How can I tell the source of porn I found in husband's stash.

Now that's the funniest thing in this whole damn thread. Think I'll move to Canada.

I'm with ya, sister.

BITCH GO SEW UP YOUR VAGINA AND ADMIT YOURSELF TO A LEPER CONVENT

With today's sophisticated viruses, its quite possible the virus downloaded the porn, walked over to the cabinet, removed a CD, placed it in the computer then burned the images to it. Then of course hid the CD in a place it didn't think you would ever find it. Have you tried Norton?

YOU SOUND LIKE YOU NEED A GOOD DIRTY SANCHEZ

OP SHOULD CHEAT ON HER HUSBAND WITH EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING APPROPRIATE SHE CAN FIND IN THE REFRIGERATOR

Serenity777 said:

"Its better that he looks at porn than cheat on you...unless, the porn itself is disturbing. (Bestality, or Children.) If so, turn him into the police.

Otherwise, if its the "run of the mill," sort of thing...do something better with your time and mind the business in which is RIGHTFULLY yours. You have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT involving yourself in the affairs that he chooses to have to himself. Not only is it disturbing that YOU FEEL YOU HAVE THE RIGHT, but, it shows that you have CONTROL ISSUES of which could be quite DANGEROUS.

You'd better lay off of that...because, FREE-WILL is a Universal constant in which NO ONE has the right to infringe and YOU WILL BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE.

P.S. - I'm not joking."

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You replied: "Fuck You"



The truth hurts that much?

You owe Serenity777 an apology. Unless it's child porn or worse it's harmless. YOU cast the first stone.

Oh yeah...there's this too:

FUCK YOU!

If I were your husband I'd divorce your ass for invasion of privacy.

If it is truly unacceptable to you, just put a deep scratch in it and nicely put it back where you found it. He'll never ask you about it, trust me. :)
Then give him 110% of your attention and consider it a wake-up call that he's needing a bit more lovin'.
My husband used to look at tons of porn and I used to feel threatened by it, many years ago, then I started paying far more attention to him instead.

There needs to be another man involved too.

7 pages of folks sticking up for porn. That is 7 pages of folks trying go justify porn to themselves. Deep down you all know that is someone's daughter, wife, mom being degraded so you can rub one off. Many of you have daughters of your own. Keep pleading the porn case, it won't make that shame go away, no matter how small it might be.

Anyway, this is a control thing...
You are not asking 'why', just how can I nail that dirty scumbag.
What a sad state of affairs.

I don't know why some of you have to be so nasty in response to the OP. You all don't know her entire situation. I am a woman who was married to a man for 18 years. (he died in 2010) I was a snooper. I started snooping early on. Not because he gave me a reason to but because 1) I was insecure and 2) he was pretty much a private person.

I knew he had watched porn in the past as a couple of times early into marriage I would go to bed early and get up to get some water or something and a VHS tape would be on. I didn't like it but I didn't say anything.

Then the Era of Internet Porn exploded (excuse the Pun) and I really got paranoid. I would break into his computer (we wasn't the most clever person when it came to coming up with secure passwords) and scan and scan and just get angry at the amount (nothing freaky) just girls with big hooters and guys with long dongs. I was small busted and again the insecurity messed with me.

That insecurity led me to get a boob enhancement. Of course he was all for that. Dumbest thing I ever did. It didn't stop the porn problem. What it did was make me resentful that after he was spending time getting all worked up with the porn he would come into the bedroom and "finish the job" with me. Now, I am not an unattractive person but I was a bit controlling in certain areas of our marriage.

I stopped initiating sex but didn't turn him down but it was clear I was not enthusiastic. I tried to explain how I felt but he said that for guys watching porn is like when the watch a sport like football. That guys actually, in their heads, put themselves on the field and play the game. He said they do that with porn too...they put their heads (the other one) in the "game". Well, I understood that but still didn't like it. He never stopped looking at porn until he got sick but that is when he lost interest in virtually everything.

Point is: Really examine why it is you are looking for evidence of the porn. I bet if you are honest with yourself you will realize it is because of your own insecurities.

And to those of you who are saying "give him more sex"....that really wouldn't make a difference. The guy is still gonna look at porn.

Some advice for you guys out there however: If you don't want your wife/girlfriend bitching to you about the porn then don't perform in the bedroom like you are a star of your own flick. Most of us women laugh at what the men in the pornos are doing, the sounds they make. It isn't attractive to us. Watch your damn porn and get your rocks off but when you are with us in our bed, MAKE LOVE TO US, pay attention to our faces so see if we like or dislike something you are doing because trust me...it will be evident. None of us wants to feel like a blow up doll.

Another sensible person speaks out..... if you find the above post something that angers you, perhaps you are the one that has a porn addiction.

Do you know of the carnage of wrecked lives that this industry churns in?

He still looks at it. He just got better at hiding it. Stealth file hiding programs.

Maybe because his wife does NOT deliver a satisfying sex life?
especially when you have kids. man i'll never have kids.

THANK YOU THANK YOU.... The problem is that there is a SERIOUS LACK OF REAL MEN.. and the peanut gallery of sheep watchin the repulsive industries' garbageare vocal and eatin it up like the trash grazin sheep right on top of the the cities garbage heaps!!!

VERY well said. All of it.

Many women have low-self esteem and obviously many of the ones on this thread that are anti-porn. It's threatens them a lot, that is why they hate it.

I don't have time or need to read thru 8 pages of this but feel for the OP and just in case this hasn't been said yet, I wanted to offer it...  I'm a bible thumper but think you will find I have a surprising take on the issue...

Sexuality and sexual drive is a gift from God - its what makes men MEN.  Women have different responsibilities and drives that equip them for their purpose.  It is what it is...  If you want to blame someone, blame God but personally I think He knew what He was doing.

Now, just like with every good gift from God, the devil can twist and get us off the mark of it.  I think, in general, porn is such a thing - especially when it is true porn.  It is generally degrading and demoralizing to women and marriage in general, mostly because as women we don't understand the sexual drive of men and it takes sexuality out if the marriage bond into another place..

So what's the solution?  How about you taking sexy pics and write a few sexy stories for your husband.  Maybe even video your lovemaking for him to view at different times.  Let him clean his pipes to his hearts delight but with you as his desire.  Text him dirty a couple times a week - especially on those days you know you will be able and willing to rock his world when he gets home.  Don't try to suppress his sexual desires but rather work with them... 

Masturbation isn't wrong.  What about Genesis 38 - isn't masturbation bad?  No - what God was angry about was Onan not obeying His command to impregnate his wife, not "spilling the seed" - it's s total misinterpretation and straw grasping.  Deal with the fact your hubs will want it about 10 times more than you ever will...  And help him with that...

Professional porn or amateur stranger porn is a problem - it gets men desiring something other than their wives.  This solves that problem.  And switch it up in bed every once and a while.  Be the variety he seeks...  And realize sometimes he will prefer a quick release over actual sex.   It's a need for them like drinking water - sometimes you just want to drink out of the tap, other times you want to sit on the porch with a nice glass of cool Evian...  Don't be offended if he does - be grateful!  He's likely not going to want to tell you all about it either, so don't trample his privacy... 

When he sees tight booty in the grocery line, you want him thinking about coming home to you - that you're the pinnacle of his sexual fulfillment.  If all his sex and masturbatory desires have you as the starring show, this will happen...  That booty looks good and gets his juices flowing but you are the only one who can really please him...  If you want that to happen you've got to work at it...

And btw - it doesn't matter what you look like or anything like that.  If you are doing it right, you become the standard all else is measured up to, not vice versa.  Talk dirty to him about the parts of your bIody you feel are less than attractive to him during sex and next thing you know, it becomes his desire.  I.e if you have a big, jiggly butt talk it up during whoopee - and he'll start to see it only in a light that sexually gratifies him.  You have small boobs, talk during sex about how great it is to get so close to him and feel the power of him heaving on your ribs etc...

Healthy men like sex - the issue is that it's your job as his wife to help him explore that in a manner that is gratifying and healthy to both of you and your marriage.  If he's looking at porn, I'd say it's an indicator you need to work on this...

this thread is a smash hit!

If OP feels less desirable or has had her self esteem dented by her husbands selfish activities. Then she needs to take it upon herself to undulge in her own selfish activities and TAKE HER SELF ESTEEM BACK! Oh yeah, be sure to tell him it's none of his business what you do.

I was about to suggest that you may consider watching porn together with your hubby but when I read that he is watching "teen girls" I was livid as well. It could mean 13-14 years old or even younger and it would be under child pornography code. He may find himself in a big trouble. There are special police agents who are checking those sides non-stop and they may track him. While it's normal for a man to watch porn, it's not normal for a grown up man to watch teen or child porn. It's a crime! Besides facing charges of accessing child pornography they may also charge him with possession of it.

did looking at the photos get you wet?

I am so heartened by the responses on this thread.

Finally a majority of people are mentioning the womens accountability in all this. And her actions as a semi Stalker / spy has been called out as wrong.

The man is the victim here of this womens attempt to control him.

I cant tell you how nice it is to hear..... My last relationship was much like the one this women describes.

The women seemed to think everything that I though or did had to be her business, she had to have control over everthing. There was no room for any of my own thoughts or privacy.

And yes, I ran from this Bitch. Best thing I ever did and I finally got control back of MY life.


5 stars !!!!!

be glad for the porn.
it keeps him keeps him off
the street, and out of
someone's bed.

Or it could mean 18 or 19 which I am sure it does. FFS!