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from who?
if you have arguments and disagreements of basic philosophy you have n o basis for a relationship other than mutual financial exploitation.
Things of significance that can destroy a relationship should be clarified and agreed upon in advance, not afterwards
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I fully agree with the "in advance, not afterwards" comment. If a couple is in agreement to bring outside influences into their union, that's their choice. Obviously OP was not in agreement with her husbands behavior. What I'm not understanding is why married men feel their wives are controlling of their sexuality. I thought that was the point of a marriage, being committed sexually to each other and giving up all others.
 Quoting: Melrox
I've read up and down this thread, men calling women "controlling" "insecure" etc. If a woman was to webcam with some random man on the internet just to get her jollies. No physical contact, would that be considered cheating?
 Quoting: Melrox
A woman has different needs than a man, women need some kind of interaction to fully enjoy, not just images. So, would it be "controlling" of a man to stop me from engaging in my "needs"? Should my husband intervene or just mind his own business when it comes to me pleasuring myself?
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from who?
if you have arguments and disagreements of basic philosophy you have n o basis for a relationship other than mutual financial exploitation.
Things of significance that can destroy a relationship should be clarified and agreed upon in advance, not afterwards
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958
I fully agree with the "in advance, not afterwards" comment. If a couple is in agreement to bring outside influences into their union, that's their choice. Obviously OP was not in agreement with her husbands behavior. What I'm not understanding is why married men feel their wives are controlling of their sexuality. I thought that was the point of a marriage, being committed sexually to each other and giving up all others.
 Quoting: Melrox
I've read up and down this thread, men calling women "controlling" "insecure" etc. If a woman was to webcam with some random man on the internet just to get her jollies. No physical contact, would that be considered cheating?
 Quoting: Melrox


Oh please, married women often flirt with other attractive or otherwise significant men if they think they can get away with it, just to see if they still got it. You know this.


Why are you pretending at perfection?

How's about an honest appraisal and not discussion based on entitlements and assumption that natural human behavior can be significantly altered out of all recognition to certain and profitable failure?

Not one in a million men ever expects to meet anyone of their fantasy women.
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Your ignorant response leads me to believe you didnt even read the post your commenting too.
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Ok then whatever i told like it is, and responded to what was said in the comment, i only mentioned cheating because i know that thought is in her head. What part of what i said wasnt related to what was said. i may have went alittle into detail but my point is happily married men have always had a form of porn all the way back to 32,000 BC. [link to www.holytaco.com]
 Quoting: arieshottie


What woman would report her husband for wacking off to porn? I hope one who found her husband wacking off to children, their own child, or animals would react accordingly.

I wont argue married men masturbate more than single, but I will argue it is because of what society has molded us to become. Fault is on both sides of the tracks. Marrage itself is a joke if you think about it and our modern view of how psychology and society says we are two act as humans, male and female... an exert from Sex at Dawn (of which any person reading and debating on this thread should read before they continue to sound like ignorant, sexist, egotistic individuals): "Conventional evolutionary theory assures us that all you scheming, gold-digging women reading this are evolved to tick a trustworthy yet boring guy into marrying you, only to then spray on a bunch of perfume and run down to the local singles club to try to get pregnant by some Neanderthal as soon as hubby falls asleep on the couch. How could you? But before male readers start feeling superior, remember that according to the same narrative, you evolved to woo and marry some innocent young beauty with empty promises of undying love, fake Rolex prominent on your wrist, get her pregnant ASAP, then start 'working late' with as many secretaries as you can manage." Sex at Dawn, Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha.

With an evolutionary theory deeming such to be true, how do you honestly think we currently view relationships, sex, and marriage in a correct light? I suggest picking up a book or two and reading about our how our ancestors viewed sex and relationships before you jump on the hate train.
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See, this thread is full of people who think wrong is right and right is wrong.
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A man that looks at child porn or animals is sick, and shouldnt even be mentioned in this conversation, you took this previous post and just went way way out there.
There is no fault in my marriage, there is no worry for myself or my husband to be unfaithful. I know enough about the history of relationships to know that my husband and I have a better relationship than anyone on this thread. Because I was just trying to help a woman that needed someone to relate and not tell her its her fault, she isnt doing what she should as a wife. That was rude and sounded more like the rants of a bitter woman. Then i get bashed for trying to help instead of probably making her feel worse. I dont live my life by what society expects of me, nor would i ever base anything on Conventional evolutionary theory sounds like a bunch of bullshit to me. Your the one on the hate train all over the place talking about gold diggers, empty promises of undying love, fake Rolex prominent on your wrist, get her pregnant ASAP, then start 'working late' with as many secretaries. I honestly dont even know why you would take it that deep, because my marriage is strong and i allow my husband to watch porn and play with his weiner and we are happy.
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from who?
if you have arguments and disagreements of basic philosophy you have n o basis for a relationship other than mutual financial exploitation.
Things of significance that can destroy a relationship should be clarified and agreed upon in advance, not afterwards
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958
I fully agree with the "in advance, not afterwards" comment. If a couple is in agreement to bring outside influences into their union, that's their choice. Obviously OP was not in agreement with her husbands behavior. What I'm not understanding is why married men feel their wives are controlling of their sexuality. I thought that was the point of a marriage, being committed sexually to each other and giving up all others.
 Quoting: Melrox
I've read up and down this thread, men calling women "controlling" "insecure" etc. If a woman was to webcam with some random man on the internet just to get her jollies. No physical contact, would that be considered cheating?
 Quoting: Melrox


Oh please, married women often flirt with other attractive or otherwise significant men if they think they can get away with it, just to see if they still got it. You know this.


Why are you pretending at perfection?

How's about an honest appraisal and not discussion based on entitlements and assumption that natural human behavior can be significantly altered out of all recognition to certain and profitable failure?

Not one in a million men ever expects to meet anyone of their fantasy women.
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That didn't answer my question
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I still dont get why this is gender assigned? Women and Men enjoy porn and fantasy.....
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I honestly dont even know why you would take it that deep, because my marriage is strong and i allow my husband to watch porn and play with his weiner and we are happy.
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from who?
if you have arguments and disagreements of basic philosophy you have n o basis for a relationship other than mutual financial exploitation.
Things of significance that can destroy a relationship should be clarified and agreed upon in advance, not afterwards
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958
I fully agree with the "in advance, not afterwards" comment. If a couple is in agreement to bring outside influences into their union, that's their choice. Obviously OP was not in agreement with her husbands behavior. What I'm not understanding is why married men feel their wives are controlling of their sexuality. I thought that was the point of a marriage, being committed sexually to each other and giving up all others.
 Quoting: Melrox
I've read up and down this thread, men calling women "controlling" "insecure" etc. If a woman was to webcam with some random man on the internet just to get her jollies. No physical contact, would that be considered cheating?
 Quoting: Melrox
A woman has different needs than a man, women need some kind of interaction to fully enjoy, not just images. So, would it be "controlling" of a man to stop me from engaging in my "needs"? Should my husband intervene or just mind his own business when it comes to me pleasuring myself?
 Quoting: Melrox


personally I dont care as long as there was no desire for any other person to be actively involved. In past relationships any discovery of plastic prods never bothered me in the least.
One of my relationships was with a long haul truck driver, and I had no problem with her battery operated boyfriend what so ever as sometimes you just have to pop so you can get to sleep and prepare for the next days work.
The underlying problem with this thread is that women have no idea of mens emotional and physical sexuality needs and instead substitute their own imaginings.
Some cultures and religions make the claim any intrusion of the vagina outside of a husbands member is intercourse, so, why not go with that paradigm instead of the assumption that it's only maintanance.
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My wife is the same way as op, maybe worse. If I'm watching a movie and there is a good looking woman acting sexual, she gets pissed. She starts screaming at me to go and screw the actress.

I tell her that it is her own insecurities making her act this way. Then she says, well how would you like it if I looked at an attractive man. So I tell her to do what she wants and leave me out of her insanity.

Of course, she walks away in a huff and we typically rehash the same event in less than a month.

I pretty much just laugh in her face and tell her she knows where the door is when she loses it too much. That usually shuts her crazy ass up.

But other than that, we are happily married.
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laugh right on!
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I fully agree with the "in advance, not afterwards" comment. If a couple is in agreement to bring outside influences into their union, that's their choice. Obviously OP was not in agreement with her husbands behavior. What I'm not understanding is why married men feel their wives are controlling of their sexuality. I thought that was the point of a marriage, being committed sexually to each other and giving up all others.
 Quoting: Melrox
I've read up and down this thread, men calling women "controlling" "insecure" etc. If a woman was to webcam with some random man on the internet just to get her jollies. No physical contact, would that be considered cheating?
 Quoting: Melrox


Oh please, married women often flirt with other attractive or otherwise significant men if they think they can get away with it, just to see if they still got it. You know this.


Why are you pretending at perfection?

How's about an honest appraisal and not discussion based on entitlements and assumption that natural human behavior can be significantly altered out of all recognition to certain and profitable failure?

Not one in a million men ever expects to meet anyone of their fantasy women.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958

That didn't answer my question
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yes it did, you just wont allow yourself to accept it.

You want a hard and fast rule for the private imaginings of a man, but all manner of leeway for yourself because, after all, youre nice, and men are disposable and detestable beasts undeserving of consideration of any sort
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Jesus Christ, this thread is still going?

Simply put, you're not fucking your husband hard enough or you aren't opening your legs on a regular enough basis. Therefore he resorts to porn to jerk off with. It's normal and 95% of Men do it.

As long as it's not BDSM, there shouldn't be anything wrong. MILFS, teens, face-f*cking, bukkake, whatever is all good. Stop worrying.

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did you really just ask that, ok little history lesson in 32,000 BC there was man on earth and they lived in caves and they carved pictures on the walls, and they were of naked women.
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You mean the non alpha males drew the pictures while the Alpha Males went out to get some...
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i wasnt there in the caves with them, but i can see the pictures in the cave so it happened.
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firstly there is no cave 'porn' I'm aware of. Cave art is almost exclusively about hunting and food and shows of strength and tribal organization. One can assume sex was not as important or difficult to come by as food for a variety of reasons, some of which may be that the exchange of access for security hadnt been coopted by gummint enfranchised attorneys at that time
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It wasnt cave porn but it was the first documented picture of tittes so its naked pictures. Im sure cave men thought about sex just like any man since then. Im sure they found the time just as we do.
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Honey...you NEED to believe me when I tell you your husband IS a lying dog.... YOU DO NOT GET 7 FOLDERS OF PORNO FROM A VIRUS!!... He rhinks you are so dumb that you will not know that THERE IS NO VIRUS!! Want further verification... call your local pc repair service and ask them..then confront your husband and ASK HIM HOW MANY AFFAIRS HE HAS HAD SINCE YOU'VE BEEN MARRIED! If he says "none" ....pack his clothes up for him and send his sorry butt to the nearest hotel. You can install a program on you're computer that is hidden and will tell you EVERYTHING he does online. Check your history on the pc and see where he has been surfing...if the history is deleted after he has been online you have all you need to know!!
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I still dont get why this is gender assigned? Women and Men enjoy porn and fantasy.....
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mens porn and womens porn are often different

Men in the main love to relive some semblance of their youth with firm flesh youthfully appointed and purposely used.

Womens porn usually has to do with unlimited money and no responsibility for anything but continual indulgence.
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You mean the non alpha males drew the pictures while the Alpha Males went out to get some...
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i wasnt there in the caves with them, but i can see the pictures in the cave so it happened.
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firstly there is no cave 'porn' I'm aware of. Cave art is almost exclusively about hunting and food and shows of strength and tribal organization. One can assume sex was not as important or difficult to come by as food for a variety of reasons, some of which may be that the exchange of access for security hadnt been coopted by gummint enfranchised attorneys at that time
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It wasnt cave porn but it was the first documented picture of tittes so its naked pictures. Im sure cave men thought about sex just like any man since then. Im sure they found the time just as we do.
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typical entitled female, change the subject and change the terms.
In point of fact there is very little evident 'porn' in primitive art, and what little there is is mostly about who's in charge.
No, you dont get to automatically win because of anatomy.
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I've read up and down this thread, men calling women "controlling" "insecure" etc. If a woman was to webcam with some random man on the internet just to get her jollies. No physical contact, would that be considered cheating?
 Quoting: Melrox


Oh please, married women often flirt with other attractive or otherwise significant men if they think they can get away with it, just to see if they still got it. You know this.


Why are you pretending at perfection?

How's about an honest appraisal and not discussion based on entitlements and assumption that natural human behavior can be significantly altered out of all recognition to certain and profitable failure?

Not one in a million men ever expects to meet anyone of their fantasy women.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958

That didn't answer my question
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yes it did, you just wont allow yourself to accept it.

You want a hard and fast rule for the private imaginings of a man, but all manner of leeway for yourself because, after all, youre nice, and men are disposable and detestable beasts undeserving of consideration of any sort
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If a woman resorted to that kind of behavior would it be cheating?
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I still dont get why this is gender assigned? Women and Men enjoy porn and fantasy.....
 Quoting: Corizon


mens porn and womens porn are often different

Men in the main love to relive some semblance of their youth with firm flesh youthfully appointed and purposely used.

Womens porn usually has to do with unlimited money and no responsibility for anything but continual indulgence.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958


So by your theory BDSM porn is such a turn on for women, because they abdicate responsibility?
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Ok then whatever i told like it is, and responded to what was said in the comment, i only mentioned cheating because i know that thought is in her head. What part of what i said wasnt related to what was said. i may have went alittle into detail but my point is happily married men have always had a form of porn all the way back to 32,000 BC. [link to www.holytaco.com]
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What woman would report her husband for wacking off to porn? I hope one who found her husband wacking off to children, their own child, or animals would react accordingly.

I wont argue married men masturbate more than single, but I will argue it is because of what society has molded us to become. Fault is on both sides of the tracks. Marrage itself is a joke if you think about it and our modern view of how psychology and society says we are two act as humans, male and female... an exert from Sex at Dawn (of which any person reading and debating on this thread should read before they continue to sound like ignorant, sexist, egotistic individuals): "Conventional evolutionary theory assures us that all you scheming, gold-digging women reading this are evolved to tick a trustworthy yet boring guy into marrying you, only to then spray on a bunch of perfume and run down to the local singles club to try to get pregnant by some Neanderthal as soon as hubby falls asleep on the couch. How could you? But before male readers start feeling superior, remember that according to the same narrative, you evolved to woo and marry some innocent young beauty with empty promises of undying love, fake Rolex prominent on your wrist, get her pregnant ASAP, then start 'working late' with as many secretaries as you can manage." Sex at Dawn, Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha.

With an evolutionary theory deeming such to be true, how do you honestly think we currently view relationships, sex, and marriage in a correct light? I suggest picking up a book or two and reading about our how our ancestors viewed sex and relationships before you jump on the hate train.
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See, this thread is full of people who think wrong is right and right is wrong.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23298609



A man that looks at child porn or animals is sick, and shouldnt even be mentioned in this conversation, you took this previous post and just went way way out there.
There is no fault in my marriage, there is no worry for myself or my husband to be unfaithful. I know enough about the history of relationships to know that my husband and I have a better relationship than anyone on this thread. Because I was just trying to help a woman that needed someone to relate and not tell her its her fault, she isnt doing what she should as a wife. That was rude and sounded more like the rants of a bitter woman. Then i get bashed for trying to help instead of probably making her feel worse. I dont live my life by what society expects of me, nor would i ever base anything on Conventional evolutionary theory sounds like a bunch of bullshit to me. Your the one on the hate train all over the place talking about gold diggers, empty promises of undying love, fake Rolex prominent on your wrist, get her pregnant ASAP, then start 'working late' with as many secretaries. I honestly dont even know why you would take it that deep, because my marriage is strong and i allow my husband to watch porn and play with his weiner and we are happy.
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Turn your ego down and/or find a tampon. It is drowning out the words in front of your face. I quoted a book about how most of society looks at relationships, men, and women. reread this words and you might feel like you just made yourself look like an ass. Congrats on having a great relationship... Did you even read the response or just skim and let your ego take over?
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Oh please, married women often flirt with other attractive or otherwise significant men if they think they can get away with it, just to see if they still got it. You know this.


Why are you pretending at perfection?

How's about an honest appraisal and not discussion based on entitlements and assumption that natural human behavior can be significantly altered out of all recognition to certain and profitable failure?

Not one in a million men ever expects to meet anyone of their fantasy women.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958

That didn't answer my question
 Quoting: Melrox


yes it did, you just wont allow yourself to accept it.

You want a hard and fast rule for the private imaginings of a man, but all manner of leeway for yourself because, after all, youre nice, and men are disposable and detestable beasts undeserving of consideration of any sort
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If a woman resorted to that kind of behavior would it be cheating?
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A simple question to all those men who accused women of being 'controlling". should a man just mind his own business if his woman resorted to this behavior?
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Oh please, married women often flirt with other attractive or otherwise significant men if they think they can get away with it, just to see if they still got it. You know this.


Why are you pretending at perfection?

How's about an honest appraisal and not discussion based on entitlements and assumption that natural human behavior can be significantly altered out of all recognition to certain and profitable failure?

Not one in a million men ever expects to meet anyone of their fantasy women.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958

That didn't answer my question
 Quoting: Melrox


yes it did, you just wont allow yourself to accept it.

You want a hard and fast rule for the private imaginings of a man, but all manner of leeway for yourself because, after all, youre nice, and men are disposable and detestable beasts undeserving of consideration of any sort
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958
If a woman resorted to that kind of behavior would it be cheating?
 Quoting: Melrox


an intentional seeking out of a relationship of sexual nature with an living human? Likely so.
How about whey you get a pelvic exam and a medical student or male OB nurse jams a fist in, cheating or not?

You, being an essentially uneducated and rigid individual seeking outside guidance based on some perception of overwhelming external authority, cannot fathom the concept of dealing with the intricacies of human relationships honestly based on independent human respect and courtesy based on the material at hand.

The answers to your questions are not questions for this group, or any group.
They are questions for exactly those that may volunteer to share their lives and fortunes with you. They deserve honest answers specifically about what will drive you from them and vice versa.

You want an outside authority on your side, you dont realize that those claiming to be on your side, are NOT on your side, but on their side.
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I still dont get why this is gender assigned? Women and Men enjoy porn and fantasy.....
 Quoting: Corizon


mens porn and womens porn are often different

Men in the main love to relive some semblance of their youth with firm flesh youthfully appointed and purposely used.

Womens porn usually has to do with unlimited money and no responsibility for anything but continual indulgence.
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So by your theory BDSM porn is such a turn on for women, because they abdicate responsibility?
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You want to get into subcatagories only to change the tenor of the discussion, not for clarification.
If it's legal, it's none of your business.
Lots of people role play, and lots of women make a good living from it.
If your mate offends you, then leave them be without destroying them. None of the discussion even allows for what if you offend your mate. I'm gonna go out on a limb and posit that somewhere, some woman of gentler disposition is comforting someone that's not getting it from you where it should originate.
What else do you suggest?

Oh, besides control and constant punishment I mean.
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That didn't answer my question
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yes it did, you just wont allow yourself to accept it.

You want a hard and fast rule for the private imaginings of a man, but all manner of leeway for yourself because, after all, youre nice, and men are disposable and detestable beasts undeserving of consideration of any sort
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If a woman resorted to that kind of behavior would it be cheating?
 Quoting: Melrox


an intentional seeking out of a relationship of sexual nature with an living human? Likely so.
How about whey you get a pelvic exam and a medical student or male OB nurse jams a fist in, cheating or not?

You, being an essentially uneducated and rigid individual seeking outside guidance based on some perception of overwhelming external authority, cannot fathom the concept of dealing with the intricacies of human relationships honestly based on independent human respect and courtesy based on the material at hand.

The answers to your questions are not questions for this group, or any group.
They are questions for exactly those that may volunteer to share their lives and fortunes with you. They deserve honest answers specifically about what will drive you from them and vice versa.

You want an outside authority on your side, you dont realize that those claiming to be on your side, are NOT on your side, but on their side.
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Are the women in those videos NOT living human beings?
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yes it did, you just wont allow yourself to accept it.

You want a hard and fast rule for the private imaginings of a man, but all manner of leeway for yourself because, after all, youre nice, and men are disposable and detestable beasts undeserving of consideration of any sort
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If a woman resorted to that kind of behavior would it be cheating?
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an intentional seeking out of a relationship of sexual nature with an living human? Likely so.
How about whey you get a pelvic exam and a medical student or male OB nurse jams a fist in, cheating or not?

You, being an essentially uneducated and rigid individual seeking outside guidance based on some perception of overwhelming external authority, cannot fathom the concept of dealing with the intricacies of human relationships honestly based on independent human respect and courtesy based on the material at hand.

The answers to your questions are not questions for this group, or any group.
They are questions for exactly those that may volunteer to share their lives and fortunes with you. They deserve honest answers specifically about what will drive you from them and vice versa.

You want an outside authority on your side, you dont realize that those claiming to be on your side, are NOT on your side, but on their side.
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Are the women in those videos NOT living human beings?
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You've said enough...thank you. Yet porn is not "degrading" to women. "I rest my case." Being an "uneducated" individual.
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yes it did, you just wont allow yourself to accept it.

You want a hard and fast rule for the private imaginings of a man, but all manner of leeway for yourself because, after all, youre nice, and men are disposable and detestable beasts undeserving of consideration of any sort
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If a woman resorted to that kind of behavior would it be cheating?
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an intentional seeking out of a relationship of sexual nature with an living human? Likely so.
How about whey you get a pelvic exam and a medical student or male OB nurse jams a fist in, cheating or not?

You, being an essentially uneducated and rigid individual seeking outside guidance based on some perception of overwhelming external authority, cannot fathom the concept of dealing with the intricacies of human relationships honestly based on independent human respect and courtesy based on the material at hand.

The answers to your questions are not questions for this group, or any group.
They are questions for exactly those that may volunteer to share their lives and fortunes with you. They deserve honest answers specifically about what will drive you from them and vice versa.

You want an outside authority on your side, you dont realize that those claiming to be on your side, are NOT on your side, but on their side.
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Are the women in those videos NOT living human beings?
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last I checked all humanity are human beings.
I assume you think youre making a clever point?

Should you be interested, there are as many events of men being rough with women as women being rough with men.
Just as in real life, men dominants force sex on submissive women, and dominant women deny sexual gratification to submissive men.
You really dont know much about either the topic or humans do you?
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i wasnt there in the caves with them, but i can see the pictures in the cave so it happened.
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firstly there is no cave 'porn' I'm aware of. Cave art is almost exclusively about hunting and food and shows of strength and tribal organization. One can assume sex was not as important or difficult to come by as food for a variety of reasons, some of which may be that the exchange of access for security hadnt been coopted by gummint enfranchised attorneys at that time
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It wasnt cave porn but it was the first documented picture of tittes so its naked pictures. Im sure cave men thought about sex just like any man since then. Im sure they found the time just as we do.
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typical entitled female, change the subject and change the terms.
In point of fact there is very little evident 'porn' in primitive art, and what little there is is mostly about who's in charge.
No, you dont get to automatically win because of anatomy.
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No i didnt change the terms im sure cave men didnt call it anything because they didnt speak. but here is my proof.

[link to www.holytaco.com]

[link to www.livescience.com]
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from who?
if you have arguments and disagreements of basic philosophy you have n o basis for a relationship other than mutual financial exploitation.
Things of significance that can destroy a relationship should be clarified and agreed upon in advance, not afterwards
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I fully agree with the "in advance, not afterwards" comment. If a couple is in agreement to bring outside influences into their union, that's their choice. Obviously OP was not in agreement with her husbands behavior. What I'm not understanding is why married men feel their wives are controlling of their sexuality. I thought that was the point of a marriage, being committed sexually to each other and giving up all others.
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I've read up and down this thread, men calling women "controlling" "insecure" etc. If a woman was to webcam with some random man on the internet just to get her jollies. No physical contact, would that be considered cheating?
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A woman has different needs than a man, women need some kind of interaction to fully enjoy, not just images. So, would it be "controlling" of a man to stop me from engaging in my "needs"? Should my husband intervene or just mind his own business when it comes to me pleasuring myself?
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Directing this question to those who posted how women were controlling of their sexuality. Where are they now?
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Jesus Christ, this thread is still going?

Simply put, you're not fucking your husband hard enough or you aren't opening your legs on a regular enough basis. Therefore he resorts to porn to jerk off with. It's normal and 95% of Men do it.

As long as it's not BDSM, there shouldn't be anything wrong. MILFS, teens, face-f*cking, bukkake, whatever is all good. Stop worrying.
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can I come over ?
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firstly there is no cave 'porn' I'm aware of. Cave art is almost exclusively about hunting and food and shows of strength and tribal organization. One can assume sex was not as important or difficult to come by as food for a variety of reasons, some of which may be that the exchange of access for security hadnt been coopted by gummint enfranchised attorneys at that time
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25390958


It wasnt cave porn but it was the first documented picture of tittes so its naked pictures. Im sure cave men thought about sex just like any man since then. Im sure they found the time just as we do.
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typical entitled female, change the subject and change the terms.
In point of fact there is very little evident 'porn' in primitive art, and what little there is is mostly about who's in charge.
No, you dont get to automatically win because of anatomy.
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No i didnt change the terms im sure cave men didnt call it anything because they didnt speak. but here is my proof.

[link to www.holytaco.com]

[link to www.livescience.com]
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how does it feel to be so limited?
Noticing sexual differences doesnt make it porn, it makes it obvious identifying anatomy and incidentally a necessary source of food for infants. Calling a fool a fool isnt an insult, if it's accurate.
In any respect the discussion wasnt that there was NO intentionally erotic material in all of worlds prehistory, just that there is very little compared to more important topics. Once culturees found a reliable living and security, then sex as amusement and indulgence as well as legal obligation came into it's own

Sex then as now was unquestionably a medium of exchange, albeit more honestly dealt with than the fantasy today.
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I'll call it.

All the women who are upset about porn are fat/ugly.
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This world is STILL OBSESSED with sex i see..

Now i understand why this civilisation is considered galactically backward.

Sad thing is - is that the obsession seems to stem from some hidden deep knowing we all have that sexuality is something important - but as with everything - it's abused to the point of absurdity and the magical sanctity of the act gets vaporised in the process.


P.S.:
OP - if your marriage is based on sex, it won't last.
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I'll call it.

All the women who are upset about porn are fat/ugly.
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probably not. Just conditioned to think that their man should only be attracted to them.

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