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Anonymous Coward User ID: 7554855 Canada 08/12/2013 09:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My wife and her sister had a big argument over hospice care. Her sister signed the contract they use and then refused to take care of her dying father. Instead she tried to force my wife who had control of the finances to pay for 24 hour care and she refused. End of story, end of relationship. Just go with hospice if you want the family to disintegrate. Hospice is evil. Quoting: Mr. Toppit Your story does not make all hospice's evil. That was your family being dysfunctional & is a seperate issue from Hospice. |
Bittercritter User ID: 26255514 United States 08/12/2013 09:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm sorry if they did this but my experience with hospice was very positive. My dad died of lung cancer at home and hospice care was great! it made it possible for him to die at home with his entire family by his side. If I had a choice on how to go it would just like my dad. |
eekers Dreamer of Dreams User ID: 38137469 United States 08/12/2013 09:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We've been trolled. Only one post from OP. how pathetic to troll on this topic. Get a life OP. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7554855 yeah i figured it was a troll or someone a bit removed from reality "We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time." - T. S. Eliot |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7712992 United States 08/12/2013 09:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | my mom was just killed by hospice staff. forced to dehyrdate to death and then over medicated to control the pain casused by the lack of fluid. it was horrific. I never knew what hospice was until this, and they are murderers. my mom was a frail, vulnerable dementia patient murdered legally. Quoting: heartsick 1594591 My mother chose hospice when she was ready, all her organs were shutting down do to renal failure. It took 7 days and was hard to watch. But I remained by her side to the end. She wanted to depart from her own bed and surroundings. As she did. Sorry for your loss |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 21625353 United States 08/12/2013 09:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Web Search: hospice kills with morphine [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] Ten years ago, my family made a lot of bad decisions about giving my Dad chemo/radiation and then they made the decision for hospice to come in. My Dad said he did not want the morphine but they told us, "I don't think you understand why we are here". It is interesting that they made my mother give him the drops towards the end. Did my mother actually kill him? There was also a lady at our church who had cancer of the esophagus. She was alert and still had a quality of life. The people at the church put her in hospice and she was dead the next day. My daughter works in a hospital and she says they send some people to hospice and they joke around about a really harsh nurse who works there whom they call "angel of death". She has them dead within hours. People that live in this world are sick, sick, sick. No one has a right to decide when someone is born or when they die. That is for God. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 44362085 Canada 08/12/2013 09:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It is all about playing God. Many of you who support hospice think you have a right to decide about suffering and end of life. The suffering may be necessary for the next life. A lot of people do not agree with you: Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21625353 Web Search: hospice kills with morphine [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] Ten years ago, my family made a lot of bad decisions about giving my Dad chemo/radiation and then they made the decision for hospice to come in. My Dad said he did not want the morphine but they told us, "I don't think you understand why we are here". It is interesting that they made my mother give him the drops towards the end. Did my mother actually kill him? There was also a lady at our church who had cancer of the esophagus. She was alert and still had a quality of life. The people at the church put her in hospice and she was dead the next day. My daughter works in a hospital and she says they send some people to hospice and they joke around about a really harsh nurse who works there whom they call "angel of death". She has them dead within hours. People that live in this world are sick, sick, sick. No one has a right to decide when someone is born or when they die. That is for God. That's easy for you to say when you're not suffering through the pain. How about for those who have suffered 10+ years "living" with cancer to the point where they just don't have it in them to fight anymore? It is their choice, not yours. And when they make their choice, how do you know God is not guiding them? My aunt fought cancer to the point it pretty much overtook her whole body. She chose to go to the hospice. A few months later, her husband did the same. They went there of their own free will, and the nurses/all the people who worked there, were angels. It takes a special human being to place themselves in an environment with such grief and sorrow and offer comfort to those who need it most. |
beeches User ID: 28167778 United States 08/12/2013 10:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm sorry. Quoting: The Light Under the Door Hospice is end of life care. Don't put loved ones into it if you don't want it to be the end. Wrong. Hospice is to provide end-of-life care, not hasten death. People can use hospice for extended periods in their homes, as long as an MD believes they are terminal. Ever heard of an MD being wrong? Of course you have. My guess is that the patient had an advance directive somewhere that may have led to this. I am sorry for the loss of your mother, and if this thread helps others make end-of-life decisions, you did a wonderful thing by posting it. Liberalism is totalitarianism with a human face – Thomas Sowell |
beeches User ID: 28167778 United States 08/12/2013 10:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It is all about playing God. Many of you who support hospice think you have a right to decide about suffering and end of life. The suffering may be necessary for the next life. A lot of people do not agree with you: Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21625353 Web Search: hospice kills with morphine [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] Ten years ago, my family made a lot of bad decisions about giving my Dad chemo/radiation and then they made the decision for hospice to come in. My Dad said he did not want the morphine but they told us, "I don't think you understand why we are here". It is interesting that they made my mother give him the drops towards the end. Did my mother actually kill him? There was also a lady at our church who had cancer of the esophagus. She was alert and still had a quality of life. The people at the church put her in hospice and she was dead the next day. My daughter works in a hospital and she says they send some people to hospice and they joke around about a really harsh nurse who works there whom they call "angel of death". She has them dead within hours. People that live in this world are sick, sick, sick. No one has a right to decide when someone is born or when they die. That is for God. That's easy for you to say when you're not suffering through the pain. How about for those who have suffered 10+ years "living" with cancer to the point where they just don't have it in them to fight anymore? It is their choice, not yours. And when they make their choice, how do you know God is not guiding them? My aunt fought cancer to the point it pretty much overtook her whole body. She chose to go to the hospice. A few months later, her husband did the same. They went there of their own free will, and the nurses/all the people who worked there, were angels. It takes a special human being to place themselves in an environment with such grief and sorrow and offer comfort to those who need it most. It is all about playing God. Many of you who support hospice think you have a right to decide about suffering and end of life. The suffering may be necessary for the next life. A lot of people do not agree with you: Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21625353 Web Search: hospice kills with morphine [link to www.facebook.com (secure)] Ten years ago, my family made a lot of bad decisions about giving my Dad chemo/radiation and then they made the decision for hospice to come in. My Dad said he did not want the morphine but they told us, "I don't think you understand why we are here". It is interesting that they made my mother give him the drops towards the end. Did my mother actually kill him? There was also a lady at our church who had cancer of the esophagus. She was alert and still had a quality of life. The people at the church put her in hospice and she was dead the next day. My daughter works in a hospital and she says they send some people to hospice and they joke around about a really harsh nurse who works there whom they call "angel of death". She has them dead within hours. People that live in this world are sick, sick, sick. No one has a right to decide when someone is born or when they die. That is for God. That's easy for you to say when you're not suffering through the pain. How about for those who have suffered 10+ years "living" with cancer to the point where they just don't have it in them to fight anymore? It is their choice, not yours. And when they make their choice, how do you know God is not guiding them? My aunt fought cancer to the point it pretty much overtook her whole body. She chose to go to the hospice. A few months later, her husband did the same. They went there of their own free will, and the nurses/all the people who worked there, were angels. It takes a special human being to place themselves in an environment with such grief and sorrow and offer comfort to those who need it most. So you are basically admitting that hospice is a suicide factory. Liberalism is totalitarianism with a human face – Thomas Sowell |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 45018363 Saudi Arabia 08/12/2013 10:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My husband was dying of cancer....had it everywhere in all of his systems...one night the pain was so intense that his pain meds weren't helping at all. I called his oncologist, hysterical. He told me to up his dose, (I can't remember how much, but it was shocking compared to what he had been taking). I asked him if I'd heard him correctly and he confirmed the dose for me immediately. I did as he told me and my husband's pain receded greatly. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1443836 Later that night, he went into a half coma and by midday the next day he had passed. The doc - in his wisdom, was helping my husband to pass peaceably. He had told me that it was going to be any day now. I was in terrible denial and wouldn't hear of any talk like that at the time. I would get almost violent whenver the doc would start talking about preparing for his death, etc. At the time, if I had known what the doc was doing, I would have fought hysterically against it. Looking back years later, I am so grateful for the doctor's compassion. My husband was in excruciating pain - there was absolutely no saving him. My desire to extend his life by a couple of days was a selfish one. I'm not saying that you are selfish, OP. NOT AT ALL!!!! But maybe, there is something to relate to in my story that might help you to put your own story in a different perspective. Sometimes, it just takes some passing of time before we are able to see the death of a loved one more clearly..... This thank you ac 1443836 i work in this field for 25 years and we see these kind of problems/fights almost every week caring for terminally ill patients is one of the hardest thins .. physically and emotionally draining for the caregiver especially if the patient was you mother, father, child, or your brother. and some go bedridden for years and nobody takes care of the caregiver |
GreenishAndCoolish User ID: 42343092 Portugal 08/12/2013 10:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm so sorry man! That sounds like a harsh blow. :( however horrible that may be, the actions of people in this world defy logic constantly. It is therefore no surprise, however logically stupid, that people do psychotic and degradeful actions. They happen to all of us. Logic is a lot of times innefective here on Earth haha. A lot of the population is forced to act like that, many times because of mind control mechanisms that operate all day long. I am sorry. Few are somewhat immune tho, and I hope you can find more sane people to be your friends in the future. :D Any questions let me know! Good day. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7554855 Canada 08/12/2013 01:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No one has the right to say how or when or where I should die. It is my choice whether I wish to go into hospice or die at home or out in a field. Most certainly no-one has the right to decide whether I should take morphine for extreme pain or whether I should suffer the pain with any meds. It is so important for peeps to make a living will, outlining their desires for how they wish to be treated at the end of their lives. A copy of this living will should be giving to family members as well as the lawyer dealing with the estate of such person. In this way, everyone involved has to abide by the conditions set out in this "will". Then no-one can be accused of hurrying up auntie's death. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 44726055 United States 08/12/2013 01:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | They kill you slowly with dehydration and drug overdose. If they want to kill people it should be done with one shot not spread out over days. They are legal killers as long as family allows it. I watched them (actually pallative care),slowly over three days kill my father. I couln't stop it because my step mother was in charge. I will forever be scarred from what I witnessed and couldn't stop in time. Thirsting to death is a horrible way to die. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 44726055 United States 08/12/2013 01:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Morphine shuts down your systems. A hospital in town here makes sure to give most patients it when they enter ER. Morphine can throw you into full cardiac arrest. My mother has been forced into Hospice by my brother who ignored her written wishes & put her in it. She is not even end stage cancer. Hospice has denied her food, fluids, antibiotics for her pneumonia, diabetes monitoring & meds, etc. At this point if she dies, it wont be from the cancer but from being deprived from essentials for life. Im trying to rescue her but no one seems to care. Not the police, the adult protection services, etc. Quoting: They do kill 43628357 You have to raise hell to the hospital administration. I finally got them to put my father back on fluids only too late. You also have to have someone you trust to be there at all times to monitor what medicine is being given. Tell them you don't want her having any pain med unless she verbally says she wants it. Tell them you want to be able to communicate and have that right. It only takes about three days to kill them. I would put a little water in my dad's mouth and he would then try to talk but the pain med still made it where I couldn't understand him. The morphine and dehydration is what will kill them. You have to act fast to make a difference. By the time I understood what was going on it was too late. The hospital became very accomadating when they knew i had done my homework and refuted their arguments for the morphine and lack of care. They were afraid of being sued. Good luck. I know it is painful. I hope you have better luck than I did. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7554855 Canada 08/12/2013 01:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | They kill you slowly with dehydration and drug overdose. If they want to kill people it should be done with one shot not spread out over days. They are legal killers as long as family allows it. I watched them (actually pallative care),slowly over three days kill my father. I couln't stop it because my step mother was in charge. I will forever be scarred from what I witnessed and couldn't stop in time. Thirsting to death is a horrible way to die. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 44726055 I'm going to assume here that the laws regarding Hospice is quite different in the US than in Canada. The goal & philisophy of Hospice is to give the patient dignity & comfort coupled with compassion & kindness. The patient is their primary concern. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7554855 Canada 08/12/2013 01:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Morphine shuts down your systems. A hospital in town here makes sure to give most patients it when they enter ER. Morphine can throw you into full cardiac arrest. My mother has been forced into Hospice by my brother who ignored her written wishes & put her in it. She is not even end stage cancer. Hospice has denied her food, fluids, antibiotics for her pneumonia, diabetes monitoring & meds, etc. At this point if she dies, it wont be from the cancer but from being deprived from essentials for life. Im trying to rescue her but no one seems to care. Not the police, the adult protection services, etc. Quoting: They do kill 43628357 You have to raise hell to the hospital administration. I finally got them to put my father back on fluids only too late. You also have to have someone you trust to be there at all times to monitor what medicine is being given. Tell them you don't want her having any pain med unless she verbally says she wants it. Tell them you want to be able to communicate and have that right. It only takes about three days to kill them. I would put a little water in my dad's mouth and he would then try to talk but the pain med still made it where I couldn't understand him. The morphine and dehydration is what will kill them. You have to act fast to make a difference. By the time I understood what was going on it was too late. The hospital became very accomadating when they knew i had done my homework and refuted their arguments for the morphine and lack of care. They were afraid of being sued. Good luck. I know it is painful. I hope you have better luck than I did. Are your hospice facilities part of your hospitals & not a seperate run building with its own rules? Here in Canada, our hospice is totally separate from any hospital. It is usually a large private home (estate sometimes) & frequently in residential neighborhoods. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 44726055 United States 08/12/2013 01:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Morphine shuts down your systems. A hospital in town here makes sure to give most patients it when they enter ER. Morphine can throw you into full cardiac arrest. My mother has been forced into Hospice by my brother who ignored her written wishes & put her in it. She is not even end stage cancer. Hospice has denied her food, fluids, antibiotics for her pneumonia, diabetes monitoring & meds, etc. At this point if she dies, it wont be from the cancer but from being deprived from essentials for life. Im trying to rescue her but no one seems to care. Not the police, the adult protection services, etc. Quoting: They do kill 43628357 You have to raise hell to the hospital administration. I finally got them to put my father back on fluids only too late. You also have to have someone you trust to be there at all times to monitor what medicine is being given. Tell them you don't want her having any pain med unless she verbally says she wants it. Tell them you want to be able to communicate and have that right. It only takes about three days to kill them. I would put a little water in my dad's mouth and he would then try to talk but the pain med still made it where I couldn't understand him. The morphine and dehydration is what will kill them. You have to act fast to make a difference. By the time I understood what was going on it was too late. The hospital became very accomadating when they knew i had done my homework and refuted their arguments for the morphine and lack of care. They were afraid of being sued. Good luck. I know it is painful. I hope you have better luck than I did. Are your hospice facilities part of your hospitals & not a seperate run building with its own rules? Here in Canada, our hospice is totally separate from any hospital. It is usually a large private home (estate sometimes) & frequently in residential neighborhoods. [/quote I guess I should have explained that my father was killed in pallative care. It's in the hospital. They wanted to send him to hospice but I prevented that. From what I've seen pallative care gets them ready for hospice. They work together with hopital. Hospital gets money for referring them to hospice. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7554855 Canada 08/12/2013 01:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Morphine shuts down your systems. A hospital in town here makes sure to give most patients it when they enter ER. Morphine can throw you into full cardiac arrest. My mother has been forced into Hospice by my brother who ignored her written wishes & put her in it. She is not even end stage cancer. Hospice has denied her food, fluids, antibiotics for her pneumonia, diabetes monitoring & meds, etc. At this point if she dies, it wont be from the cancer but from being deprived from essentials for life. Im trying to rescue her but no one seems to care. Not the police, the adult protection services, etc. Quoting: They do kill 43628357 You have to raise hell to the hospital administration. I finally got them to put my father back on fluids only too late. You also have to have someone you trust to be there at all times to monitor what medicine is being given. Tell them you don't want her having any pain med unless she verbally says she wants it. Tell them you want to be able to communicate and have that right. It only takes about three days to kill them. I would put a little water in my dad's mouth and he would then try to talk but the pain med still made it where I couldn't understand him. The morphine and dehydration is what will kill them. You have to act fast to make a difference. By the time I understood what was going on it was too late. The hospital became very accomadating when they knew i had done my homework and refuted their arguments for the morphine and lack of care. They were afraid of being sued. Good luck. I know it is painful. I hope you have better luck than I did. Are your hospice facilities part of your hospitals & not a seperate run building with its own rules? Here in Canada, our hospice is totally separate from any hospital. It is usually a large private home (estate sometimes) & frequently in residential neighborhoods. [/quote I guess I should have explained that my father was killed in pallative care. It's in the hospital. They wanted to send him to hospice but I prevented that. From what I've seen pallative care gets them ready for hospice. They work together with hopital. Hospital gets money for referring them to hospice. It appears you have a somewhat different system than us. Tks. |
-GLP-Christian- User ID: 39993991 Sweden 08/12/2013 01:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | my mom was just killed by hospice staff. forced to dehyrdate to death and then over medicated to control the pain casused by the lack of fluid. it was horrific. I never knew what hospice was until this, and they are murderers. my mom was a frail, vulnerable dementia patient murdered legally. Quoting: heartsick 1594591 Why didn't you take care of her then. It always amazes me that people let strangers take care of their loved ones. They always has some monetary reason for it as well, and then they're horrified when the strangers don't give a crap about their loved ones. Get saved wretch: [link to biblebelievers.com] Everything you need to know about islam: [link to prophetofdoom.net] The Jihad Triangle: [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] FRANCE IS TEH GHEY! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 27888740 United States 08/12/2013 01:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26173565 I use to work in a long term care facility. The quicker the dying go ; the better. I have seen death let to go over many months and it is horrible to watch. Feel blessed she went fast and in no pain Often the entire thing can be turned around with better advice and care where the patient would recover, depending. Yes, I know my mother with stage 3 lung cancer and multiple other cancers and a compound fracture to the femur (brittle diabetic), (bone leaching) would have been fine had we pulled her out of Hospice..idiot |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 44362085 Canada 08/12/2013 01:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | They kill you slowly with dehydration and drug overdose. If they want to kill people it should be done with one shot not spread out over days. They are legal killers as long as family allows it. I watched them (actually pallative care),slowly over three days kill my father. I couln't stop it because my step mother was in charge. I will forever be scarred from what I witnessed and couldn't stop in time. Thirsting to death is a horrible way to die. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 44726055 I'm going to assume here that the laws regarding Hospice is quite different in the US than in Canada. The goal & philisophy of Hospice is to give the patient dignity & comfort coupled with compassion & kindness. The patient is their primary concern. By the sounds of it, they are. My uncle was already dying at home, and that's when he asked to be sent to the hospice. My aunt was in the hospice for close to two weeks. A friend of my mother's was in it for several months. The hospice they were in was as you described. It was actually very beautiful and like a home. It was very costly, but it was their choice to be put in it. |
Stefano from Italy User ID: 45027961 Italy 08/12/2013 02:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Man, this is not the best place for discussing such things... but what you reported seem to be sadly common in all the western world. I visited a close relative recently and found her in such a state that I couldn't recognise her. Those places are just a way to get money... People there are so heavily drugged beacuse they won't bother the ones we pay for their supposed service. As far as I am, I am close to you, Man. Sadly, the western world is considering their old, savvy people just an annoying problem. That's why society keeps getting worst from generaion to generation. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 4991783 United States 08/12/2013 03:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm sorry. Quoting: The Light Under the Door Hospice is end of life care. Don't put loved ones into it if you don't want it to be the end. I'm sorry too, but TLUTD is right -- end of life care. Then they should say they facilitate a quick and peaceful end. Leaving out "quick" is fraud of a very serious sort, even though it's legally permitted. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 36648852 United States 08/12/2013 03:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | my mom was just killed by hospice staff. forced to dehyrdate to death and then over medicated to control the pain casused by the lack of fluid. it was horrific. I never knew what hospice was until this, and they are murderers. my mom was a frail, vulnerable dementia patient murdered legally. Quoting: heartsick 1594591 We've been trolled. Only one post from OP. how pathetic to troll on this topic. Get a life OP. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7554855 Trolled??? Are you serious?? Did any of you check the date this was originally posted on? FFS people ~ do you honestly expect that AC to be here randomly now to know this painful memory would be drudged up? That is what is pathetic. Who is digging these ancient assed threads up anyway?? |
nah User ID: 39685812 United States 08/12/2013 03:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So if you want to find out what a given hospice will really do, whom do you ask and what question do you ask? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 4991783 Is there a way to get someone to tell you the truth? We had in home hospice care when my grandmother died and they left the morphine with us so we gave it to her and I can't remember how often the nurses came but we had friends of the family that were nurses that helped us take care of her in her final days. They told us to let her eat and drink whatever she wanted but she didn't have any appetite to eat or drink. People tend to do that before they die, not eat or drink. When you find a piece of shit along side the road and you poke it with a stick, what do you expect to find inside of it, gold? No, it's just going to stink more. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 36431811 United States 08/12/2013 03:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | my mom was just killed by hospice staff. forced to dehyrdate to death and then over medicated to control the pain casused by the lack of fluid. it was horrific. I never knew what hospice was until this, and they are murderers. my mom was a frail, vulnerable dementia patient murdered legally. Quoting: heartsick 1594591 The same happened to my grandmother. I got the feeling they almost enjoy the power of ending someone's life. |