for the people eager to judge OP, unless you have bee married to a violant, manipulative person, you can't possibly understand what she is going through.

he know just how to maipulte her into thinking that maybe he isn't that bad, or that she is overreacting,that it's all in her head, or that she isn't nice enough to him, and like someone suggested the nicer she is the worse things will get.

abusive people that women stay with, are very intelligent, sadistic men, they do not only enjoy sadicits part of it, they equally enoy the part where they ssem meek and weak, and sorry, and cry and beg for fotgivness.

assume you are a woman, you are in love with a man, or at least givng your best to love him, and he hurts you very badly...but then he creis and begs you to forgive him...
you become confused, you assume that the tears are real, that he is geuanly sorry, that he just didn't know better, that he won't do it again...and it does happen again, coz he is faking the concern and tears, and he trains you like a circus animal, to think that maybe he just needs time, maybe he doesn't know any better...

in reality people usually know very well what they are doing and especially men who beat women, they are like peadophiliacs, they know it's a bad thing to hurt women /children, so they hide it.

peadophiliacs hide they are sleeping with kids, and abusers of women pretend they were provked, lost their temper, got frustrated, but they do't really enjoy it.

in reality whenever a stronger person physically punishes weaker one they know exactly what they are doing, they are using force to control the other person.

children drive me crazy all the time, i never slap them around, coz that is fucking retarded.

leave him OP he knows exactly what he is doing, and he is a fucking retard coz he enjoys it no matter what he says.