Wife popped the question and she wants the passwords to my cell phone, laptop, etc. More inside...

Let me know one way it affects you that your neighbors are engaging in anal sex.

Since you have nothing to hide, just do a password swap with her and be done with it.

Then both of you immediately look through the other person's computer while sitting in the same room. *to explain things as they come up*

If she isn't willing to do that, and I mean right then and there before anything gets erased, I wouldn't give her the passwords.

you could always tell her to fuck off.

I honestly don't see what the big deal is. My husband and I share a cell phone and we share a computer.

There are no passwords, everything is out in the open and available for everyone to see. Everyone meaning me and him.

We even share a few email addresses and we both have access to read all of the emails if we want.

I couldn't care less, and he couldn't care less. There are no secrets and no passwords.....we have nothing to hide from eachother.

THIS is how it should be in a MARRIAGE.

very suffocating IMO.


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divorce her

Not suffocating at all, we just don't complicate things. Neither of us have secrets anyway.

My husband has his guy friends, and I have my girl friends. I don't care about what they talk about, and he doesn't care about what we talk about.

He has his "man cave" where him and his buddies work on motorcycles and talk about guy stuff........I don't care, in fact I encourage it. And I talk to men and women on the phone and email people everyday that he doesn't know because it's part of my online christian ministry. He doesn't care one bit.

There is trust and mutual respect, but no secrets because there is nothing to hide.

When you really love someone and you share your life and heart with that person, why hide anything? That's just selfish.

Neither my husband or I work, we are together 24/7 anyways, and when one of us is out for a day we can't wait to get home and tell the other one everything about our day out and we are happy to be home together again.

I don't know......maybe I'm one of the lucky ones that really did meet and marry my true soul mate. Makes me appreciate my husband even more.

Oh, that's right. Black people are illegal in Finland :P

If you are cheating on her, then have the decency to leave her.

If you are innocent, tell her to go fuck herslef and then leave the nosy bitch and find one who is willing to engage in a trusting relationship that you deserve.

She's a control freak! Run dude!

You are a Nethertard. You LOVE tyranny.

What's the problem?

One word:

D-I-V-O-R-C-E


That's so typical of a woman. TOTAL HYPOCRISY.

Not an option for you?

What are you?

Castrated?

All the while, most likely cheating, herself.

I hope you develop a particularly nasty and tenacious cancer.

naaaa, she is just checking on you OP if you pass she will not bother you for awhile

with all of the stuff on the internet most ladies do wonder now

I agree with this one, OP I feel bad for you.

there are some very immature poeple on this forum.

i will s +ay this much any man that does not enjoy anal is a terrible lover, coz squimish men do not make good lovers.
gay men are men enough to engage i anal, for goodnes sake, if a heterosexual guy is that inhibited, what the hell is he a girl?

any girl that thinks she does't enjoy anal just hasn't met a very good lover.

that some people get a bit giddy when we talk about certain perfectly natural sexual pracitces makes me think they are 16.

So you really let hubby put that big tool up your bum?

Tell her a relationship without trust is a relationship not worth being in. You can also tell her she has your heart NOT your balls.

RUN AWAY!! FAR FAR AWAY! SAVE YOURSELF!!

Seriously, she sounds like a control freak and those are always bad news.

yeah. you married, not roomates. i dont see what the big deal is.

if you dont trust each other you have nothing. might s well move on now.

i sad body parts.

we are in two different countries now, which is why i spent all my time either talking to him or on GLP, but when i go home we won't stop making love for two days straight, forget the bum, maybe i will ask him to put it up my nose.

So I reckon you dig having a finger there while you're getting blasted?

I have been in a long relationship for 21 years.
We have four kids together and have been through the hell only to emerge into a deeper, cleaner relationship.

The reason I never got married because everyone I saw entering the process had a profound change in the relationship and it was not for the better.

All equal relationships with respect and yet marriage implies ownership. You become a possessive - you become my wife or my husband. And that simple transition gives many people the right to feel that they have complete access and control of the other.

I don't think this has anything to do with cheating or projection - i think life is giving you early warning system to bail out now whilst you can. If someone has this level of emotional maturity it will deteriorate daily.

You say you can't walk away - but you will eventually and it will be far more difficult than now.
You really have to honour the self before you can think of honoring anyone else.
My computer, my passwords are my own. I have a secret world as do each of us.

Same here - don't see what the big deal is. It's nothing for me (or my wife) to holler across the house "Hon - I forgot your password again" and the other comes over and tells it.

If you or she is hiding something on your computer or phones that you don't want your PARTNER to know - it's time to get rid of the partnership. You are BOTH in the wrong.

The difference is she is demanding the passwords.
There is no reciprocation.
If it had developed naturally then yes they might swap and know each otters codes but to just demand out of the blue is the issue.

lol

dump her

there are some things that cross the line, and this is one of them

Not everybody has a "secret world".Some of us have nothing to hide.