of anything in a skirt and heels ...or, in my case, combat boots (not always!)?
There was a time when the bulk of women acted like ladies, and were treated with respect, simply because they acted as if they deserved respect.
I have NEVER been treated as an object. Why? Probably because of the way I carry myself, my personality, the fact that I don't flaunt my assets, and, there's nothing to be afraid of.
I'm not
TRYING to be a nice girl, I
AM a nice girl!
I have two sons, now on their own. I made certain that they learned how to discern trouble. My eldest was in the 3rd grade when a classmate, from a religious family no less, sent him a note saying she wanted 'to do it with' him.
I know more guys who've been used and spit out, cheated on and emotionally abused than women.
Yet, I know a lot of bitchy c-word women, women who've snagged their man with wiles, then proceeded to make sure he keeps them on the pedestal they think they deserve. Once she tires of him, she's out flaunting her wares to the next guy. Many of them won't even lift a finger to help, once they move in.
This poor soul I know was a really nice, cute guy. By the age of 35 he owned his own home, had a dynamite job with a great pension and benefits. He wound up husband number 2, marrying his new next door neighbor after she got pregnant. She was cute, bubbly, friendly, and had gotten her house in a divorce settlement.
His home was sold to afford a bigger one, because she came with two cute kids, and the infant was sleeping in their room.
Within a few years, she talked him into moving to the country, in another state...meaning, he would have a 2 hour commute each way. As he was now just a handful of years to retirement, she made it sound idyllic.
Somehow, his city job was informed that he was living out of state, so he was now in a conundrum. She suggested he stay with us, in an empty apartment we had, to come home on weekends.
One day, a change in his schedule finds him able to sneak home. He finds her boinking another guy, with his three year old daughter asleep within range.
She divorced him, accused him of abandonment, and mental anguish, which amazingly, had been backed up by years of complaining to friends about his negligence, and worse. We later found out that she was the one who turned him in. Her friends from back then have since woken up.
Now he is retired, paying most of his significant pension out to her for child support and more. He pays alimony, while that other guy is now living in the house he paid off.
She, on the other hand, collects that alimony, and support for three kids in excess of $3000 a month, from her two ex's. The guys love their kids, so they pay for winter ski trips, summer camps, seasonal clothing, extracurricular activities, medical and more, while she has a great job, and almost no bills except food, heat and utilities.
This is just one story of a great guy who can't even afford to meet a new woman, much less a love interest. In his words: "I'm done!"
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So, I know where some of these guys are coming from. I just want them to know that there
are women out there who see the bigger picture.
I bet that had these guys grown up with the right attitude about women and sexuality, some would adore us as goddesses, which would make a good deal of women happy to treat them in kind.
We can blame guys for being crass and immature, but, we should also be blaming the media who portray women as shallow users and mean bitches - which, sadly, send young girls the wrong message, thinking this is how the real world rolls, and, the vixens and users who want to be sure guys think
they're all that. If guys think that all women are like this, no wonder they think of them as meat, then find them running as far away from us as possible.
Treat a guy nicely, and he'll most likely treat you the same.
Oooookie dokie, then.
Lesson over.