Basically I had to lose once. I was to such a low that I did not see a future. And I wasn't motivated to see one. But when things happen to you in your life that you can't explain, you try to. I looked around for answers, I didn't get them. Once you question reality, things become loose fitting. You start to see the common threads. I started to see the world around me as me but in a different form. I guess you'd call that empathy. But you still have your own assumptions and things, but it's hard to not be judgmental. But what you base your judgements on is the key. It has to be honest, and it has to be fair. It is a hard thing to balance. I try, but it's easier when you don't force things.