Wife popped the question and she wants the passwords to my cell phone, laptop, etc. More inside...

I don't mean anything to hide.

Bascially you and I can both look at the exact same thing and see it in different ways.
I can never know how you feel - you can tell me how you feel but i won't know what is that you are actually feeling.
So that is what I am saying.
We all manifest certain aspects of being to function in the world but there are also just spaces where you are not putting on any mask or any hat. You are just pure being.
That is what I am talking about secret selves.

i know my sex life became everyone's business. i know camp walls are thin and i am loud.i know it's not anyone's fault i thought i had to run form love and end up with no privacy whats so ever....
( in my plan i'd be dead, at times maybe i'd rahter be dead than put up with some of the stuff i had to put up in the past year).

which is why, i am ever more surprised when we are talking about level of closeness any of us is comfy acheaving in a relationship, and i give an example that if i am close enough to my husband to overcome my aversion to certain kinds of sex, i must be very close to him, so passwords certaally do't trump overcoming aversion to where he places himself inside me....and some of you get so very hung up on the example that i feel i am talking to teenagers. yes, i enjog abdul's finger, anywhere he puts it, but you knew that already, why are you making such a big issue out of it?

i am not angry, i am just curious?

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yup...

i will not comment on men calling women "hos" coz i never try to teach apes to have human understanding.
apes are apes, and men who are still at ape level, do not concern me.

i will comment on women who feel insecure about husband watching porn, coz "they cannot match up to the porn ladies"

why don't you protest your husband watching movies, or any kind of show involving pretty woman, coz none of us can match up to rich movie stars and tv ladies who get extra groomed and comsmetic surgery inhanced coz of the nature of their job.

so marry an amish man, and you do not have to worry about him watching,on tv, ladies you can ever match up to.

why don't you also protest your husband walking out in the street or going to work, since he is bound to meet some women prettier than you, which you can't match up to...

it's a flawed logic you are using, all men like porn, and all women would like it too, if they weren't hypocrits.

(i do not like all kinds of porn, but i make sure to find the kind i like, and in this day and age that is easy)

Adbul?

I like you Eve but you're certainly one of those crazy self absorbed bitches. I look forward to more amusement from your part though

you're easily amused aren't you?

do you feel better now that you got that off of your chest?

aw, and, is that why you religously fallow my posts?
coz you think i am "crazy, self absorbed and a bitch?", or are you just trying to get a reaction out of me?

i think you ought to stop imagining we have some kind of connection and leave me be.

I don't like you.

you're nothing but a wanker

Well I do sort of like you, unfortunately you seem a bit too anally retentive (no pun intended ) all the time. You should take it a bit easier girl, we're here to have a good time, don't take everything so personal. I am glad you called me a wanker, you'd be right in that, just as I am right in calling you a bitch

i'm begining to think you like getting punched in the face by my husband. why else would you be asking for it AGAIN? so far you like stalking your friend's gf accross the country, listening in on their love making and calling her names untill you get one in the face?

any of your hobies i missed?

(aw yes, abusing women, slandering your best friend so you could get into his fiances panties. inventing preposterous undercover identities you can't possibly pull off....etc)

seriously do you ever plan to get a life of your own, or will you continue to live vicariously through your EX best friend's life?

this is not a rethorical question dude, you need to get a life!

she should wipe his ass and examin his poop and boogers.

i'm serious. if she wants all his passwords and private documents and thoughts she should have his shit too.

this is sick control brought about from fear, paranoia and lack of confidence. where is the unconditional love?

WTF are you talking about? I think you either have me confused with someone else or you have an acute case of paranoid schizophrenia In any case dear, I suggest you follow my advice and chill out a bit. It's all in good fun with me, if you take it any other way you're taking it the wrong way.

It's obvious that there are trust issues between you two. What exactly will you lose if you open up? Besides a line that is fair enough to draw as a boundary. Boundaries are good; without them people will walk all over you because you have no lines that can't be crossed, so they will keep pushing until they find one, let them cross and they will look for another...instead hold your ground; if they respect that fine, if not move on. Life is too short.

I'd refuse. If she really does this she doesn't really love you and/or trust you, in my opinion. Then again people with really active social lives out partying all the time shouldn't even be getting married and having kids, they need to grow up first.

Because his wife won't give him her passwords but yet wants him to give up his.

or what you'll hit me?

gosh goodness, you are really desperate for a reaction aren't you?

WOW

Why do you have this image of me? I have been in a relationship for 6 years and I've never hit my gf. Stop projecting your man hatred onto me, I am not the demon you'd like to imagine I am.

of course you're not. actual demons are dangerous to their enemies.
the only people you are dangerous to, are people who try to be your friends.

you're the guy from that saying, "with friends like that who needs enemies."

i feel sorry for any woman who had anything relationship or sexual like with you, i really do.

and you do know that you are so disqualified, don't ya?

LOL

how does it feel to know your thinking with your dick disqulified you from the war?

aw wait, yolu are not matture enough to relize that, you blame me, lol.

you are a truelly pathetic excuse for anything other than an ape.

Maybe the wife wants a reason to be able to trust...I can relate to that.

He never said she wouldnt give him her passwords..I didnt see that post anywhere.

he actually said something to the point of "she didn't offer her passwords, just asked for mine", but i assume this would be kind of two way street, situation.

or is the husband seriously expecting her to take his passwords and keep hers a secret?

i really don't understand what the big deal is, my husband is my best friend, why would i need to keep him at bay.

Damn, you're batshit insane, I like you more every second, go on, please.

Yeah.

My ex did the same thing...

She was mentally ill and this was a reflection of her illness. You can't fix it - and you can't endure it. If she's mentally ill it will just get worse.

Eventually mine left, but it was a crazy thing to go through. Financially devestating, and incredibly damaging to my kids. Indescribably so... Position yourself now.

Understand it's over... Ride it out, but ready yourself for a "soft-landing." Get a safe deposit box in another state and sock away some money, and any important papers you'll need to start a new life when the time comes. She'll try to destroy everything of value to you when she goes. That's the way control freaks are.

When the time comes you'll want to get a PO box as well. The way you phrase your problem shows that you already feel unsafe in the relationship. You're spider-ssense is correct. Trust your feelings.

If you have kids you'll need to get copies of their birth certificates - because you'll never see the ones she has control of. BTW - I got custody of my kids. But it was not easy.

You can prolong the pain by giving up your information... It will buy you time, and maybe get you laid a couple more times - but the paranoia will continue. At least ask for hers as a quid-pro-quo - and go in and look at it. Copy her address book [look for evidence of other email addys she might be using] and any questionable emails - the ones that show she is a crazy, stalker bitch... Paranoiacs always leave a trail, because they burn too much brain space keeping track of everyone else to clean up their own mess...

Anyway OP, best of luck in your life.

Wow. I guess I'm alone in this thinking but really OP, it's your WIFE we are talking about here. Me thinks you protest too much. This is the woman you share your life with and you have a problem giving out passwords? Why does a husband and wife even require passwords? This is why the divorce rate is so high.
Idiot. If you have a problem providing her complete access to your "online" activities...you have bigger problems than her!

i don't know if you cannot understand, or you refuse to understand, coz i don't know you well enough, and i am not planning to change that, but i will one last time try and explain things to you.

you got stuck in between two people that love each other very much, and you were never eve so much as a person to me, you were means to an end, and end was to protect my husband from what i thought was his immidiate demise.

maybe you were lonely, maybe just an egotistical ass that took pleasure in hurting your friend, i dunno, probably both, but you handled things poorly.

abusing a broken dowm woman in distress aside, you proved yourself to be a bad friend, and that was definetly your loss, coz you lost an amazing man and a very good freind, but that is between you and your freind.

i am asking you for the last time, to please leave me alone.

i don't want to talk to you, see you, see your posts that comment on mine, or have anything to do with you.
you have hurt me enough, and done plenty of damage and it's time you relized i want nothing to do with you and left me alone.

you greatly misunderstood me and my motives for ever looking your way, let along anything else, and my life is not a show for your ammusment, and have the decency to just stay out of it.
quit fallowing me around in virtual reality or physical reality.

you are hurresing me, and if that hasn't been all to clear to you up to know, i am hereby making it crystal clear for you and everyone else.

please leave me alone and never address me again, by any means or way imaginable.

if you continue to persue me, i will have to ask around for ways to protect myself agaisnt you pestering me, and when i learn the proper channels i need to go through i will take the neccessery measure to stop you from doing so.

enough is enough, and this ends right here and now.

Ok, are you on drugs, mentally insane, or just have an uncontrolled imagination?

Cuz I am honestly flipping out rainbow dolphins with you right now.

The solution is giving her the gift of absolute trust.

Just so NO! Plain and simple. If she has her own laptop and phone, then there is no need for her to use yours. You should be alowed to have some privacy with your own things, tell her to stop being nosey and to be thankful that she has her own.

She sounds controlling. That would piss me off if I were you. Just because your married, doesnt mean you have to start giving up your personal passwords.