????? YIKES. Um only thing is been role reversal. I was the bread winner now Im not. Now we both work. We are starting a business in the spring but till then it takes two. I am not laying down and taken his drinking lightly. I will not tolerate it. I have tried to give him space and tried to beat it out of i can him 2..lol. I am not a timid woman by any means. So yeah I can push when pushed on. My parents were involved in a car wreck that killed my mom and my dad served time for it as it was his car that hit her and her car burst into flames. It was my brothers 21st bday and he passed 7years latter because he never forgave him self for it and drank him self right into acute pancreatic shock and bleed to death at 28 years old. SO before we married and we had been together 9 years before we married he knew no drinking!!!!!! So how would I be making him regress? I mean he stopped all those years ago because I left and he put it down and never picked it up till 6mnths ago two years into our marriage and 7 after he stopped.
Please note when he drinks it's like he's checked out. Like he's taken some drug..not cool at all. So if this would be me..then how? He believes I have not grown nor healed and I am the one with issues about drinking and he knows who he is hes grown.. then why cant I?? But I can have drink and have shown him I can.
Sorry or the wall o text! Sorry if it's scattered thoughts. I am like on scramble these days!