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How can I tell the source of porn I found in husband's stash.
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Anonymous Coward |
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Porn is wrong. Making porn is wrong. Watching porn is wrong. It's all wrong. If it weren't, people would acknowledge across the board that it was OK and there wouldn't be any need for threads like this.
OP -- your husband betrayed you, not only with the porn, but with his lies to cover up the porn. These two issues alone indicate that your marriage is not what you assume it to be. I'd suggest that you both need counselling help, if you want your marriage to improve. Your husband is not your possession (meaning that you can't control him), but he did make a marriage vow to 'forsake all others', which includes looking at pictures of naked strangers. He owes you to make good on that vow; if he doesn't want to do that, then you have the right to leave him.
I know that this isn't about you withholding sex from him. Some men are easily tempted into the habit of porn, for any number of reasons. Shrugging it off as just a guy thing, as many commenters suggest you do, is not the answer. You know in your gut that his viewing porn is wrong and a betrayal, but it's up to him to see it that way as well, or there isn't much hope for your marriage.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. Sometimes women are far better off alone than married to someone who has no self-control and no respect for the woman he vowed to be faithful to.
Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24279842 This person is obviously a brainwashed religious tars, most likely catholic, and most likely an insecure control freak as well How completely wrong you are! I'm far from Catholic and far from brainwashed. On the contrary, I use my brain to think, which is a rare usage these days. Pornography is the scourge of most marriages and invariably goes hand-in-hand with affairs. That women have been brainwashed to accept porn as the norm is what's sad. I used to accept porn as the norm myself, until I became a counsellor and discovered how insidious and how destructive pornography is in relationships. Porn is, in fact, an affair by proxy, and the woman the husband is lusting after is, in fact, the 'other woman'. White-wash porn all you want, but it is an incredibly destructive force, both for those viewing it and for those involved in the industry.
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