So my Boyfriend Got me a Comforter for my Birthday After 1 Year of Dating...

unless they are both amish, a comforter is lame. 21 years old i would be buying you jewery, sex toy or something. come on people. a freakin comfortable. next year he may get you some comfortable shoes....

i dont really think of myself as "the almight" or whatever, honestly that comment seems a bit bitter like how you said mine was. and it was. by the way i think the gift you got your wife sounds wonderful :)

No you dont need to be grateful and shut up.You need to consider finding another place to live and if you and he still wants to date then do so without the living arrangements involved.Sounds weird to me.You sleep in desperate areas,etc so its not like a 'living together' relationship.Family doesnt know about you etc.You a room mate with sex privileges.

Just merely trying to show you what I thought you sounded like. That's all. If you feel strongly about tell him, seriously, we like feedback and we like to know if we did well or not. He will thank you for it even if he doesn't show it.

well he was a virgin before we met...slept together after about 9 months but he made me promise that we'd be together forever if i took his virginity....it is strange.

thanks, its alright no worries. i think its more about the other things in the relationship that leave me feeling somewhat unloved or uncared for. i do realize that im having irrational thoughts about the gift though. thanks <3

ahhh, the first world problems of someone who doesnt have enough to worry about

I haven't read the whole thread but a few posts, seems as though you may be projecting some resentments about the relationship through this gift. Maybe it is time for a change or to move on altogether.

OK, it all makes sense now.

you're taking advantage of a mentally handicapped person.

you're lucky his family has not pressed charges, and you're lucky to get a comforter, and not, say, a portrait of the two of you holding hands on a sunny day.. made entirely of construction paper and macaroni

youre in a first world country too, posting here at the same time.

actually, ironically im the one who has a mental disability. im the one posting on glp lol

i would have rather had a macaroni gift. im not being facetious , it would have MEANT more because it would have been personal and something i would keep forever. im not going to keep this blanket forever...

that's funny

Maybe next year.

well now you're talking. wise cracking aside, is the boy like.. i dunno, a bit.. autistic? (for lack of a better word, this is not the word i am looking for) i mean.. it IS a very practical gift. is he creative? does he wax all poetically when he dotes on about you? i am assuming his dating history consists of you, and his ex, if he was a virgin for 9 months after you met. what i am getting at is like.. he may not be a very thoughtful or romantic person, in which case you can't really expect a thoughtful or romantic gift, and just because movies an shit play up that kinda romance, in all reality, if it comes down to a bad or serious situation, one may be better off with someone who is practical and logical minded.

you are insane, a comforter is a very nice thing for a man to give you,

be thankful it wasn't a flashlight that he thought was awesome (Which would have been nice too, if he was excited about it because it was his favorite flashlight, kind of thing)

i really truly love this person, with all my heart. I do believe he could be "the one." Ii'm not expecting fairy tales or diamond rings or fancy houses...It's more that I feel hurt by other things that he's done because it makes me feel as if he doesn't care or isn't serious as another poster put it. I want him to love me as much as I love him...and I want him to show me he does because right now im having doubts. I just wish he would show me a little attention is all. Feeling unwanted isn't the best feeling in the world.

you have to teach him your expectations.
You really think if he rally loves you he can read your mind?
Come on, communication is the corner stone of a relationship.

I'm sure she didn't......I'm a practical kinda girl. Would rather get a gift I truly need :)

and this

I don't think he's autistic. He says he's ADD though. He grew up in a very religious household. He dated a woman in her 40s for about 9 years before meeting me. He doesn't really watch movies either so I do have different ideas on certain things. honestly and truly though, i was just expecting something a little more romantic, or at least the card to say something romantic, i dunno...

It may not seem so to you, but maybe he put a lot of thought into this gift. I bought my wife a bedset a few years ago. I must have gone to every store in town AND looked online for about a week before finding just the right one. Maybe to her, it was just something I ran down to the store and picked up last minute. You never know. That reminds me, she's about due for another one. Maybe I'll get another one for her this Christmas. :)

absolutely, unwanted sucks - BUT - what if he really loves you but is a nerd. COMMUNICATE!!! Don't beat around the bush.
My mother didn't teach me shit and my Dad was dead. Maybe he has a similar handicap.

this is why i say women are crazy

you dont "think" hes autistic. holy shit

if i was your boyfriend and saw your ungrateful post and the words i dont "think" hes autistic

i would text you "its over" and thats the lamest way to break up evver, but you would deserve it

oh yea and i fucking hate cards. really you need a piece of paper to feel special? how about special words IN PERSON on more than anniversary occasions? oh thats not enough for you?

i dont like you already
typical american girl

selfish and stupid

Last Edited by Daersoulkeeper on 10/25/2012 01:43 PM

again, autistic is not what i meant.. let me rephrase that.. emotionally retarded. let me rephrase that again.. not in tune with that lovey dovey poetic part of the human psyche. being romantic is like being tall, it's really hard to fake it if you were not born that way.

and no hes not creative however i do paint, play piano, write, etc. He just doesn't seem to have a strong sense of identity and I'm trying to help him with that but i guess i cant really change a person. i think change is the wrong word. i dont want to change a thing about him. i just think he could grow more, and being more assertive is part of that.

aren't we though?

As a guy, shopping for sentimental gifts are not my strong suit. I backed off the dating scene for years and it looks like this Xmas I'll be shopping for a girl. She's already hinted at things that she wants like gym shorts and what not, but im not getting that... Its gotta be something meaningful... Im with you OP. However, maybe you've been talking about wanting a new one and he thought it'd be perfect. Plus, when it gets cold this winter make a point and reverse the sentiment. If you let him know that you prefer sentiment over material, maybe he'll get the idea. Romantic home made dinner with a fire and cuddle up in the comfortor with him.... Maybe he will get it.

whats wrong with saying "i dont THINK hes autistic" he has traits of aspergers/austism but id say its on the very small side of the spectrum but its possibly just his ADD. and i didnt get any special words...just an i love you which i hear everyday. yes those words are special and mean a lot, but just hearing what he loves about me or something would be nice...

aw run like the wind. he is demented, clearly.sheesh.