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Being nice to girls. Questions for the ladies.

 
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Being nice to girls. Questions for the ladies.
Being nice to girls often doesn't work because guys usually pretend to be nice to get girls to like them and that's just weak.

There are many ways of actually being genuinely nice though.

How do ladies actually tell the difference between a man pretending to be nice as compared to just a great cool guy? What gives it away when a man is being fake?
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Someone answer this question.
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If you are sincere they will think you are a creep if you are not sincere they will think you are a dream come true.
If you like someone just convince yourself you don't and they will be all over you.
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just be yourself! Girls are more connected then men to feel the real intentions of people!

if a guy intentions are deceptive , most girls will feel it in advance. Just be pure!
To live is to believe in the power of dreams! To dream is to believe in the power of love! To love is to Know the truth!
The Desire to Be fuel the belief that you Are which ignite the Will to Become which bring back forth the desire to be...
Let it be-come you! It means Stop seeking your higher self! It is seeking you! Stand still in your mind to calm the waters of your mind and then it shall find you, so you can ride those waves together!
your true self lies somewhere between your heart and your consciousness. It is called the heart consciousness,which is the creator, which is you!
The heart create the emotions and our mind evoke its purpose, from which we dream the life we live in order to imagine the nature of reality and finally remember love!

The highest Purpose of our mind is the ability to Forget! Go on and Forgive yourself!
There is no love in truth but there is truth in love!
Be authentic, nobody else can do it for you!
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just be yourself! Girls are more connected then men to feel the real intentions of people!

if a guy intentions are deceptive , most girls will feel it in advance. Just be pure!


^
Lol!!

Not good advice for a lot of dudes.

People who are lame being their lame selves just leads to more failure.
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just be yourself! Girls are more connected then men to feel the real intentions of people!

if a guy intentions are deceptive , most girls will feel it in advance. Just be pure!


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Lol!!

Not good advice for a lot of dudes.

People who are lame being their lame selves just leads to more failure.
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faillure leads to learning throught experiance!

Past = experiance
present = Actions. (not reactions)
Future = Thoughts

also! Past Experiances!

Present Actions!
Future Thoughts!

:D

in a slightly opposite manner you get this!
Past = Reacting to Present!
Future = Wating for a reation!
present = Making it happen Regardless of past or future!
To live is to believe in the power of dreams! To dream is to believe in the power of love! To love is to Know the truth!
The Desire to Be fuel the belief that you Are which ignite the Will to Become which bring back forth the desire to be...
Let it be-come you! It means Stop seeking your higher self! It is seeking you! Stand still in your mind to calm the waters of your mind and then it shall find you, so you can ride those waves together!
your true self lies somewhere between your heart and your consciousness. It is called the heart consciousness,which is the creator, which is you!
The heart create the emotions and our mind evoke its purpose, from which we dream the life we live in order to imagine the nature of reality and finally remember love!

The highest Purpose of our mind is the ability to Forget! Go on and Forgive yourself!
There is no love in truth but there is truth in love!
Be authentic, nobody else can do it for you!
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come from to heart and not the head.
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If you are sincere they will think you are a creep if you are not sincere they will think you are a dream come true.
If you like someone just convince yourself you don't and they will be all over you.
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No they won't. A man is judged on his looks and wealth by other men(friendship) and women. Simple, really.
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if i try to be nice.. they see right through it

if i just be kind like i would to anyone, i feel dumb b/c they seem to think it's bs

if stick my tongue out like a pervert their eyes open and they smirk and get away fast

if i ignore them and pretend their not there when every other guy has a boner rdy to stick em with.. they think im a snob

i can't win with just meeting chicks out and about.

now any women I have worked with for 1-2+ years... dig me, cry when I leave. i run into a chick i havn't seen in 3 years but worked with for 5 years... they just wanna flat out fuck.

So how can i pick up chicks at the grocery store, gym, bar..etc? bar i have bad chances i know.

i had two chicks live down the hall from me and different times, after years.. one just knocked on my door and fucked my brains out. the other i ran into couple years after she left... gave her a ride and she blew me in the car. she was married.

explain myself to me. i hate having to put in years or wait years to get sex.. i wanna be on a 1 day to couple week time frame not this half decade shit
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A lot of decent women like lame, nerdy, shy, flawed etc. guys that are honest and genuine. It puts us at ease and makes us more comfortable showing our true selfs, flaws and all. Superficial women like the cocky, macho, conceited guys, but those relationships rarely are long term. If you're looking for a one night stand put on an act but for anything more, be yourself or you'll have to fake it for the rest of your life. It's you that you want her to fall for not some made up guy. BTW. A lot of pretty girls think the guys on "The Big Bang Theory" are pretty hot.
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Best way to tell if a guy is being genuine is time and eye contact.
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[Guy's perspective]

I think you're mistaken in your approach to understanding this.

There's two kinds of nice guy. One way gets the girl, and the other doesn't. In your mind, i think, the first way i am about to describe is the honest, non-lying nice guy, and the second guy is the one you think is the liar. What i want to show you is that it's the other way round; the first guy is the liar, and the second guy is honest.



The first way is to be the nice guy who's always "friendzoned"; he's or sexual in front of her. he never talks down to her, or lets her know that he's angry with her, or that he's jealous, and so on and so on. He does everything he thinks will make her happy. He never forgets her birthday. He pays for her wherever they go together. He never flirts with her, because he doesn't want her to think he just wants sex with her. He tolerates and tries to ignore all her shit. He puts her on a pedestal.


The second way is to be the nice guy who doesn't get friend zoned. He's always funny and oftentimes upbeat with her. He flirts with her frequently. He lets her know without being a creepy sleaze that he wants to fuck her brains out; that he wants to be a caveman around her - but he does it in a subtle, metaphorical-yet-direct way. He lets her know that it's ON without her having to feel like she's "easy" if she goes with him. He lets her know outright when he thinks she's wrong. He doesn't ignore nor tolerate her shit. He puts her at an equal value to himself - he doesn't put her on a pedestal above himself.



The first guy lies; he hides his sexual urges from her. He doesn't let on that she pisses him off sometimes. He doesn't let her know when he thinks she's in the wrong. He wants to assert his masculinity, but he hides it completely.

The second guy is exactly the opposite; he is comfortable being sexual. He is honest with her about how he feels about her actions. He lets her know when he thinks she's in the wrong. He wants to assert his masculinity and he does; he doesn't hide it whatsoever. He cares about her just as much as guy #1, but


There is also a third kind, which more accurately matches the idea of a guy "pretending to be nice":

The third kind of nice guy is the worst of the three, although more likely to get the girl than guy #1: This is the guy who acts like guy #2, but infact doesn't care about her at all, only himself. He is essentially a sociopath; he proactively manipulates the girl to get what he wants with no consideration for her feelings.



So to answer your question:

A girl tells guy number #1 very easily: she wants him as a friend, and is not sexually attracted to him.


The problem is telling between guys #2 and #3, because they seem so alike until a relationship has been properly established; by this time, the girl knows if its #2 or #3 - which is too late to avoid being hurt by #3 if she's not a strong-willed person.
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Re: Being nice to girls. Questions for the ladies.
Are you kind to old ladies, and disabled people of both genders, all ages? Open doors for them, help them to a better place in line?

If you suddenly open a door for one pretty girl, but ignore an old lady using a cane... it comes off as immature.

If you hold open a door for an old gal or guy with a cane, then hold open a door for a pretty girl, you come off as a total gentleman -- strong and confident.
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The key is to just be yourself.
You can't try and be nice, you either are or not.
The girls worth getting to know will respond to a genuinely nice guy and will not care about superficial things.

Pretenders only get so far. Girls get pretty savvy after a while and intuitively know which guys are genuine.

I have learnt that not all girls are after nice guys, they can find them boring, they seem to love the drama. Some people love the Love/hate thing, maybe it's great for between the sheets but it does not last. I know many girl friends that are addicted to bad men, they keep going back for more and then constantly whinge about it.

I knew from early on how to pick the ones for a bit of "fun" and who the keepers were. It's hard to explain but I believe most girls can tell, it's just some ignore the signs and suffer the consequences.
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People like to mix being nice and being easy. Girls love a nice guy, but not when you're easy and put them on a pedestal. You need to be a man and take control of some situations as well as comfort in others. But if you're always jumping at every situation to try and win her over, the only thing you're doing is making yourself look like an easy catch.

No one likes sonething easily attainable. Putting her on a pedestal isn't exciting for them, it's boring. They want to feel like they have a catch and someone that will bring thrill and excitement.
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Okay now I want a females opinion.

LADY'S OF GLP LEND ME YOUR STRENGTH
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OP you should never ask women what they want in a man because they will tell you one thing but in reality they will not like what they think they want!
This has been preoven time after time!
Trut is they want an asshole who treats them like s**t!
This is scientific fact!
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This is the easiest question to answer. We want you to get us...as in understand why we are how we are and then appreciate that.
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Anyone can be nice to someone they are trying to impress. Truly nice people are nice to those who are meaningless to them and lower status people.

One thing that I can not stand is if a guy is rude to waiters or shop assistants or gets overly irritated by silly mistakes they make. This shows to me that they are only nice to people when they have to be.

I even walked out of lunch with my dad once when he started complaining about the place just to show off.
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The Tao of Badass

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Fuck what the chicks say. They don't even know what they want.

Chicks get hot in the ass for a rock star. Go ahead and laugh. But when I walk in a room I pick and choose the girls I want. It's just like nature, you gotta flash your feathers.

When I stroll in a place I look at my big shiny $700 dollar watch, bam! Pussy starts oozing wetness. Cause they are watching. I don't care if they're married. Women have 40% more peripheral vision than men.

I'm tall and my hair is long. Well tanned and expensive clothes. Shoes...details....posture...attitude...rock star....bad mother fucker. It sounds so colloquial but IT WORKS because chicks are simple. And you're just trying to get their attention. After that you better talk fast and talk smooth. It's all part of the display and part of the game. It doesn't matter if you want a good girl or not. They will become good if they want you.

Walk in like you own the fucking planet. If you're short then wear some clogs. Stuff your pants. Anything goes dude. Pay no attention to the bitches. You're on a mission. Eventually it'll happen. They'll bump into you or you'll get accosted somehow. Then it's time to stuff in the horsey.

The very last thing you ever want to do is act like a nice little fag boy. That might get you some dick in the ass, and maybe that's what you really want, but if you're looking for labia then you must separate yourself from all the average chumps in the room.
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Fuck what the chicks say. They don't even know what they want.

Chicks get hot in the ass for a rock star. Go ahead and laugh. But when I walk in a room I pick and choose the girls I want. It's just like nature, you gotta flash your feathers.

When I stroll in a place I look at my big shiny $700 dollar watch, bam! Pussy starts oozing wetness. Cause they are watching. I don't care if they're married. Women have 40% more peripheral vision than men.

I'm tall and my hair is long. Well tanned and expensive clothes. Shoes...details....posture...attitude...rock star....bad mother fucker. It sounds so colloquial but IT WORKS because chicks are simple. And you're just trying to get their attention. After that you better talk fast and talk smooth. It's all part of the display and part of the game. It doesn't matter if you want a good girl or not. They will become good if they want you.

Walk in like you own the fucking planet. If you're short then wear some clogs. Stuff your pants. Anything goes dude. Pay no attention to the bitches. You're on a mission. Eventually it'll happen. They'll bump into you or you'll get accosted somehow. Then it's time to stuff in the horsey.

The very last thing you ever want to do is act like a nice little fag boy. That might get you some dick in the ass, and maybe that's what you really want, but if you're looking for labia then you must separate yourself from all the average chumps in the room.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27297284


A man is judged on appearance. If he flunks appearance then some women might look deeper to see if there is any other reason to date him (wealth, assets, social status, etc.). It's possible for him to pass the appearance test and for her to move on after learning that's all he has.
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The question i would get asked when asking out a girl


when I was a teen
"what kind of car do you have?"

Twenties
"What kind of drugs you got?,Buy me a drink>?"

Thirties
"what kind of job do you have?"

`Got married in my late 30's with no car ,no job, and sober.

It was worth the wait.

I did not own my own car until I was 38 and only because of where I live.
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Anyone can be nice to someone they are trying to impress. Truly nice people are nice to those who are meaningless to them and lower status people.

One thing that I can not stand is if a guy is rude to waiters or shop assistants or gets overly irritated by silly mistakes they make. This shows to me that they are only nice to people when they have to be.

I even walked out of lunch with my dad once when he started complaining about the place just to show off.
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Must be nice to small animals and wait staff
willing to kill spiders
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Being nice to girls often doesn't work because guys usually pretend to be nice to get girls to like them and that's just weak.

There are many ways of actually being genuinely nice though.

How do ladies actually tell the difference between a man pretending to be nice as compared to just a great cool guy? What gives it away when a man is being fake?
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Thats probably the reason why single fathers get hit on so much by women, cus they can prove they are sincere and genuine.!
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One of the sweetest memories of dating before I married my husband, was when we were at a friends house and we were playing ping pong. I was awful at the game but he was trying his best to let me win. I finally caught on and he knew he was caught. He had a sheepish laugh, but I thought it was adorable that he was trying to let me win.

Just my two cents.
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dude.. screw GLP.


Read up on things and people like:


"the way of the superior man"

"the game"

"eightball"

just to name a few books.

Check out Real Social Dynamics and Tyler Durden.

Study Mystery and his stile.

Check out the natural series by Tim on RSD (Real Social Dynamics) Nation.

Also might want to check out David Deangelo for some more old school stuff.

study the arts man, learn and practice makes perfect!
there is a whole gigantic field of study and practice into this. and a whole market too. A session with the RSD guys in your town of choice does have it's price for instance, and they are packed!

you don't need to go that far tho!

by only studying and getting to know the basic basics of the art and skill of picking up women and getting a date you'll increase your chances and skillset a few !00% or so.


best of luck!
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Fuck what the chicks say. They don't even know what they want.

Chicks get hot in the ass for a rock star. Go ahead and laugh. But when I walk in a room I pick and choose the girls I want. It's just like nature, you gotta flash your feathers.

When I stroll in a place I look at my big shiny $700 dollar watch, bam! Pussy starts oozing wetness. Cause they are watching. I don't care if they're married. Women have 40% more peripheral vision than men.

I'm tall and my hair is long. Well tanned and expensive clothes. Shoes...details....posture...attitude...rock star....bad mother fucker. It sounds so colloquial but IT WORKS because chicks are simple. And you're just trying to get their attention. After that you better talk fast and talk smooth. It's all part of the display and part of the game. It doesn't matter if you want a good girl or not. They will become good if they want you.

Walk in like you own the fucking planet. If you're short then wear some clogs. Stuff your pants. Anything goes dude. Pay no attention to the bitches. You're on a mission. Eventually it'll happen. They'll bump into you or you'll get accosted somehow. Then it's time to stuff in the horsey.

The very last thing you ever want to do is act like a nice little fag boy. That might get you some dick in the ass, and maybe that's what you really want, but if you're looking for labia then you must separate yourself from all the average chumps in the room.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27297284


A man is judged on appearance. If he flunks appearance then some women might look deeper to see if there is any other reason to date him (wealth, assets, social status, etc.). It's possible for him to pass the appearance test and for her to move on after learning that's all he has.
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quite right here! What you project on others will be pulled back on you! You attract the energies you project!

people, especially girl, are emotional magnet, they vibrate to energies much for easyly then most mens!

If you send energy and thoughts that you would like to receive, then the girl will feel that vibe and would not want to take advantage of you.. it's the mirror thing!

Mirror reflects images! People reflects everything else then images!
To live is to believe in the power of dreams! To dream is to believe in the power of love! To love is to Know the truth!
The Desire to Be fuel the belief that you Are which ignite the Will to Become which bring back forth the desire to be...
Let it be-come you! It means Stop seeking your higher self! It is seeking you! Stand still in your mind to calm the waters of your mind and then it shall find you, so you can ride those waves together!
your true self lies somewhere between your heart and your consciousness. It is called the heart consciousness,which is the creator, which is you!
The heart create the emotions and our mind evoke its purpose, from which we dream the life we live in order to imagine the nature of reality and finally remember love!

The highest Purpose of our mind is the ability to Forget! Go on and Forgive yourself!
There is no love in truth but there is truth in love!
Be authentic, nobody else can do it for you!
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just be yourself! Girls are more connected then men to feel the real intentions of people!

if a guy intentions are deceptive , most girls will feel it in advance. Just be pure!
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just be yourself bro.
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Being nice to girls often doesn't work because guys usually pretend to be nice to get girls to like them and that's just weak.

There are many ways of actually being genuinely nice though.

How do ladies actually tell the difference between a man pretending to be nice as compared to just a great cool guy? What gives it away when a man is being fake?
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23991183


I don't want a man to "Be Nice" to me.
I don't want a man to be cruel to me.

I want a man to treat me as an equal, with total disregard for my sex organs. Like a peer, a partner and with a confidence that comes from simple ambivalence...I could take you or leave you...that forces me to keep myself in check.

Guys who are busy "Being Nice" come off as Predatorial and reek of want, need and desperation for a sexual experience. Trying to create an artificial seduction through the art of acting or "trying to be nice."

I'd rather see a Man be nice to others when appropriate, so that way when and if he is nice to me I can safely assume it's because of how he was raised, versus some act he's putting on towards me.

What a lot of you men see as "The Asshole always wins" is really just women enjoying being on equal footing, even if it's in a negative way.

If a guy treats me like crap, I am free to do the same, which is easy and effortless lol.

If a guy is busy being nice all the time, all I can feel is Inadequate and off-balance, because I don't have the time or the energy to "be nice" all the time.

The time to be nice is when I ask you to be. If I need help moving, or a ride to the airport, or if I just need you to pick up a gallon of milk on the way over...things like that.

Just like any normal friend or relative would be that doesn't want what's in your pants.

Yeah, I like sex, it feels good, and if I'm attracted to you and single It's going to happen, and you don't need to "be nice" to get there, you just need to be yourself and be cool and also be compatible with my little world.

Guys who are "acting all nice" just want that quick sex, and the nice will be replaced with the opposite after they get it.
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[Guy's perspective]

I think you're mistaken in your approach to understanding this.

There's two kinds of nice guy. One way gets the girl, and the other doesn't. In your mind, i think, the first way i am about to describe is the honest, non-lying nice guy, and the second guy is the one you think is the liar. What i want to show you is that it's the other way round; the first guy is the liar, and the second guy is honest.



The first way is to be the nice guy who's always "friendzoned"; he's or sexual in front of her. he never talks down to her, or lets her know that he's angry with her, or that he's jealous, and so on and so on. He does everything he thinks will make her happy. He never forgets her birthday. He pays for her wherever they go together. He never flirts with her, because he doesn't want her to think he just wants sex with her. He tolerates and tries to ignore all her shit. He puts her on a pedestal.


The second way is to be the nice guy who doesn't get friend zoned. He's always funny and oftentimes upbeat with her. He flirts with her frequently. He lets her know without being a creepy sleaze that he wants to fuck her brains out; that he wants to be a caveman around her - but he does it in a subtle, metaphorical-yet-direct way. He lets her know that it's ON without her having to feel like she's "easy" if she goes with him. He lets her know outright when he thinks she's wrong. He doesn't ignore nor tolerate her shit. He puts her at an equal value to himself - he doesn't put her on a pedestal above himself.



The first guy lies; he hides his sexual urges from her. He doesn't let on that she pisses him off sometimes. He doesn't let her know when he thinks she's in the wrong. He wants to assert his masculinity, but he hides it completely.

The second guy is exactly the opposite; he is comfortable being sexual. He is honest with her about how he feels about her actions. He lets her know when he thinks she's in the wrong. He wants to assert his masculinity and he does; he doesn't hide it whatsoever. He cares about her just as much as guy #1, but


There is also a third kind, which more accurately matches the idea of a guy "pretending to be nice":

The third kind of nice guy is the worst of the three, although more likely to get the girl than guy #1: This is the guy who acts like guy #2, but infact doesn't care about her at all, only himself. He is essentially a sociopath; he proactively manipulates the girl to get what he wants with no consideration for her feelings.



So to answer your question:

A girl tells guy number #1 very easily: she wants him as a friend, and is not sexually attracted to him.


The problem is telling between guys #2 and #3, because they seem so alike until a relationship has been properly established; by this time, the girl knows if its #2 or #3 - which is too late to avoid being hurt by #3 if she's not a strong-willed person.
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I'm type 3 guy, so I'm a psychopath. Could be true yes. But I love it to manipulate girls. They're so dumb.

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