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Anonymous Coward User ID: 25610447 United States 11/09/2012 01:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I say no but they never do. They start out with no and change to yes. So, even when I say no, he expects to eventually hear yes. But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 25610447 United States 11/09/2012 01:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I say no but they never do. They start out with no and change to yes. So, even when I say no, he expects to eventually hear yes. Quoting: A Friend , yup , my son was spolied by his mothers friends ( women ) , I had to step in and take control, he was spoled AND lazk , but I got a handle on it in the long run |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 25610447 United States 11/09/2012 01:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I say no but they never do. They start out with no and change to yes. So, even when I say no, he expects to eventually hear yes. Quoting: A Friend , yup , my son was spolied by his mothers friends ( women ) , I had to step in and take control, he was spoled AND lazk , but I got a handle on it in the long run *lazy |
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A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | how old is he now? might be too late. people have to be more understanding if they spoiled the hell out of him. You get the gist of my point. We are here visiting and he just turned 8. We flew here on his birthday to be with them. Now they are ready to see us go, gladly. You mean you haven't left already? But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
Blue Skies User ID: 19168576 United States 11/09/2012 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Explain to them that they are creating this. If they want to see him grow into a responsible adult. They will need to change some things. Good luck. Quoting: Blue Skies Thank you. I need it! But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
BRIEF User ID: 381742 United States 11/09/2012 01:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 25610447 United States 11/09/2012 01:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? |
BRIEF User ID: 381742 United States 11/09/2012 01:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? Then maybe you should stop posting... I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? 4 children with 2 fathers. I am divorced and a widow. The other three are fine because they were taught that no means no. The little guy skipped that lesson. But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
Shoot straight Johnny User ID: 27373782 United Kingdom 11/09/2012 01:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. How old is your son? I don't think you can really blame 'others' for your son's behaviour, especially if he is old enough to know right from wrong. Even if they spoiled him. What if the opposite were true, and your son had been deprived all his life (born in the ghetto, poor, nobody around to love him, etc), would you then also blame his circumstances (lack of things) for his behaviour? I have often been accused of spoiling my grandson (11). and I agree that it's probably true. But I would rather him have things than not have things, if you know what I mean. The chariots of God are tens of thousands, and thousands of thousands. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 25610447 United States 11/09/2012 01:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? Then maybe you should stop posting... you're a sick little boy , seek help, SOON!!! |
A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? ... I'm white, I grageated m' edgumacation. I gotz me an obammy phone, to. But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. How old is your son? I don't think you can really blame 'others' for your son's behaviour, especially if he is old enough to know right from wrong. Even if they spoiled him. What if the opposite were true, and your son had been deprived all his life (born in the ghetto, poor, nobody around to love him, etc), would you then also blame his circumstances (lack of things) for his behaviour? I have often been accused of spoiling my grandson (11). and I agree that it's probably true. But I would rather him have things than not have things, if you know what I mean. Yes I do. Now, however since he gets everything he wants, he doesn't care about the things that he gets. He's always after the next best thing. He's relentless. But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
BRIEF User ID: 381742 United States 11/09/2012 01:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? 4 children with 2 fathers. I am divorced and a widow. The other three are fine because they were taught that no means no. The little guy skipped that lesson. :spanking101: I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 23683415 United States 11/09/2012 01:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You need to start telling him no but don't stop there, you need to tell these other people no as well. No more unwarranted goodies. Make it rewards from now on. Rewards for milestones, not for picking up a few toys in a bedroom. He is 8, so he is in, 3rd grade? I would say that you need to re-establish a schedule/routine for him. Sure, he has a school routine, but when he comes home... he sits down. End of story. Does homework. End of story. When he is done, supper is ready and will be eaten. End of story. When supper is done, he does his share of clean-up. End of story. When clean-up is done, he gets tv/music/games whatever, and then bed time. This sounds like it will be difficult but it's not. One action starts, no debating. When that action is done, the next starts, and so on. Eventually it will be his definite routine and will seem strange to stray from it. I was in the same situation. I have an only child, no death involved but I had cancer a year ago and cannot have more kids so since he is their oldest son's only son, he gets anything and everything. I finally said enough is enough. THEY need to know the boundaries apply to them as well, none of this "don't tell mom" BS. Hope this helps. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 23683415 United States 11/09/2012 01:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? It's a valid question, you uneducated dickhole. She mentioned her youngest's father. That means there is more children and more fathers involved. |
A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth. Quoting: A Friend They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced. I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat. How would you treat this situation? So how many children with how many different fathers? 4 children with 2 fathers. I am divorced and a widow. The other three are fine because they were taught that no means no. The little guy skipped that lesson. :spanking101: I am getting that more and more! He is a screamer. He's screaming before he even gets hit! I don't want the neighbors to call the cops on me. I suppose I could take him to a secluded place....no! You see how these things can be taken badly?! But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
A Friend (OP) User ID: 27389548 United States 11/09/2012 01:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You need to start telling him no but don't stop there, you need to tell these other people no as well. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23683415 No more unwarranted goodies. Make it rewards from now on. Rewards for milestones, not for picking up a few toys in a bedroom. He is 8, so he is in, 3rd grade? I would say that you need to re-establish a schedule/routine for him. Sure, he has a school routine, but when he comes home... he sits down. End of story. Does homework. End of story. When he is done, supper is ready and will be eaten. End of story. When supper is done, he does his share of clean-up. End of story. When clean-up is done, he gets tv/music/games whatever, and then bed time. This sounds like it will be difficult but it's not. One action starts, no debating. When that action is done, the next starts, and so on. Eventually it will be his definite routine and will seem strange to stray from it. I was in the same situation. I have an only child, no death involved but I had cancer a year ago and cannot have more kids so since he is their oldest son's only son, he gets anything and everything. I finally said enough is enough. THEY need to know the boundaries apply to them as well, none of this "don't tell mom" BS. Hope this helps. You hit the biggest nail on the head..."don't tell mom"! Where in the heck in their minds does this seem like a good thing to say?!? But Lord, he stinketh! :fnecsm: "When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040 |
ExTraDimensionaL777 User ID: 27300308 Belgium 11/09/2012 01:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | buckle down , stop giving him HIS way , remember , he's a child , you're the adult Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25610447 P.S. , learn to say NO!!!!!!! I love how kids can brainwash adults.. Its so pure.... (: ''unintentional''': )))) or maybe because the intentions are pure - works !! Peace yo These dayz through THA REAL RAP (element of hip-hop)--------------------------------------EACH ONE TEACH ONE----------------------------------------P.OSiTiVE -> (THERE iS NO REAL RAP ON TV or RADiOs) <- ----------------------------------------------------NO JUSTICE----------------------------------------------E.NERGY is the only way youths listen to--------------------------------------------------------------------------------JUST US---------------------------------------A.CTiVATES the Prophets !!! ------------------------------------"..artificial physical material posessions posses you--------------------------------------------------------C.ONSTANT -----------------------------------------------------------------------------you are your own self rescue------------------------------------------------------------E.LEVATiON PROOF -> 'CAN YOU CATCH iT???' --------------------------------------GOD BLESS YOU " [link to www.youtube.com] ---------------------------- remembah: FEAR iS THA MiND-KiLLAH [link to www.youtube.com] separation is the ego's greatest politRick----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- [link to www.youtube.com] CONTROL YOUR OWN THOUGHT PATTERNS ! Do NOT allow to be controlled ! -------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------- SELF-DESTRUCTION IS THA POWA LiGHT = iNFORMATiON ;D ----------------------- --------------------------------------------------------------- WITHOUT KNOWING WHAT THE FUNCTION IS !!!! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -------------------------------------------------- [link to www.youtube.com] peace2daUNIVERSE------------------- There's NO MYSTERiES, ONLY KNOWLEDGE & iGNORANCE ----------------- SAD TO SEE MEDICINE DIVORCE MORALITY... ;/ |