Ladies, what is the best form of birth control?

It isn't always an issue of remembering to take the pill. Some women just don't do well on it. I had horrible migraines while on it because (from what I'm guessing) the synthetic hormones just don't mesh with my system.

Not true. My wife and I are discussing and considering essure right now.

I haven't jacked off in years, unlike you. When you have actual real sex every day it's unnecessary.

Hello,

I will answer your question in a courteous, respectful, educated way.

I fully understand your dilemma.

I have done a fair bit of study on contraceptives as a woman who is very sensitive and takes a natural approach to things but of course needs something effective. I have studied alternative medicine for 12 years and work in the medical field.

The best answer for myself is what is called the Fertility Awareness Method, or FAM. Look beyond what people might ignorantly blurt out as this being the rhythm method, because it is more than that. I don't know what are some good sites on the internet, but a very comprehensive book is called "Take Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler.

If you do it properly the success rates are around 98.5%. You chart and learn how to read your body and also take your morning temperature. It is little effort at first but once you know how to do it you'll be glad. For example, I can tell you when I'm ovulating by my, yes, that's right, lets be adults here, the texture of my vaginal fluid, the way my breasts feel, and slight changes in sex drive, personally. What a lot of people don't know is that your cervix also changes position getting ready to ovulate and your cervical fluid changes amongst other physiological things. To me it is plain, very easy to tell, now that I know what to look for and know my own body more. As well, you chart your temperature, as about 24 hours after you ovulate your basal body temperature goes up. A woman is only fertile a fairly limited number of days in a month, generally, so if you know when those days are you can use a condom but then go bare the rest of the month and about 99% be sure she is not ovulating.

I'll let you look into it more, but those are the basic ideas. I have been using it for 10 years and love it and truly wish more doctors told people about this. I don't believe it is good practice how most of the female population is on hormones. This method is very successful but most people don't know about it because they assume women will not want to learn it. It is a bit to learn at first but becomes nothing, like second nature, after a while.

Well, gotta go. I hope that is useful in your decision.

Tubal, clips, they look like paper clips and they can be reversed. I did this 38 years ago. No regrets, best thing I ever did. Had a few copper seven I.U.D.'S my husband has the scar to prove it, they cause nothing but problems. My opinion.

Thank you very much for your thoughtful and experienced insight. My wife has mentioned this a few times along with the machine that you buy. Perhaps I should have listened to her more closely. I think we will give this a try. Thanks again.

This will be our second choice if the 'rythem' method fails us for one reason or another. Thank you for your help. Everyone.