Sex on Wedding Night or wait till honeymoon?

In the bathroom before the wedding.
WTF is up with all of you traditionalists. SNOOZE FEST.

I'm getting married next month. Just checking to see how everyone does it.

My wife got her period on her wedding day! Oh well, I had waited that long, a few days didn't kill me.

Our first son was four months old and at our wedding, so there goes the virgin part...but she was too drunk after the reception so I just tucked her in bed, but we didn't wait until the honeymoon which was just three days later...

Both of us wiped out from the wedding, we woke up in the morning and tore it up.

My advice is that if you've waited this far, it's better to wait for the honeymoon. Weddings are a hassle and even if you keep the ceremony and party to the minimum, at the end of the day you'll be stressed from all the planning and exhausted by the activities. Relax and have sex only when you feel like it - especially if you're both virgins.

My and my wife (then, girlfriend) had sex about two weeks after our first date, which makes it about two years before our civil wedding and almost twenty years from now. I was a virgin and nervous, but thankfully she was neither.

We never saw any point in waiting, since we didn't originally plan to get married at all. Our legal system, however, had (and still has) anachronistic and outright insulting rules that make it cumbersome for an unmarried couple to have and register kids: you two get interrogated about your sex habits and who the father is. So, when the time was right for having children, we had a quick civil ceremony with less than ten guests.

Even then we were too tired to have celebratory sex on the wedding night. I don't think I would have been able to have sex after the wedding, if I had been a virgin and we had had a traditional wedding with full ceremony and big party afterwards.

That's never a good idea...

We were far too exhausted to do anything on the wedding night except fall asleep when our heads hit the pillow. We were having too much fun dancing at the reception that we didn't leave early like some couples do.

But we left for Hawaii the next day and had a blast there:)

I would do it in the limo on the way to the reception.

LOL what will you do if sex sucks? divorce? be stoic and wait 10 years, then divorce alleging you can't stand such bad sex life?

Man. I bang my girlfriends like 3 times a day. Both of them.

To be honest, there's much more to the marriage than sex. After having being married to the same woman for almost twenty years, I would never even dream of leaving her even if the sex turned bad or non-existent as long as nothing else changed. Some years ago my wife underwent a difficult and painful obgyn surgery (+complications) and we couldn't have penetrative sex for almost a year. Apart from occasional handjobs and blowjobs initiated mostly by her, there was no sex.

When you've grown older and have been with someone for so long, the emphasis in mutual attraction shifts to other things than sex. It's still good, but loving someone and being loved back, as well as the physical tenderness (touches, hugs, kisses) and intellectual and emotional companionship, are much more important now.

Didn't get to the hotel at the airport until about 2am so we were too tired on the wedding night. The next night on the cruise ship was when the deed was done. Although we had sex before the marriage, that night was the first time I had not 'pulled out'.


------

I've been married for 3 years and I'm still a virgin---LOL JK

Yeah well for most people nowadays bad sex means either cheating or divorce if married in the 1st place. I get your idyllic romantic ideals but they hardly apply anymore.

So, is she 15 by now or what?

Are you/have you ever been married?

I'm with Manu on this one.
There's no way I could spend my life in a marriage with someone I didn't have sexual chemistry with. That sounds about as dull as a lifetime with nothing but cats and a vibrator.

I think people used to stay all their lives with someone even if the sex was atrocious back then because there was less information, right now the new generation would not stand such thing IMO with all the widespread knowledge about sex.

I am not saying one way is better than the other just the way it mostly is.

So do you ever try on shoes before you buy them?

too many questions. Nunna yer bizness.

I find it astounding that folks in this day and age continue to wait until marriage.

Just get the first time out of the way. It will be good, but not nearly as good as you think it is. Awesome sex with your spouse (or long time partner, whatever), like anything else, requires practice. Been at it for 4 years, and 2 hour multiple O stints are the norm.

So bust that nut and get on with it.

Good luck at your first at bat!

P.S. - Neither of us were virgins.

Last Edited by Pennyless on 10/26/2012 10:16 AM

Is there a problem with pounding the bleeding kitty?

You mean besides the smell?

Usually my nose is up by her head, so unless we're talking toxic waste pit, smell isn't an issue. My girlfriend loves it during her period, she gets much more intense orgasms for some reason.

Hmm. That's really interesting. Wonder why?

It is not uncommon, many women actually enjoy sex more during menstruation.

Huh. Well my wife hasn't had one in so long I really don't recall (she was pregnant and is breast feeding, hasn't started back yet). I'll have to test this theory soon. Guess I get to earn my red wings!

we lived together for a year before marriage. we did it on our wedding night, and it was so memorable. we weren't too tired or too drunk or anything. it was a fitting culmination of a very spiritual day. like everything in marriage, play it by ear, and if you are both feeling it, GOFORIT.