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So my Boyfriend Got me a Comforter for my Birthday After 1 Year of Dating... | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1291850  United States10/25/2012 04:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19880158 United States10/25/2012 04:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | To the OP... I have been married for 14 years to a great woman that stuck with me when I was a poor college student and could not afford much in the way of gifts.. Although we are very finanacially secure these days, She appreciates everything little thing I do, and still tells me to this day that all she wants is me on birthdays and Christmas.. I have bought her expensive jewelry and she has taken it back.. not a big deal to her.. all she wants is to know that I love her.. I hope you can find what you are looking for. |
luckyophelia (OP) User ID: 18046556 United States10/25/2012 04:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | To the OP... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19880158 I have been married for 14 years to a great woman that stuck with me when I was a poor college student and could not afford much in the way of gifts.. Although we are very finanacially secure these days, She appreciates everything little thing I do, and still tells me to this day that all she wants is me on birthdays and Christmas.. I have bought her expensive jewelry and she has taken it back.. not a big deal to her.. all she wants is to know that I love her.. I hope you can find what you are looking for. thank you! we're both financially secure so thats not an issue that we have to worry about which im grateful for. its true though, i just wanted him all along :) a man who finally speaks words of wisdom! Last Edited by luckyophelia on 10/25/2012 04:44 PM |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26293527  Germany10/25/2012 04:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, it's not about the cost of a gift but the sentiment! Quoting: impetigo 7446418 if you were a guy, I would say OK, but you aren't. He bought it on his lunch hour, he's NOT, that in to you, if he were, he would have SEARCHED High and Low for the perfect gift to Please YOU, It's not about $ It's about your Heart. When you shack with a guy, this is what you get.  thanks for your insight I can't make out if this story of yours is a sweet fabrication for your own amusement or true. Because i am totally bewildered that this could honestly be a question to somebody else -- which is so blatantly obvious to me and as clear as the summers sun. So, in case it's true, The above poster has the answer. You are not "the one" for him. Don't waste time and energy. Call it off quickly, putting it off worsens the whole shebang. (shakes head) |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 23579473 United States10/25/2012 04:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| luckyophelia (OP) User ID: 18046556 United States10/25/2012 04:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, it's not about the cost of a gift but the sentiment! Quoting: impetigo 7446418 if you were a guy, I would say OK, but you aren't. He bought it on his lunch hour, he's NOT, that in to you, if he were, he would have SEARCHED High and Low for the perfect gift to Please YOU, It's not about $ It's about your Heart. When you shack with a guy, this is what you get. thanks for your insight I can't make out if this story of yours is a sweet fabrication for your own amusement or true. Because i am totally bewildered that this could honestly be a question to somebody else -- which is so blatantly obvious to me and as clear as the summers sun. So, in case it's true, The above poster has the answer. You are not "the one" for him. Don't waste time and energy. Call it off quickly, putting it off worsens the whole shebang. (shakes head) true. i guess its mostly me dealing with conflicting aspects of myself. we're all a reflection of each other anyway right? |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26295391 United States10/25/2012 04:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 7061022 United States10/25/2012 04:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think that having expectations of gifts is kind've low, especially if you actually "love him." Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1129812 You don't get it, she expected something personal. My hubby typically buys me just a card, but he decorates with a lot of sill stuff that makes it special. I am sure the OP would have preferred a hand-made card than a comforter. Haha, LOL, I will try this next time. Yes, I almost cry. He even gets the dogs to sign the card. Be creative and sweet and she will love you for it. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 23097787 United States10/25/2012 04:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| luckyophelia (OP) User ID: 18046556 United States10/25/2012 04:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | maybe you're right. im posting on here to process whether or not this is me being an insensitive cold hearted selfish bitch, or someone who's being ignored/neglected in the relationship in other ways so ive projected my feelings into the fact that he got me a blanket |
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| luckyophelia (OP) User ID: 18046556 United States10/25/2012 04:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | now i just decide on whether or not to just be grateful for him and not even worry about the comforter or about the gift he gave me, or whether or not i should have a talk on how he makes me feel in other aspects of the relationship. maybe both? |
| luckyophelia (OP) User ID: 18046556 United States10/25/2012 05:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Materialism... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23097787 "I was really expecting some expensive jewelry..." Let me ask you something, OPette. What are you getting him for his bday? I wasn't expecting jewelry. i was more interested in what he'd say in an imaginary letter i thought he'd write lol. I'm not sure what I want to get him yet. its in about a month or so I'm still thinking but maybe a nice wrist watch and new sunglasses with an ipod so he can listen to music in his truck. And of course a sappy letter lol. What do guys like? Last Edited by luckyophelia on 10/25/2012 05:01 PM |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1385340 United States10/25/2012 05:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP what did you buy him for your 1 year anniversary???? Quoting: ANHEDONIC (sorry if it was already covered, I can't read 9 pages of history, lol) well, since you missed the previous 9 pages, you didn't get to see the cool part where he makes her sleep in the garage, lol. other details: comforter dude "was going to" give his ex $5k, an apartment, and a car. but op does get a nice comforter so it's even. comforter dude's ex is in her 40s. he dated her for 9 years, but only just now got around to losing his virginity to op a few months ago. op frequently treats comforter dude to purty paintings and original keyboard music. hardly anyone said "run bitch, run!" lol. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 23579473 United States10/25/2012 05:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP what did you buy him for your 1 year anniversary???? Quoting: ANHEDONIC (sorry if it was already covered, I can't read 9 pages of history, lol) well, since you missed the previous 9 pages, you didn't get to see the cool part where he makes her sleep in the garage, lol. other details: comforter dude "was going to" give his ex $5k, an apartment, and a car. but op does get a nice comforter so it's even. comforter dude's ex is in her 40s. he dated her for 9 years, but only just now got around to losing his virginity to op a few months ago. op frequently treats comforter dude to purty paintings and original keyboard music. hardly anyone said "run bitch, run!" lol.  Thanks for filling me in... Although I have to say the separate bed rooms is a great idea.... Personal space is important. : ) |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 2530461 United States10/25/2012 05:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26293527 Germany10/25/2012 05:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | now i just decide on whether or not to just be grateful for him and not even worry about the comforter or about the gift he gave me, or whether or not i should have a talk on how he makes me feel in other aspects of the relationship. maybe both? Quoting: luckyophelia No, you shed a few tears, move out, and work on your self-esteem. Best wishes, |
| Lemon User ID: 26275465 United States10/25/2012 05:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just skimmed through. I'm amazed. He keeps you as a pet he has sex with in his garage. For the aniversary perhapse a shiny collar? (interesting necklace symbolism) My dog is treated better than you are, but I love my dog (& got her a new blankie & lounge pillow on her birthday). Wow - just run. **I'm all out of bubblegum |
| Kirk User ID: 25384388 United States10/25/2012 05:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP what did you buy him for your 1 year anniversary???? Quoting: ANHEDONIC (sorry if it was already covered, I can't read 9 pages of history, lol) well, since you missed the previous 9 pages, you didn't get to see the cool part where he makes her sleep in the garage, lol. other details: comforter dude "was going to" give his ex $5k, an apartment, and a car. but op does get a nice comforter so it's even. comforter dude's ex is in her 40s. he dated her for 9 years, but only just now got around to losing his virginity to op a few months ago. op frequently treats comforter dude to purty paintings and original keyboard music. hardly anyone said "run bitch, run!" lol. I missed that. Damn, that's kinky. Too crazy for me. I would adios when he's at work. Government is a body largely ungoverned. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25861717 United States10/25/2012 05:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19549273  Canada10/25/2012 05:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | To the OP... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19880158 I have been married for 14 years to a great woman that stuck with me when I was a poor college student and could not afford much in the way of gifts.. Although we are very finanacially secure these days, She appreciates everything little thing I do, and still tells me to this day that all she wants is me on birthdays and Christmas.. I have bought her expensive jewelry and she has taken it back.. not a big deal to her.. all she wants is to know that I love her.. I hope you can find what you are looking for. thank you! we're both financially secure so thats not an issue that we have to worry about which im grateful for. its true though, i just wanted him all along :) a man who finally speaks words of wisdom! If you're sleeping in a cold garage you are not financially secure. Thread is a bunch of lies. |
| Dr Phil User ID: 26248246  New Zealand10/25/2012 05:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm not trying to be selfish and I really don't want to come across that way so if this is just irrational thinking then please let me know people Quoting: luckyophelia ...I just really was expecting something a little more sentimental after a year. I'm glad he thought of the gesture and tha he took the time off his lunch break the day before to go get it for me, and I really love him, i just thought I'd get something a little more personal and intimate. What do you guys think about this? I'm curious Just wondering,was it a big,pink"comforter"with a rotating head? |
| luckyophelia (OP) User ID: 18046556 United States10/25/2012 05:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | To the OP... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19880158 I have been married for 14 years to a great woman that stuck with me when I was a poor college student and could not afford much in the way of gifts.. Although we are very finanacially secure these days, She appreciates everything little thing I do, and still tells me to this day that all she wants is me on birthdays and Christmas.. I have bought her expensive jewelry and she has taken it back.. not a big deal to her.. all she wants is to know that I love her.. I hope you can find what you are looking for. thank you! we're both financially secure so thats not an issue that we have to worry about which im grateful for. its true though, i just wanted him all along :) a man who finally speaks words of wisdom! If you're sleeping in a cold garage you are not financially secure. Thread is a bunch of lies. its not like some super damn dungeon he's got some space heaters and stuff. am i being jaded? |
| Spittin'Cesium User ID: 14589973  Netherlands10/25/2012 05:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hopefully it's a really nice comforter? Quoting: Artlicious Don't put too much thought into it, really, some people just have a hard time buying gifts. At least it's something you can use, maybe? I guess it could have been worse... My bf for Xmas a couple years ago gave me a 100 dollar bill... after I gave him a couple gifts a week leading up to Xmas and a few more on Xmas day... granted, all small to mid-value gifts but still, the effort. And I got a freaking hundred dollar bill. I was a bit upset, we talked about it and the following year he did amazing. Maybe just let him know how you feel? I probably would have rather had the 100 dollar bill...i know that sounds bad. he said he got it at target and i know it was about 40/50 bucks probably closer to 30/40-45 with his discount card So,you don't care for his Love OP? ? The thing that hath been, is That which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done:and there is no new thing under the Sun. Ecclesiastes 9:1 |
| luckyophelia (OP) User ID: 18046556 United States10/25/2012 05:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hopefully it's a really nice comforter? Quoting: Artlicious Don't put too much thought into it, really, some people just have a hard time buying gifts. At least it's something you can use, maybe? I guess it could have been worse... My bf for Xmas a couple years ago gave me a 100 dollar bill... after I gave him a couple gifts a week leading up to Xmas and a few more on Xmas day... granted, all small to mid-value gifts but still, the effort. And I got a freaking hundred dollar bill. I was a bit upset, we talked about it and the following year he did amazing. Maybe just let him know how you feel? I probably would have rather had the 100 dollar bill...i know that sounds bad. he said he got it at target and i know it was about 40/50 bucks probably closer to 30/40-45 with his discount card So,you don't care for his Love OP? ? i do...i just want to know that he loves me back. and not through the expression of gifts but through the love he shows by his actions which can include the thought he puts into when getting a gift for my birthday Last Edited by luckyophelia on 10/25/2012 05:37 PM |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25515400 United States10/25/2012 05:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25515400 United States10/25/2012 05:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why do people post their relationship/dating stories on this website? This is not a fucking relationship/dating website, idiots. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25515400 we're crazy, so ours are more interesting. I come to glp to read about conspiracy/ news , not your dysfuntional relationships. |
| Spittin'Cesium User ID: 14589973 Netherlands10/25/2012 05:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hopefully it's a really nice comforter? Quoting: Artlicious Don't put too much thought into it, really, some people just have a hard time buying gifts. At least it's something you can use, maybe? I guess it could have been worse... My bf for Xmas a couple years ago gave me a 100 dollar bill... after I gave him a couple gifts a week leading up to Xmas and a few more on Xmas day... granted, all small to mid-value gifts but still, the effort. And I got a freaking hundred dollar bill. I was a bit upset, we talked about it and the following year he did amazing. Maybe just let him know how you feel? I probably would have rather had the 100 dollar bill...i know that sounds bad. he said he got it at target and i know it was about 40/50 bucks probably closer to 30/40-45 with his discount card So,you don't care for his Love OP? ? i do...i just want to know that he loves me back. and not through the expression of gifts but through the love he shows by his actions which can include the thought he puts into when getting a gift for my birthday Sorry Lucky,but this does'nt ring true at all. I wont be responding again. The thing that hath been, is That which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done:and there is no new thing under the Sun. Ecclesiastes 9:1 |
