Any suggestions on how to forget an old love 25 years ago?

Very good song fella.
I'm sharing your pain as we type.

Yes. There is a way. It worked for me.
Visualize that every cell and atom in that person replaced itself 2.5 times since you knew them last.

That person 25 years ago does not even exist any longer. You and they only have an electrical memory stored away in a mental file cabinet, but the container its stored in belongs to someone else.

Visualize this every time you think about them, and the longing for them will eventually abate.

They don't exist anymore, my friend. They're gone.
Sorry to say this.

Well , lets just let this thread die and I will continue to try to forget. Thanks for the support everyone.

Well, at least I am not alone suffering the same problem.
Thank you.

With all the social networks, it's fairly easy to find anyone now. Check out Facebook, if you haven't already. Search for her name when you knew her. If she married, and you don't know her last name it should still show, since most women put their maiden name as well as their married name.

Nothing wrong with saying "HI" to an old love. If she's available, who knows what could happen.

reevaluate

No forgetting required...

Forgive, make peace, move forward. : )

No, they still put up old or photo shopped to the max pics. Best go meet them in person! LOL

Reality is if you left them, you have been making false memories on the facts for the last 20 yrs. We all tend to do that, it is human nature to build things better. If she left you, she thought you were not good enough for her on some level or did not feel anything for you - why would you not think you can do better then that?

If you were just dating and it was not the right time ( no promises made to be broken ), then track her down and see if she is single - nothing to lose and maybe all to gain.

Dire Straits -- Walk Of Life [[ Official Live Video ]] HD

One of my favorite songs that helps me forget...

Hypnosis would be much easier than a lobotomy, OP. There is electroshock therapy, though, but that turns your brains into scrambled eggs so don't do it. A few sessions with a hypnotist might really help. Of course, the very best way is to fall in love with someone else but I know that is not something you can force yourself to do. Good luck.

it was a learning experience. Don't waste it.

Nice

i still love phil collins so much! has it really been 25 years?

The best is to find someone else who fulfills you, and with whom you can experience those same emotions.

You can't look back. There's no productive value in regret. It can be tough sometimes. Ever forward! :)

Unless you still know this person today, and they're like, still the exact same...

Then you're totally in love with an idea, man... people change.

I read this as 25 years wasted NOT EVEN WITH that person, just obsessing over them and the whole idea.

Translation: MOVE THE FUCK ON.

You either get what you want, or you move the hell on. Sure it's okay to have a few years trashed here and there, but not decades.

If you don't move on, at this point, it means you like the pain it causes you.

You should have at least tried to find what you wanted in someone else.

Pretty sure you're just a sick fuck like all the rest.

Well thank you mister GOD MOD. I might just do that. Thank you also for your extreme motivation and caring character.

No, you probably aren't. I have one of those old loves, too. I know my life would have been very different if I hadn't screwed up so badly, that he would have loved me for the rest of our lives.

this song brings back so many memories...

don't despair

OP, Hope you check back in.. Let me tell you my story. I used to live in georgia. I had a girlfriend and was deeply in love with her. But I had just gotten out of the army and was working on a golf course. I was trying to go to college at night and all of this was exhausting. I made $6 an hour so was forced to live with a room-mate. My first roommate did not pay his bills so I moved out when our lease was up.. I moved into my own apartment but was flat broke. One day I ran I to an old co-worker and he had a 2 bedroom apartment. I broke my lease, lost my safety deposit and moved in with this guy. My plan was to quit working full time and go to college full time. But 3 weeks later, when I came home from work, there was an eviction notice on the door. The guy hadn't paid his rent in 3 months. We had 2 weeks to get out.

on top of this, my relationship with my girlfriend was falling apart. I was so busy with work and school that I never saw her. She was also in college and worked as a waitress so our relationship was really strained. I didn't know what to do. I had nobody to turn to for help. I talked to my parents and they said they'd give me money to rent a U - Haul. That was my only option.

I tried to talk to my girlfriend about it but she was too busy to meet me until the wednesday before I would leave. I was leaving friday..

I gave her 2 days notice of my departure. I cried all the way back home. I felt like a failure.

fast forward 20 years. I haven't thought of her in 20 years when I was just telling a co-worker about savannah. He asked me why I lived there. I told him it was for love. He asked if I had a picture. No, I don't. Is she on facebook? Don't know.

so I looked for her. And 20 years later all of my feelings for her have come flooding back.. I'm distraught. I have a wife and 2 kids.

what do I do? I want so badly to contact her but could it produce anything positive?

The memory will never be forgotten. I will continue to suffer.

There is no cure. I am DOOMED!

burn your genitals with a curling iron, you will have something new to think about.

Don't take it out on MO because you suck!
I think you're suppose to go and find BETTER, if you didn't 24 1/2 years ago, that's not our problem. wah
I dropped this window, and low and behold a song has been there all day awaiting you, so enjoy...


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If you are not married, why not give her a call?

It is better to have loved than to have never loved. Be thankful for the wonderful memories and keep them in your heart. Remember sometime the saddest word are "what might have been."

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Jeez, even the MODS are letting me down.