OP -- there's a website about all things off-grid:

[link to www.off-grid.net]


They have free classifieds where you can find like minded people.



For food, think aquaponics. You can build 20 x 30 greenhouses for around $1500 each by bending the ribs yourselves:

[link to www.lostcreek.net]



Try to find a location were you can find agriculture courses and/or education nearby.

Excellent site:

[link to www.permies.com]



You will be swimming against the tide but you can make it if you try hard enough. All the best.