mm... you suffer from 'Looks Like a Serial Rapist'...
Put that pic up of Plen-o-Fsh and see what happens. I was on POF, looking, and saw a cute girl, pulled up her profile, and, there at the bottom, we pics of her 'friends'. Wow, what a gallery of obviously looking pervs. Seriously.
If you are a really nice guy, you are going to have to realize that 'media matters', and you should really that it's not what YOU LOOK LIKE, but, what THEY'RE SEEING. Perhaps get a sympathetic woman to coach a really flattering pic (hey, I'm not raggin on ya.... do YOU see it, or not???)
With that pic, they will see 'pron addict', or worse. You're an 'average' looking guy, which, in this world, only makes you invisible.
sorry if i'm being a idiot