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I need to ask as many people as possible the following questions:

1) After dating my boyfriend for a year and a half - i felt the need to look in his phone. I never did it before, but something inside of me told me to look. Did i commit a sin?

2) In the phone i see a message he sent to another girl - asking her when he can see her, and inserted a smiley face. I was shocked and upset on a level words can not express to see him say that to another girl. Apparently he was talking to her behind my back and it seems like he had plans to see her too (behind my back). I was so upset - should i be?

Here is some added information - i have to share my dog with an EX. Which means me and the EX have to text/talk on the phone in order to arrange pick up and drop off times for the Dog. I never tell my EX i want to see him, in fact, i hate having to talk to him so much that i usually text his new girlfriend instead just to avoid talking to him.

Does this give my current boyfriend the right to see another girl behind my back?

My current boyfriend tells me that it is NOT NORMAL for me to share my dog with an EX - is this true? Am i NOT NORMAL because I broke up with an EX and we agreed to share the dog?

Should my current boyfriend be able to talk to other girls and tell them he wants to see them just because i share my dog with an EX?

Please give me some advice - i can use as much help as possible.
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This is the best advice you will ever hear....

Kick his ass to the curb!

I worked in a male dominated industry for over 2 decades. All of them... I MEAN ALL OF THEM cheated on their wives. Even the timid ones. They all treated me like their sister, so I got to see it constantly.

You did nothing wrong. Everyone of them 'gave some lame excuse' for their actions.

Face the facts! Kick his ass to the curb!
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THanks for the Reply -

But oddly enough - he got so mad at me for looking in his phone - he told me that I was in the WRONG and he BLEW up and left on his own.

Telling me he is not married....
Telling me he doesn't have to deal with me...
telling me i am the one with issues & i need help....
Telling me that all of our fights stem from the fact that i have NO TRUST ....

So he is not here for me to kick to the curb - he blew up and left on his own.
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It's You. You love to believe in your own delusions of reality.
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I need to ask as many people as possible the following questions:

1) After dating my boyfriend for a year and a half - i felt the need to look in his phone. I never did it before, but something inside of me told me to look. Did i commit a sin?

2) In the phone i see a message he sent to another girl - asking her when he can see her, and inserted a smiley face. I was shocked and upset on a level words can not express to see him say that to another girl. Apparently he was talking to her behind my back and it seems like he had plans to see her too (behind my back). I was so upset - should i be?

Here is some added information - i have to share my dog with an EX. Which means me and the EX have to text/talk on the phone in order to arrange pick up and drop off times for the Dog. I never tell my EX i want to see him, in fact, i hate having to talk to him so much that i usually text his new girlfriend instead just to avoid talking to him.

Does this give my current boyfriend the right to see another girl behind my back?

My current boyfriend tells me that it is NOT NORMAL for me to share my dog with an EX - is this true? Am i NOT NORMAL because I broke up with an EX and we agreed to share the dog?

Should my current boyfriend be able to talk to other girls and tell them he wants to see them just because i share my dog with an EX?

Please give me some advice - i can use as much help as possible.
 Quoting: CONFUSED 5635580


No, you did not sin, and yes you should be upset that he's making a date with another girl.

Nothing wrong with visitation for the dog, it's like a child for some people. That's perfectly fine and it does not give him the right to see other girls.
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THanks for the Reply -

But oddly enough - he got so mad at me for looking in his phone - he told me that I was in the WRONG and he BLEW up and left on his own.

Telling me he is not married....
Telling me he doesn't have to deal with me...
telling me i am the one with issues & i need help....
Telling me that all of our fights stem from the fact that i have NO TRUST ....

So he is not here for me to kick to the curb - he blew up and left on his own.
 Quoting: CONFUSED 5635580


Maybe if he stopped talking to other girls you could trust him.

The problem is his, not yours.

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It's You. You love to believe in your own delusions of reality.
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Um - i am not sure you what the heck you mean.
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THanks for the Reply -

But oddly enough - he got so mad at me for looking in his phone - he told me that I was in the WRONG and he BLEW up and left on his own.

Telling me he is not married....
Telling me he doesn't have to deal with me...
telling me i am the one with issues & i need help....
Telling me that all of our fights stem from the fact that i have NO TRUST ....

So he is not here for me to kick to the curb - he blew up and left on his own.
 Quoting: CONFUSED 5635580


You are not wrong. Don't take his calls. Let him know you mean business. Cause if you don't mean business, he will do this to you over and over and over.....
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11/09/2012 06:38 PM
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personally, i don't think you should have violated his privacy, but, yeah, he's guilty and trying to make you feel bad for it so you forget he's a cheater. guess you were right to not trust him. so now, don't be played a fool and move on.
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personally, i don't think you should have violated his privacy, but, yeah, he's guilty and trying to make you feel bad for it so you forget he's a cheater. guess you were right to not trust him. so now, don't be played a fool and move on.
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personally, i don't think you should have violated his privacy, but, yeah, he's guilty and trying to make you feel bad for it so you forget he's a cheater. guess you were right to not trust him. so now, don't be played a fool and move on.
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YEs - i know it was a violation of privacy - but after dating someone for over a year - there should be NO Secrets. SO - with that said - he can look through my phone if he wants....every guy i ever dated did that to me at one point. I think we ALL do it at some point.
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Time to find a new man or go solo for a while. : )

"You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger"
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sharing a dog with an ex... wow
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Time to find a new man or go solo for a while. : )
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My current boyfriend tells me that it is NOT NORMAL for me to share my dog with an EX - is this true? Am i NOT NORMAL because I broke up with an EX and we agreed to share the dog?
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Not normal.
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sorry to hear your bad news , ask for self this how would he have reacted if yo hd been seeing someone else , sounds like you picked the bad apple count your lucky starts he's left and move on , as for sharif the dog perhaps you need to re-evaluate your own feelings is it the dog you miss?
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sharing a dog with an ex... wow
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wtfwtfwtf
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sharing a dog with an ex... wow
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wtfwtfwtf
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SO - are you saying i have to give her up? GIve up my dog? The one creature that gives bring me so much happiness?
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I don't know OP, I'm more concerned about the dog-sharing than anything.
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How the heck can i give up my dog???

WHy is it an issue that i share her?

I just don't get it -
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personally, i don't think you should have violated his privacy, but, yeah, he's guilty and trying to make you feel bad for it so you forget he's a cheater. guess you were right to not trust him. so now, don't be played a fool and move on.
 Quoting: scorpio66


This ^

Whenever a girl gets a ''gut'' feeling...it is usually correct. The problem is, she follows her gut, finds the info that in which she felt untrusting of, and then asks others if she was in the wrong to look in the first place, and asks if what he's doing is wrong.

Bottom line: Women need to follow their gut. You did, you found out, and you confronted him, he blew up because he's doing EXACTLY what the other wrote above.

Move on...

Nothing wrong with animal sharing, it happens.

If one feels they need to start peeking into cell phones and emails (just saying), then you know what? You have your answer. You do not trust...and that is the answer to what one needs to do to either move on, or present the distrust issue and see if the relationship can heal.
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I can tell you are young and you still have a lot to learn about life. Looking at your boyfriends phone is a violation of privacy and may actually be against the law.

Nevertheless your boyfriend was cheating on you, presuming that you had made some kind of commitment to each other.

However there is a higher law at work here that has affected both you and your boyfriend. That law is God's morality laws. Sex outside of the marriage bond is called fornication and is a major reason why so many young people are under a grave curse and in danger of hell.

If you really want to fill that loss with someone who will love you unconditionally, you need to turn to Jesus Christ, believe in Him and make him your Lord and savior. You can then gain the power over sin and lust and turn away from the worlds way of doing things.

The world's technique always leaves people bitter and heartbroken. There is no commitment and no lasting love. Indeed what motive does a man have to stay with any woman in this society?

If you do it God's way, you need not worry about that. God's got your back.
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I DOUBT it is against the law to look in someone phone.

And considering this is someone i have dated for a year and a half - i think at that point - there should be no secrets and nothing to hide - so there should be no reason for me NOT to be able to look.

He stays up all night using my Laptop - I dont care - i am sure he looked through the entire thing! I have nothing to hide - I give him free access to whatever he wants.
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I can tell you are young and you still have a lot to learn about life. Looking at your boyfriends phone is a violation of privacy and may actually be against the law.

Nevertheless your boyfriend was cheating on you, presuming that you had made some kind of commitment to each other.

However there is a higher law at work here that has affected both you and your boyfriend. That law is God's morality laws. Sex outside of the marriage bond is called fornication and is a major reason why so many young people are under a grave curse and in danger of hell.

If you really want to fill that loss with someone who will love you unconditionally, you need to turn to Jesus Christ, believe in Him and make him your Lord and savior. You can then gain the power over sin and lust and turn away from the worlds way of doing things.

The world's technique always leaves people bitter and heartbroken. There is no commitment and no lasting love. Indeed what motive does a man have to stay with any woman in this society?

If you do it God's way, you need not worry about that. God's got your back.
 Quoting: SevenThunders


Save this fire & brimstone garbage for a Christian forum. If anything were to be classified as a 'sin' it would be your use of fear-mongering tactics to try and convert followers to accept your deluded religious dogma. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone", remember that one? You better be careful about what your project onto others.

Last Edited by ANHEDONIC on 11/09/2012 07:36 PM

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I have been questioning lately the whole need for complete ownership in a relationship lately. Love happens sometimes when were with someone else - it's an age old story. Why do we need to tie someone down for the rest of their life? I don't know the answers, just thinking on it. I do know it is wrong to open someone else's mail, email, or phone mail. Maybe you had indications before, and you can't make love happen, maybe him leaving so easily is the answer, cause he would have stayed and battled to keep you if he loved you...
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I need to ask as many people as possible the following questions:

1) After dating my boyfriend for a year and a half - i felt the need to look in his phone. I never did it before, but something inside of me told me to look. Did i commit a sin?

2) In the phone i see a message he sent to another girl - asking her when he can see her, and inserted a smiley face. I was shocked and upset on a level words can not express to see him say that to another girl. Apparently he was talking to her behind my back and it seems like he had plans to see her too (behind my back). I was so upset - should i be?

Here is some added information - i have to share my dog with an EX. Which means me and the EX have to text/talk on the phone in order to arrange pick up and drop off times for the Dog. I never tell my EX i want to see him, in fact, i hate having to talk to him so much that i usually text his new girlfriend instead just to avoid talking to him.

Does this give my current boyfriend the right to see another girl behind my back?

My current boyfriend tells me that it is NOT NORMAL for me to share my dog with an EX - is this true? Am i NOT NORMAL because I broke up with an EX and we agreed to share the dog?

Should my current boyfriend be able to talk to other girls and tell them he wants to see them just because i share my dog with an EX?

Please give me some advice - i can use as much help as possible.
 Quoting: CONFUSED 5635580



Here's your advice from a wise old scholar who knows the world:

1) Ditch the current boyfriend with the T/A on the side on the phone.

2) Ditch the EX with the dog. Give the EX the dog and be done with it.

3) Don't date anybody for 1 year. Don't go drinking for 1 year.

4) Meet the next boyfriend at school (college)... preferably in a nursing program (you).

5) Do NOT GET PREGO BY ANYBODY until you are 29 years old.

6) Follow my advice and you will have a happy life. Ignore my advice and you will regret all the missed opportunities in your life.
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WOW - in response to the last posting -

what if i am done with school - been out of college for over a decade -

and that makes me much older than 29.

PLUS - i am not able to ditch the dog - i love her too much.
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THanks for the Reply -

But oddly enough - he got so mad at me for looking in his phone - he told me that I was in the WRONG and he BLEW up and left on his own.

Telling me he is not married....
Telling me he doesn't have to deal with me...
telling me i am the one with issues & i need help....
Telling me that all of our fights stem from the fact that i have NO TRUST ....

So he is not here for me to kick to the curb - he blew up and left on his own.
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Google 'crazy making' and possibly emotional abuse.
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THanks for the Reply -

Google 'crazy making' and possibly emotional abuse.
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UM - who are you saying is the one who is emotionally abused?
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Is there a court ordered custody agreement for the dog?
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Is there a court ordered custody agreement for the dog?
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No - there are no court agreements.

At first - when I broke up with him - he said since i am leaving him - that meant i was leaving the dog as well.

I bit the bullet - and walked away from her - and cried like someone died.

He called me a few days later and said she would not come out of the bathroom - she was depressed - and he could not see her like that. Ever since that day - we just agreed to share her.

I feel like he did me a favor by offering to share her -

so it is just a verbal agreement.

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