What makes men not want to have sex?

Its to mutch artificial hormones around in our system. I have the same problem with my wife. I love sex and could have it every day but get it maximum once a week. What to do?

I get tired of feeling like I'm fucking a nun, where did all the crazy fun shit go...

yep,thats was did it for me

My husband had the same problem-it has made our relationship hell. He did go to the Dr and he did have low T. He was put on T. Things were wonderful. Then he just stopped taking it, it's too expensive, all kinds of excuses. Now when I dress sexy for him, make a nice meal, open some wine......all the things that would indicate there's some lovin' on the horizon-he just ignores. Would rather talk about his cars and tell me stupid shit like how oil works.

I could tell a big difference when he was on it, he was flirty and sexy with me-sex was often and great. Now we are back to nothing. I think that there are men like my husband who do not understand that intimacy and sex are so important to their partners and I think that they just don't give a fuck. Honestly. If the situation were reversed, I would NEVER have my husband feeling unwanted, rejected.........but yeah, doesn't work both ways. I am not exactly a troll to look at either-eg not a fat, nagging kind of wife. I will probably take a lover. My husband's attitude toward sex makes me feel ugly-unwanted-not very womanly. I doubt I will stay in the marriage.

he needs space to be. imho.

I believe it's stress

stogie!!

I don't want to be blunt but all that still doesn't get you laid.....low attention spand or what

Have him go to the doc and get his testosterone tested. Manopause its real. Get him some male vitamins. Supersapponins. Search it I guarantee if he still loves you youll beg hide it from him. Tongat Ali.

I guarantee it is hormonal very possibly brought on by stress and age.

Got to make her feel like it is less of a chore. Try a little more affection during the day. The longer you are together the less effort people tend to put. Compliments, appreciation, nice long kisses and a good tap on the ass will do wonders. Also don't wait to long....earlier in the night or day is better.

A vagina that is unkempt.

Seriously sounds like people have a lot to say on this issue.

Well the first step would be to have some truly; open, honest and genuine communication so you can at least narrow down his true reasons. At least then you'll have a better chance of getting to the bottom of it and hence solving your issue and his too I bet. I would not assume anything but let him tell you his reasons.

The truth: He's just not that into you anymore. Lust is fleeting. If you want rockem sockem sex the rest of your life then you'll be taking on multiple lovers for the rest of your life. Marriage is about more than sex once the kids come anyway. We just had out first about 3 months ago and I still get it twice a week or so but it aint like it used to be for either of us I'm sure. I still love her and can't imagine life without her. Sounds like a lot of you have some growing up to do.

I wonder if women will ever realize that they are killing their men.


Testosterone levels go up to normal 7 days after ejaculation, and the person gets depleted of nutrients.


Welcome to seeing how porn makes men pussies.

Well, speaking from my own experience as a male.

Hygiene is a big thing, atleast for me. There's nothing hotter in my mind than to go to bed fresh out of the shower with my gal, also fresh out of the shower. Taking showers together can be a very nice way of getting sensuality back into a relationship.

Variation. Change your perfume every now and then. Wearing perfume to bed makes me lose the feeling since I will only think you didn't have time to shower. Sexy underwear is not necessary to bed, more of a spice that is oh so nice those afternoons/evening you have to yourself.

Being able to wind down after a hard days work certainly improves my sex drive. Children certainly is an effective contraceptive in that aspect. One big turnoff is problems... Try to avoid serious stuff 2-3 days a week. Let the man get his head relaxed every now and then and he'll not only want sex more, he'll probably be more happy and more willing to listen to the tough stuff too.

Try to get yourself and your husband to quit TV as your main activity in the evenings, and only watch what you really want to see, and try to let eachother watch what you want, without distractions. But do try to reduce the hours in front of the TV, it's a time thief. It's better to have a half hour snooze than watch TV for 2 hours. Way more relaxing, and way more energizing.

Anyway, imho, if your husband is working, which I believe, I reckon stress/being unable to wind down, is his problem. If you want more sex, you need to find out how you can help him wind down, because having problems/work on your mind, already tired from working, coming home, doing chores around the house and then just collapse in front of the TV does not trigger the sexdrive. Maybe he's better off having a half hour nap or so after coming home from work, before having to pitch in with the homemaking?

My 2 cents.

I feel less drawn to sex the more cerebral I feel. While I generally am up for it, if im reading something thats interesting and involved or in the process of learning something new or making new connections mentally I feel much more distance from the physical body and its needs.

Maybe he caught you masterbaiting and he feels like he can not satisfy you like you can with your toys..

OP, trust me, get him to go to the Doctor and have his Testosterone levels checked.