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Small problem...Help if you know about kids...

 
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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?

Last Edited by A Friend on 11/09/2012 01:11 PM
But Lord, he stinketh!

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buckle down , stop giving him HIS way , remember , he's a child , you're the adult
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buckle down , stop giving him HIS way , remember , he's a child , you're the adult
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P.S. , learn to say NO!!!!!!!
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You are right. Thanks.

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You are right. Thanks.

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yw, hf
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I say no but they never do. They start out with no and change to yes. So, even when I say no, he expects to eventually hear yes.
But Lord, he stinketh!

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I say no but they never do. They start out with no and change to yes. So, even when I say no, he expects to eventually hear yes.
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chuckle , yup , my son was spolied by his mothers friends ( women ) , I had to step in and take control, he was spoled AND lazk , but I got a handle on it in the long run
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I say no but they never do. They start out with no and change to yes. So, even when I say no, he expects to eventually hear yes.
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chuckle , yup , my son was spolied by his mothers friends ( women ) , I had to step in and take control, he was spoled AND lazk , but I got a handle on it in the long run
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*lazy
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I say no but they never do. They start out with no and change to yes. So, even when I say no, he expects to eventually hear yes.
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you need to tell them no as well. he is your child, you have ultimate say.
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You are right. Thanks.

sigh
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how old is he now? might be too late. people have to be more understanding if they spoiled the hell out of him.
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I doubt that i would ask the Glp-People for a Tip!
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How old is your son for starters?

As proper discipline must be gauged directly.

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You are right. Thanks.

sigh
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how old is he now? might be too late. people have to be more understanding if they spoiled the hell out of him.
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You get the gist of my point. We are here visiting and he just turned 8. We flew here on his birthday to be with them.

Now they are ready to see us go, gladly. You mean you haven't left already?
But Lord, he stinketh!

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I doubt that i would ask the Glp-People for a Tip!
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You would be surprised!
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Explain to them that they are creating this. If they want to see him grow into a responsible adult. They will need to change some things. Good luck.
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How old is your son for starters?

As proper discipline must be gauged directly.

hf
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He just turned 8.

hf
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Explain to them that they are creating this. If they want to see him grow into a responsible adult. They will need to change some things. Good luck.
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Thank you. I need it!
But Lord, he stinketh!

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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
I never forgive and I never forget

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Re: Small problem...Help if you know about kids...
My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
 Quoting: BRIEF
LOSER yet still make stupid posts
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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
 Quoting: BRIEF
LOSER yet still make stupid posts
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25610447


Then maybe you should stop posting...
I never forgive and I never forget

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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
 Quoting: BRIEF


4 children with 2 fathers. I am divorced and a widow. The other three are fine because they were taught that no means no. The little guy skipped that lesson.
But Lord, he stinketh!

:fnecsm:

"When the sky crackles in an electric dance of a beautiful requiem of lapis lazuli, maybe you will remember..." ~ Anonymous Coward 77360040
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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.


 Quoting: A Friend


How old is your son?

I don't think you can really blame 'others' for your son's behaviour, especially if he is old enough to know right from wrong. Even if they spoiled him.

What if the opposite were true, and your son had been deprived all his life (born in the ghetto, poor, nobody around to love him, etc), would you then also blame his circumstances (lack of things) for his behaviour?

I have often been accused of spoiling my grandson (11). and I agree that it's probably true. But I would rather him have things than not have things, if you know what I mean.

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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
 Quoting: BRIEF
LOSER yet still make stupid posts
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25610447


Then maybe you should stop posting...
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you're a sick little boy , seek help, SOON!!!
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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
 Quoting: BRIEF
LOSER yet still make stupid posts
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25610447


... I'm white, I grageated m' edgumacation. I gotz me an obammy phone, to.
But Lord, he stinketh!

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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.


 Quoting: A Friend


How old is your son?

I don't think you can really blame 'others' for your son's behaviour, especially if he is old enough to know right from wrong. Even if they spoiled him.

What if the opposite were true, and your son had been deprived all his life (born in the ghetto, poor, nobody around to love him, etc), would you then also blame his circumstances (lack of things) for his behaviour?

I have often been accused of spoiling my grandson (11). and I agree that it's probably true. But I would rather him have things than not have things, if you know what I mean.

hf
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Yes I do. Now, however since he gets everything he wants, he doesn't care about the things that he gets.

He's always after the next best thing. He's relentless.
But Lord, he stinketh!

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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
 Quoting: BRIEF


4 children with 2 fathers. I am divorced and a widow. The other three are fine because they were taught that no means no. The little guy skipped that lesson.
 Quoting: A Friend


:spanking101:
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You need to start telling him no but don't stop there, you need to tell these other people no as well.

No more unwarranted goodies. Make it rewards from now on. Rewards for milestones, not for picking up a few toys in a bedroom. He is 8, so he is in, 3rd grade? I would say that you need to re-establish a schedule/routine for him. Sure, he has a school routine, but when he comes home...
he sits down. End of story. Does homework. End of story. When he is done, supper is ready and will be eaten. End of story. When supper is done, he does his share of clean-up. End of story. When clean-up is done, he gets tv/music/games whatever, and then bed time.

This sounds like it will be difficult but it's not. One action starts, no debating. When that action is done, the next starts, and so on. Eventually it will be his definite routine and will seem strange to stray from it. I was in the same situation. I have an only child, no death involved but I had cancer a year ago and cannot have more kids so since he is their oldest son's only son, he gets anything and everything. I finally said enough is enough. THEY need to know the boundaries apply to them as well, none of this "don't tell mom" BS.

Hope this helps.
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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
 Quoting: BRIEF
LOSER yet still make stupid posts
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It's a valid question, you uneducated dickhole. She mentioned her youngest's father. That means there is more children and more fathers involved.
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My youngest who's father died within a month of his life, has been spoiled. He had wonderful people in his life who have spoiled him from birth.

They are witnessing the fruits of their labor and they don't like what they see but they want to blame my son when I think it is their fault mostly and their anger is misplaced.

I know many of you will put the blame on me, his mother. I've done the best I can but when there are people in your life who'll give you anything you want, that's hard to beat.

How would you treat this situation?
 Quoting: A Friend


So how many children with how many different fathers?
 Quoting: BRIEF


4 children with 2 fathers. I am divorced and a widow. The other three are fine because they were taught that no means no. The little guy skipped that lesson.
 Quoting: A Friend


:spanking101:
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I am getting that more and more! He is a screamer. He's screaming before he even gets hit! I don't want the neighbors to call the cops on me. I suppose I could take him to a secluded place....no! You see how these things can be taken badly?!
But Lord, he stinketh!

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You need to start telling him no but don't stop there, you need to tell these other people no as well.

No more unwarranted goodies. Make it rewards from now on. Rewards for milestones, not for picking up a few toys in a bedroom. He is 8, so he is in, 3rd grade? I would say that you need to re-establish a schedule/routine for him. Sure, he has a school routine, but when he comes home...
he sits down. End of story. Does homework. End of story. When he is done, supper is ready and will be eaten. End of story. When supper is done, he does his share of clean-up. End of story. When clean-up is done, he gets tv/music/games whatever, and then bed time.

This sounds like it will be difficult but it's not. One action starts, no debating. When that action is done, the next starts, and so on. Eventually it will be his definite routine and will seem strange to stray from it. I was in the same situation. I have an only child, no death involved but I had cancer a year ago and cannot have more kids so since he is their oldest son's only son, he gets anything and everything. I finally said enough is enough. THEY need to know the boundaries apply to them as well, none of this "don't tell mom" BS.

Hope this helps.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23683415


You hit the biggest nail on the head..."don't tell mom"! Where in the heck in their minds does this seem like a good thing to say?!?
But Lord, he stinketh!

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buckle down , stop giving him HIS way , remember , he's a child , you're the adult
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P.S. , learn to say NO!!!!!!!
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I love how kids can brainwash adults..

Its so pure.... (:

''unintentional''': )))) or maybe because the intentions are pure - works !!

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