Strive for virtuous excellence in all aspects of your life. Mediocrity is for people who want to stop or are arrogant enough to think they have reached greatness in their life. You are not perfect and never will be but that shouldnt discourage you from improving yourself and your daily life.

You have principles, don't you EVER compromise on those for ANYBODY. when you do that, you are not being true to yourself.

Find people who are like minded and who share your values. Discard those who make you apathetic and drag you down with their words and actions.

Be humble and quiet about things. Tell the truth, even if people don't agree with you.

Don't run in the rat race and don't even run your own race. Just do your own thing whenever you want the way you want. Be aware of what's happening around you. Be an observer and take action when you are ready.

Work on these things first, because it sounds like you havent done enough soul searching.

You can't change women or people in general.

The best place to start seeing improvements and change for the better is with YOU.

When that happens, the right people and 'that girl' will find you.

Last of all, what I have written is serious business, so have fun along the way and that will keep you sane.