How do you cope with loneliness when you can't have a girlfriend/wife?

I used to work with a guy like this. Really a very smart, reasonable, personable guy, but is only interested in 20-year-old blondes. We tried to tell him that at 55 years old, he better have one hell of a car and a job, but he doesn't....and therefor stays alone. He's turned down wonderful women that I would date (if I weren't happily involved that is), and I am 20 years younger.

The truth is that you are whole just the way you are. The 'loneliness' you perceive is not a reflection of any true flaw or shortcomming in your life, it is illusory. Work on accepting yourself just as you are, with no external circumstances necessary to define who you are (job, relationship, social status, etc). Fuck what society tries to condition you to believe is 'normal' or 'needed' - it's a big collective mind fuck. On a deeper level when we don't unconditionally accept (love) ourselves and who we our, we seek out external affirmation from others. Work on accepting yourself independent of your 'situation' or 'circumstances'. I say this in hindsight because I used to feel lonely but learned the hard way to overcome and transcend those feelings . Now I greatly value my freedom in my personal life and enjoy having as little resistance and as little drama in my life as possible. : )

No you do not. No one does. I relaxed my standards and BOOM!! I quit being lonely and started getting laid. I am now married. Had I continued to insist on a skinny model type I'd still be lonely and jacking it every night instead of getting laid.

Walk on with hope in your heart and you'll never walk alone.

Spank your monkey

You need to Download Secondlife.com and hang out there - you can get married and hell have 5 wives if you get into that Gorean lifestyle.

Have a nice house, on a private island, have parties, invite your friends. - try it!

Lol Why do you people need to rely on someone else to be happy? Happiness comes from inside, not from some crazy bitch divorcing you and taking 50% of everything you own that you praboboly payed for. Getting married is a trap you'll prabobly be alot happier not getting married then you would because the social stigma is woman are good and men are bad. Fuck bitches bro, enjoy life.

I have a little tiny chair I like to drag into the corner where I sit and cry.

You are as alone as you want to be.

I misread your headline.

I thought you were asking how to cope with loneliness when you HAVE a girlfriend/wife.

Because when you do, you're in a prison.

I'm not kidding.

Some people were not meant to have a gf. They are much more valuable to the universe and the truth as single people.

Whether it's a Barbie or a Bertha.....
You make your own grief, and women in general will play you according to your weakness. Get a hooker and send her home when you're done dancing. Why complicate your life ? Some people go looking for misery.

I bet the food even sucks too!

Nope, and i dont believe i will. I have tried numerous times to find a relationship i could be satisfied with, thinking that's what i needed to be content/happy with life. But after being let down again and again by selfish people, in a relationship or not, i realized i dont need them in my life.
The loneliness i thought i had turned into satisfaction when i stopped wasting energy on them and put it into things more worth while.

I came to realize that loneliness only occurs when you search for happiness in someone else. As someone else said, its destined for failure before it begins.

If you even WANT a "barbie", ie a beautiful girl with nothing else to offer, you lack the maturity for a healthy adult relationship anyway.

Jerk off for a few more years.

that's because of lack of love that it seems like hell, but with love it's heavenly.

Have a hobby or join a social club like a computer club or an astronomical club or something like that.

I think i rather be forever alone than with someone i can't look at without regret... No wonder the divorce rates are so high, people marry for the sake of marrying and not for love and attraction.
And they you all complain that you're like in prison.
Well, you shouldn't have married a whale.

I never said that! I want both beauty and good character.
That's what keeps a marriage successful. Divorces are a thing of the past with this strategy.

buy a dog, pick up extra hobbies, visit a nursing home or
a resident home and play games, card with people who are
disabled, connect with singles online or at dance clubs, etc.

Wrong. There's no such thing as a lonely woman, unless she's horribly disfigured.. That is exclusively a male problem. It is especially bad in places like the United States, Canada, and other English speaking countries.

I did not marry a whale. She is not hard to look at ans i do not regret a thing. No, she is not skinny. But she is a wonderful person and fun to be with. She is everything I ever wanted in a woman except 36-24-36. Close enough and I am happy.

Being lonely and castration have what to do with each other?

You want beauty and character but I think the viewers of your posting are failiong to see character in you.

Just look at all the divorces with beautiful people as (men, mostly) time marches on they move on to another and another.

Marriage lasts due to two people becoming one in purpose and friendship.

No one man nor woman can maintain that initial sexaual energy forever. It would be ridiculous and most people move into the next stages of relationships.

I have been with my husband since 1986 and he calls me every day many times to see what's up. I find him still very male and appealing and it works both ways but we certainly are not the same as back in the very beginning of our attraction.

Sorry for not editing.

A dog for companionship. An escort for "release". Just don't mix the two up.

Preach on brother. I was sitting at lunch today. On my left a couple and on my right a couple. I was the only happy male of the three. That I guarantee.

Forget Barbie , finds some one that truly, deeply "GETS" you. You will never be lonely. My husband (15 years) and I almost seem connected
on a molecular level...it's such turn on.
When I first met him, he definitely wasn't my type, somewhat nerdy, unsure of himself. But our conversations were like a mind/soul orgasm, he so,"got" me, and I ,him. The good, the bad, the ugly and the beautiful...totally cool with it all. It was so liberating. That was 19 years ago. So glad I didn't judge the book by the cover, because he has definitely has come into his own. He is a magnificent father and husband. He has amazing character and intelligence, plus he has a wicked and dark sense of humor. He's only become hotter as time has gone on.