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I never had an orgasm with my husband...? | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1657938  United States11/09/2012 09:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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weasel keeper User ID: 15395274 United States11/09/2012 10:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It sounds like you have been finger-blasting all of your life, and your husbands dick doesn't feel like your finger, that means "you're fucked" (pun intended). maybe try a pud-collar.  Last Edited by Weasel Keeper on 11/09/2012 10:04 PM Wild Weasels? You've got to be shitting me! |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1135376 United States11/09/2012 10:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I didn't tell him about my masturbation when Im alone, Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27052127 Should I have faked it all this time to keep him happy? not being honest from the first time you had sex was wrong. My girlfriend only had one O with me during sex, she had to fake them for me to come, but it was never a secret, She would then give herself an O, then another round with me. It was all good. you guys sound immature. |
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| chula homa User ID: 10606077 Canada11/09/2012 10:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | when you masturbate, what do you think about? share that with him. it's the only way.. Last Edited by chula homa on 11/09/2012 10:41 PM |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27302468 Canada11/09/2012 10:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Social conditioning and guilt based brainwashing has done a good job on your psyche. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27302468 Google White Tiger Tantra - Sexual Awakening or you can download it from a torrent for free. It literally fixes you. [link to isohunt.com] You're welcome. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 24314629 United States11/09/2012 10:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My husband and I have been married 5 years and I've never had an orgasm with him. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27052127 He knows this and it upsets him. I think it upsets him more that he can't please me, than the fact that Im not pleased. When I told him I just can't have an orgasm with him, he flipped out. He's the only man I've ever slept with, maybe Im not experienced with penises, I dont know....I do have a lot of orgasms on my own. Sometimes 3 a day. Sometimes on my horniest day, maybe 8. I am highly sexual, but I can't seem to have an orgasm with him. Yes, I've tried to hold of on masturbation so I can reserve my sexual energy for him, it still doesn't happen. I guess Im just not comfortable with letting it all out with him. I honestly regret telling him I don't have o's with him. Now he's so critical, I didn't tell him about my masturbation when Im alone, this would only make him even more upset. I've tried everything to have an orgasm with him, its just not happening. I've let it go, I don't seek it out anymore. Now when we have sex, I just enjoy the closeness of us being together, and not so much the physical pleasure of sex. Should I have faked it all this time to keep him happy? He's just so upset about it, he says then what's the point of having sex if I don't have o's. I told him it means a lot to me to have sex with him because of the intimacy and closeness. He says its all b.s, that I should be able to have an o with him. I mean, he does everything I tell him to do, all the things I do to myself that get me to have an o, I just can't do it when he does it. I made sure to let him know that its not him, its me. Its my own mental block I have, and he still wont let it go. Was I wrong to tell him? He does everything you tell him to do? So this is easy. Take a shower with him, and letting him know ahead of time, afterwards, have him lick your pussy until you cum. Even if it takes hours. Tell him if he's licking too hard or too softly, or not the right spot, or too quickly or slowly. If you want a finger or two inside of you, let him know. You are in control of your orgasm, tell him what you need, as if you were doing it to yourself, and if he really will do anything and everything you tell him, you'll get an amazing orgasm and he can hone his skills. This spoken by a man who's made his g/f come thousands of times over the past 6 years. There's a reason she sticks around and doesn't even THINK of another guy. She has me and I give her what she needs. If your orgasm issue goes unresolved I guarantee no happy future in your relationship. These are honest words spoken by an honest man and I hope they help you sweetheart. |
| eve incognito User ID: 25432398  Bosnia and Herzegovina11/09/2012 10:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | tough one.must be devastating both for you and your husband.are you sure he is your husband though, i mean how did you marry a man you aren't close enough with to have an orgasm in the first place? maybe there is a better husband for you out there, and you aren't looking coz you have one right now.you are torturing your current husband too, coz of course he minds he can't get his lady to climax, what kind of a man would not be crushed. he probably cheats on you, you know.he needs to make sure it really is you and not him, so he finds other women....one of you should be brave enough to end that torture of a marriage...sorry, if i sound cold, i'm giving my honest two cents. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 6493463 United States11/09/2012 10:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So tell him, guys like to watch :) Besides, you can do yourself while he is doing you too you know. It's allowed. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26612419 ^^^^^^^ THIS Also, how old are you? I had that problem in my 20s but in my 30s I became a horny sex fiend with no problem responding. Ironically I think estrogen is an anti-sexuality drug and when levels start to drop in your 30s, your progesterone and small amounts of testosterone take over. Give it time... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 24314629 United States11/09/2012 10:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | tough one.must be devastating both for you and your husband.are you sure he is your husband though, i mean how did you marry a man you aren't close enough with to have an orgasm in the first place? maybe there is a better husband for you out there, and you aren't looking coz you have one right now.you are torturing your current husband too, coz of course he minds he can't get his lady to climax, what kind of a man would not be crushed. he probably cheats on you, you know.he needs to make sure it really is you and not him, so he finds other women....one of you should be brave enough to end that torture of a marriage...sorry, if i sound cold, i'm giving my honest two cents. Quoting: eve incognito 25432398 I disagree, I do no believe this relationship is over, and I know what you are trying to say. The OP has come here for help and so it MUST be worth our time to try to assist. The OP has stated the husbands willingness to get the job done. And although I do agree that the end result without orgasm will be divorce, I do not believe that OP's husband is incapable of giving the OP an orgasm. OP please, if you can have an orgasm on your own, I guarantee you can teach your husband to do it. On second thought, I think you are over thinking this. You need to be naughty, to be dangerous, you need to create some excitement. This will enable you to throw off your inhibitions which I seem to feel are strong. Perhaps getting drunk with your husband one night and partaking in some role-play. Or just setting aside 24-48 hours with no interruptions to focus on the task at hand. One thing I will say is that without succeeding in this task, you will not succeed in marriage. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 6493463 United States11/09/2012 10:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | tough one.must be devastating both for you and your husband.are you sure he is your husband though, i mean how did you marry a man you aren't close enough with to have an orgasm in the first place? maybe there is a better husband for you out there, and you aren't looking coz you have one right now.you are torturing your current husband too, coz of course he minds he can't get his lady to climax, what kind of a man would not be crushed. he probably cheats on you, you know.he needs to make sure it really is you and not him, so he finds other women....one of you should be brave enough to end that torture of a marriage...sorry, if i sound cold, i'm giving my honest two cents. Quoting: eve incognito 25432398 Also consider trying a vibrator and/or running water. Hot tub jets are nice. The problem with orgasms is that the harder you try, the more elusive they become. And vice versa. You know how men go nuts trying to hold back and just can't. Well maybe you coudl ry reverse psychology on yourself and tell yourself DO NOT RESPOND. Worth a shot I guess. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27339405 United States11/09/2012 11:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How long does your husband last after penetration? How much time does he spend on fore-play? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27339405 Is he able to last at least 20 minutes after he hits it? Oh, and when you masturbate, you might practice seeing how fast you can cum, instead of how long you can make it last. |
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| NuckingFutZ User ID: 26968051  Australia11/09/2012 11:11 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation |  And  for the ass licking. Seriously....Coulda.... Shoulda.... Woulda.... The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. 2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. 3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. 4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. 5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. 6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25915113 United States11/09/2012 11:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As others have pointed out it's all in your mind. Tantra's good and it can teach you to prolong the experience nearly as long as you wish too. But ultimately your problem is with your conscious mind getting in the way of your subconscious mind. Communicate with yourself clearly, the more you do it the easier it will be to follow you own instructions. As your subconscious can do things much easier then you can, think sex dreams, it's your subconscious causing those dreams. You just have to communicate clearly then get out of the way and allow it too work. An exercise: Look deep within yourself and say: My husband will pleasure me or My husband does pleasure me Avoid thinking the way you are, because you are programming yourself to not experience pleasure. Avoid words like try, can or any word not clearly positive. Use words like do or will, will is one of my favorites as it tends to reinforce your own will power. |
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