What makes men not want to have sex?

Just trying to understand my husbands sex drive. Is it normal that my sex drive is higher than his? What should I do?

i was a husband like this. sometimes you go long periods without and that becomes your new routine. i really had to see that my wife missed that intimacy and needed it then we really worked at getting the flame back and our sex life is amazing now. about every day of the week.

some of these answers are from idiots but some have merit. maybe try something new and interesting. go outdoors or something like that. maybe get some new night things. but dont change yourself just to please him. be confident and that is the sexiest thing of all. my wife and i have been married 13 years and she is still the sexiest woman i know. it is attitude. but most of all let him know how you miss it and not because you are a sex addict, most women seem to desire closeness of being intimate with their partner. it is important.

Just trying to understand my husbands sex drive. Is it normal that my sex drive is higher than his? What should I do?

My wife wants to start an open relationship. I work away in the mines week on week off. and in her 30's she has a huge sex drive. it is driving her mad and she wants a fubu for the week I am at work. but she is also ok with me getting one at work too. I dont know if I should be happy or sad. we have been together for 12 years and have 3 kids. we are soul mates and madly in love. I should be ok with my wife wanting other sexual experiences if it means I get too as well.. right???

She is a big slut that has held her self in check all these years. should I just let her go on my week at work and fuck and suck cock? and I can find a fubu at work to fuck every night in my room. then on our week together we were thinking of dabbling in couple swapping too cause it seems pretty hot. the thought of he fucking other people does and doesnt scare me at the same time. its a strange feeling. if we could both get over these insecurities and realize our love for each other wont change no matter who we sleep with. sex is sex and our love for each other grows stronger every day. but she is in her prime and just gets these mad urges constantly to want to be filled by cock. she just wants release by being a slut. am I being selfish by wanting her to remain faithful?? or am I better accepting her slutty ways and finding it a huge turn on and take advantage of this chance to also become a man slut? as I also havent had many people as we got together in highschool. any help is appreciated. I am really torn. I could go either way. There is fear. but its fear of the unknown. maybe once it happens and we are out there fucking around it will all work out and the start of our new relationship with each other can begin. it could be a really wild and open relationship that actually gets stronger as we grow as individuals and a couple together.

What do you guys think..

sorry for hijacking. it seemed like we r kinda in the same boat.
If you hubby has a low sex drive maybe he would be ok with sharing you because he understands you are a horny slut that loves cock. Its animalistic and exiting to want different people. and its only sex. I know she wont fall in love and run away. I never fear that. its the jealousy I need to get over that she is getting sexual enjoyment from others.

Two things:


PORNOGRAPHY AND YOUR WEIGHT.

You are no longer the attractive woman who had nice outfits and great figure. You resorted to food to hide your depression so I am sure you are 20 to 40 pounds overweight. NO MAN LIKES A FAT CHICK. Why do you think they go to strip clubs? To see fat chicks? No way....

The solution:

Lose weight and engage on sport activities. A gym, running club, go to wine tastings with him. Have more sex regularly and dress sexier. He will lose interest for porn and change his focus to you.

I know this formula will work for most unhappy overweight American chicks who wonder why their boyfriends or husbands are not paying attention to them.

Be sexy. Try losing 100 lbs. Stop acting masculine. Oh, and if you insisted that he be in the delivery room when you gave birth, he's probably still traumatized from seeing what no man should ever see.

I know a couple who got into swapping. After a while, turns out her husband and the wife of the couple they were swapping with started meeting without their spouses. when it was found out, 2 divorces happened. I guess when all 4 were in the room fucking it was ok but when the two of them were left out, it was an issue.

And bad news. If your wife is now asking you if she can screw other guys, she's already done it.

We have been very honest about this topic. All our cheating baggage has been aired alredy. we both have cheating in the past. and we both agreed that with couples we would never see them singly. that is wrong to each other. think of her as a hippie. free love and all that. we honestly have never been more in love with each other. and I know her well. she isnt lying. she is being patient and really trying to help me understand her need for just sex. a cock to stuff in her pussy to ride. I can understand her point of view. I would love a pussy on the side for a different sexual gratification. we make make love everytime. we dont argue. everything could be better. If we can accept rules and boundaries we could enjoy a new level of sex and also have the best soul mate relationship we can. she does already have someone she has been texting that could be a fubu easily. but she is respecting me and has stopped texting and wont see him unless I am for it. but I dont have anybody right now. she wants me to get someone now so we can start our fubu's together. so it would be for the week I am at work. at home we r together or swapping together. could this option be doable??

Some people on this site are really mean...

We had the same problem...My husband went to the doctor and he had low testosterone. He rubs this gel on his neck twice a day...

Wow - it makes a HUGE difference...

I don't think it's just age/stress....I think the environment is de-masculinizing men...(just my opinion)

there are many reasons for this.

one of them..which likely doesn't apply to you is...

that the majority of women these days seek control . It is as if they feel inadequate because they do not have a penis.

this type of mentality in a woman turns many men 'off'.

no real man wants a woman that wishes she were male. ...although today....most men are not masculine anymore...and those types want a woman with a penis...lol

We have been very honest about this topic. All our cheating baggage has been aired alredy. we both have cheating in the past. and we both agreed that with couples we would never see them singly. that is wrong to each other. think of her as a hippie. free love and all that. we honestly have never been more in love with each other. and I know her well. she isnt lying. she is being patient and really trying to help me understand her need for just sex. a cock to stuff in her pussy to ride. I can understand her point of view. I would love a pussy on the side for a different sexual gratification. we make make love everytime. we dont argue. everything could be better. If we can accept rules and boundaries we could enjoy a new level of sex and also have the best soul mate relationship we can. she does already have someone she has been texting that could be a fubu easily. but she is respecting me and has stopped texting and wont see him unless I am for it. but I dont have anybody right now. she wants me to get someone now so we can start our fubu's together. so it would be for the week I am at work. at home we r together or swapping together. could this option be doable??

Stress, Low testosterone/ high cortisol levels, aging, Low activity levels; in that order.

Either that or he no longer finds you appealing sexually.

My wife wants to start an open relationship. I work away in the mines week on week off. and in her 30's she has a huge sex drive. it is driving her mad and she wants a fubu for the week I am at work. but she is also ok with me getting one at work too. I dont know if I should be happy or sad. we have been together for 12 years and have 3 kids. we are soul mates and madly in love. I should be ok with my wife wanting other sexual experiences if it means I get too as well.. right???

She is a big slut that has held her self in check all these years. should I just let her go on my week at work and fuck and suck cock? and I can find a fubu at work to fuck every night in my room. then on our week together we were thinking of dabbling in couple swapping too cause it seems pretty hot. the thought of he fucking other people does and doesnt scare me at the same time. its a strange feeling. if we could both get over these insecurities and realize our love for each other wont change no matter who we sleep with. sex is sex and our love for each other grows stronger every day. but she is in her prime and just gets these mad urges constantly to want to be filled by cock. she just wants release by being a slut. am I being selfish by wanting her to remain faithful?? or am I better accepting her slutty ways and finding it a huge turn on and take advantage of this chance to also become a man slut? as I also havent had many people as we got together in highschool. any help is appreciated. I am really torn. I could go either way. There is fear. but its fear of the unknown. maybe once it happens and we are out there fucking around it will all work out and the start of our new relationship with each other can begin. it could be a really wild and open relationship that actually gets stronger as we grow as individuals and a couple together.

What do you guys think..

sorry for hijacking. it seemed like we r kinda in the same boat.
If you hubby has a low sex drive maybe he would be ok with sharing you because he understands you are a horny slut that loves cock. Its animalistic and exiting to want different people. and its only sex. I know she wont fall in love and run away. I never fear that. its the jealousy I need to get over that she is getting sexual enjoyment from others.

Im telling you its porn. After watching some hot tight bodied young girl get railed in the arse repeatedly he doesnt want the shitty in the dark misionary position you are giving him.