How can I tell the source of porn I found in husband's stash.

Actually No the bible doesnt refer to looking at naked pictures or does it say anything about porn. you could relate the word lust to porn but its still not the same, but i see your point.

Foreplay...a woman needs foreplay. Mental as well as physical. Open her up like a flower and she will reward you richly with her passion. Tell her she's beautiful, desirable, wanted. She'll want you more often too! I'm not saying buy her gifts, take her out or anything like that...just make her feel like she's the most beautiful woman in the world.
Its a lie that women dont want sex as much men...we just dont want BAD sex as often as you all are willing to settle for it.

it would be far easier to get rid of sanctimonious busybodies that make assumptions based on their own secret fears and the desire to divert attention from their own failings to the claimed failings of others.

You lack of any kind of rational argument to prove my points wrong, or any kind of rational answer to my question shows you have absolutely nothing to stand on. Please, i'm asking for a debate, not you to point your finger and say "ha-ha". Alas, what can I expect from you. Please explain to me how anything I said is an excuse for my actions, which I described none. Explain how those things I pointed out were indeed false, and provide me with an answer to my question.

I might take anything you say seriously then.


umm...you made a point? Other than calling me a wench, saying I read redbook and cosmo (I dont)and watch TV (I dont have cable)?


Okay you're not ignorant, you're just an idiot. Thanks now I can sleep tonight.


Yes...that made you feel better huh? Feels GOOD to call women names huh? Makes your dick feel like its BIGGER!!
pshhh! Make sure you clear your pipes before you fall asleep...so you dont wet your bed.


And you respond with an insult lol, someone must be upset. You seem awful preoccupied with dicks to think so coarsely of them.

just because a guy cums doesn't mean he's satisfied.

There's yer sign...
bed you're a real winner in bed!! lol

That would be impossible, why not think of the possible? Even if the internet were to die, porn would still exist. One female on this thread is adament it has been interpreted that 36,000 years ago cavemen drew porn. Whether or not it was interpreted correct is another issue, but relating to porn being 'banished,' it clearly shows some think it has been around for thousands of years. Further proving it could not be completely abolished. So think realistically maybe, i know its GLP but try?

where is that written?
What two people decide is between them.
that's exactly the problem, assuming that there is some secret decree with any authority that holds precedence over what the two involved parties agree to.

That's the problem, the gummint and it's advocates makes all manner of 'legal' and 'moral' assumptions, all of which are tied to finding the one most able to pay fines fees and penalties at fault, because if not, nobody would get paid.

Like if a woman refuses to open her relationship or bed up to another woman, is that being too controlling of her husbands "sexual needs" too?

umm...you made a point? Other than calling me a wench, saying I read redbook and cosmo (I dont)and watch TV (I dont have cable)?


Okay you're not ignorant, you're just an idiot. Thanks now I can sleep tonight.


Yes...that made you feel better huh? Feels GOOD to call women names huh? Makes your dick feel like its BIGGER!!
pshhh! Make sure you clear your pipes before you fall asleep...so you dont wet your bed.


And you respond with an insult lol, someone must be upset. You seem awful preoccupied with dicks to think so coarsely of them.


I'm still not sure what your point IS!! What IS your point? I'm not running from a debate with your but I have no idea wtf you want to debate about? lol
And yes, I tend to insult those who insult me first. *shrugs* only human.

i wasnt there in the caves with them, but i can see the pictures in the cave so it happened.

Winner. You would be surprised how many men do not know that, and/or have been conditioned to not care. I for one do understand and embrace daily what you answered with, and strive to help others do the same. This thread clearly shows it will be a long lesson to teach. Thank you for the response!

Most people, when they get married, take their vows seriously. My own vows included the words, "forsaking all others, keep only unto each other, for as long as you shall live."

Dont like it? Dont get married.

Beautiful :) One who gets it!! :banana2:
Bet your sex life is AMAZING! :)

rather than gossip about your husband on glp and seeking ways to spy on him, try to use this as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship. the porn has already been discovered, why do you need to go covert? your passive aggressive behavior only contributes to the problem.

if you want to become the dynamic duo, then you need to have your husbands back. just go talk to him with an open mind and try not let emotions influence what you say. the truth does in fact set you free.

yall should be able to tell each other everything and not have to suffer a consequence. yall need to keep each other in the loop because it will allow you to help each other. i wouldnt be able to help my wife if she lied to me, because i would only be supporting the lie.

marriage is hard work but its worth it. and there is room in a marriage for fantasy. both of you deserve that...

i disagree: tHEY ARE A unit JOINED IN MARRIAGE

firstly there is no cave 'porn' I'm aware of. Cave art is almost exclusively about hunting and food and shows of strength and tribal organization. One can assume sex was not as important or difficult to come by as food for a variety of reasons, some of which may be that the exchange of access for security hadnt been coopted by gummint enfranchised attorneys at that time

No response?

Foreplay...a woman needs foreplay. Mental as well as physical. Open her up like a flower and she will reward you richly with her passion. Tell her she's beautiful, desirable, wanted. She'll want you more often too! I'm not saying buy her gifts, take her out or anything like that...just make her feel like she's the most beautiful woman in the world.
Its a lie that women dont want sex as much men...we just dont want BAD sex as often as you all are willing to settle for it.


Winner. You would be surprised how many men do not know that, and/or have been conditioned to not care. I for one do understand and embrace daily what you answered with, and strive to help others do the same. This thread clearly shows it will be a long lesson to teach. Thank you for the response!


Beautiful :) One who gets it!! :banana2:
Bet your sex life is AMAZING! :)


Had a rough patch 3 months back, but one month back I picked up Sex at Dawn and Intimacy & Desire with my gf. You could say things are going backup hill very fast :)

Just remember, not many of us guys 'get it' nor do many women know how to keep their egos in check (guys cannot either), so try to explain to them, confuse them, so they can strive to figure it out hehe.

from who?
if you have arguments and disagreements of basic philosophy you have n o basis for a relationship other than mutual financial exploitation.
Things of significance that can destroy a relationship should be clarified and agreed upon in advance, not afterwards

Winner. You would be surprised how many men do not know that, and/or have been conditioned to not care. I for one do understand and embrace daily what you answered with, and strive to help others do the same. This thread clearly shows it will be a long lesson to teach. Thank you for the response!


Beautiful :) One who gets it!! :banana2:
Bet your sex life is AMAZING! :)


Had a rough patch 3 months back, but one month back I picked up Sex at Dawn and Intimacy & Desire with my gf. You could say things are going backup hill very fast :)

Just remember, not many of us guys 'get it' nor do many women know how to keep their egos in check (guys cannot either), so try to explain to them, confuse them, so they can strive to figure it out hehe.


Good for you both!! That's good to hear! The more you treat her like the queen she is, the more like a king you will feel!

There's yer sign...
bed you're a real winner in bed!! lol


Actually I'm a very good and considerate lover. I'm still one that opens doors for women. I just find all the power trip ego female controlling shit a bunch of drivel. As I said, Real women are few and far between in today's society.

I fully agree with the "in advance, not afterwards" comment. If a couple is in agreement to bring outside influences into their union, that's their choice. Obviously OP was not in agreement with her husbands behavior. What I'm not understanding is why married men feel their wives are controlling of their sexuality. I thought that was the point of a marriage, being committed sexually to each other and giving up all others.

men and women both turn into control freaks, just like men can be raped but dont speak out, so too women live in asexual marriages and dont speak out either, not saying living asexualy is anywhere near the horror of rape, just pointing out that in our culture there are things each gender is allowed to complain about and things that are TABOO. We never know what goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and noone on the outside can tell someone else what to do in their own marriage. But I do wonder how many women suffer sexual neglect in silence?

I've read up and down this thread, men calling women "controlling" "insecure" etc. If a woman was to webcam with some random man on the internet just to get her jollies. No physical contact, would that be considered cheating?

The best porn is made with 18 year olds in it...

Actually I'm a very good and considerate lover. I'm still one that opens doors for women. I just find all the power trip ego female controlling shit a bunch of drivel. As I said, Real women are few and far between in today's society.


Again, how is it that a woman is trying to control you if she doesnt want you to look at (and beat off to) other women? If she wants you to expend your sexual energy on HER?
Thats not a control issue...that a respect issue.

when you realize you will automatically win because of your gender, your interest in possibly tipping your hand to your unwitting victim lessens. In relationships it's assumed that what's past is prologue but we all know that's not how it works when one side can change the terms unilaterally and then demands obedience and control.
Women know, or should know, that if they demand unrealistic behavior from their men they will live as spinsters, so what's better than to marry, get 'vested' and then take off with all the valuables, the children and claim outrage over what is obviously essentially universal behaviour that you cannot possibly fathom because it's out of your frame of reference.
Do you think hitlery cares that billy porks the help?
No, because she understands what privileges she would lose.
Relationships are about the exchange of various powers that can promote a common survival.
It's not about outrage, it's about entitlement to extract money from the other party. Any other claims are simply judging what you dont understand for your own predetermined benefits.
Some claim that any prurient thought is a thought crime and adultry. How convenient. Those that make such claims are always creating such a flurry of judgments, demands and accusations and never admit they have plenty of lusts of their own, be it for animal vegetable or mineral.
There are many more marital betrayals besides the sexual, there are others such as financial and emotional betrayals that just as handily destroy the family unit and leave wreckage of broken homes and destroyed children in their wake.

A woman has different needs than a man, women need some kind of interaction to fully enjoy, not just images. So, would it be "controlling" of a man to stop me from engaging in my "needs"? Should my husband intervene or just mind his own business when it comes to me pleasuring myself?

Oh please, married women often flirt with other attractive or otherwise significant men if they think they can get away with it, just to see if they still got it. You know this.


Why are you pretending at perfection?

How's about an honest appraisal and not discussion based on entitlements and assumption that natural human behavior can be significantly altered out of all recognition to certain and profitable failure?

Not one in a million men ever expects to meet anyone of their fantasy women.