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| sn0w Offer Upgrade  User ID: 25965629  United States11/12/2012 01:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 18910708 United States11/12/2012 01:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no such thing as friends Quoting: ^TrInItY^ only people using each other to different degrees when the using is balanced both parties benefit so they pretend to care about each other but they really don't not beyond the benefits of the 'friendship' I don't think there are any genuine beings left in the world.. once the innocence of the child is gone it's kill or be killed, use or be used... this is the reality of life there is nothing genuine about a relationship in a humans life past childhood... sorry you might not want to admit that to yourself but this is the truth of life as a human Might have to agree with Trinity on this one...my grandmother always told me "you're lucky if you find one true friend". |
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| sn0w (OP) User ID: 25965629 United States11/12/2012 01:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no such thing as friends Quoting: ^TrInItY^ only people using each other to different degrees when the using is balanced both parties benefit so they pretend to care about each other but they really don't not beyond the benefits of the 'friendship' I don't think there are any genuine beings left in the world.. once the innocence of the child is gone it's kill or be killed, use or be used... this is the reality of life there is nothing genuine about a relationship in a humans life past childhood... sorry you might not want to admit that to yourself but this is the truth of life as a human yeah man, I have to agree with this. I never really believed in the concept of friendships. a lot of my closest friends over the years have turned into my worst enemies, and I have some mentee's who are experiencing the same thing. but trinity, what about the mentor/mentee relationship? I think that's a genuine relationship, as I have learned a great deal from the 5-8 mentors i've had over the years... I considered them genuine relationships... not friendships, but genuine relationships. so while there may not be genuine beings left in the world, there maybe genuine relationships... but your right, even those relationships, we're still using each other... however, i have found those relationships to provide me with the shortcut/wisdom/experiences i need to grow and learn faster. good post homey, i appreciate you stopping by. :) sn0w |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19484311  Denmark11/12/2012 02:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | hahaha, not managed to make friends with a woman yet eh? Prob cause of the intelligence, wit and interesting personallity which shines through every word of your post :D I have friends that I've had since i was a small child (male and female) and we are still as close now as then :D Your post is funny though so thanks for the laugh |
| Earth Daughter Wide Awake User ID: 27476817 United States11/12/2012 02:05 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before you get married, you usually have some close friends. Afterwards, the spouse becomes the best friend. Not always, but most of the time. Kids come along and you sometimes make friends with the parents of your kid's friends or teammates. I think it has to do with what you have in common. When your married and your friend's are still single, you have less in common. And when you have children and someone else doesn't, same thing. If you manage to have and keep a real close friend ship with one person throughout all of life's changes: marriage, kids, etc... then you are a very fortunate person. Most of the time life gets in the way. You move away, etc... From my heart to yours. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1610534 United States11/12/2012 02:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no such thing as friends Quoting: ^TrInItY^ only people using each other to different degrees when the using is balanced both parties benefit so they pretend to care about each other but they really don't not beyond the benefits of the 'friendship' I don't think there are any genuine beings left in the world.. once the innocence of the child is gone it's kill or be killed, use or be used... this is the reality of life there is nothing genuine about a relationship in a humans life past childhood... sorry you might not want to admit that to yourself but this is the truth of life as a human You can't get a friend, and you can't make a friend. You can only be a friend. If you are fortunate, you meet someone who reciprocates. As you've pointed out, such reciprocation is rare. Nevertheless, rare or not, the process is the same. It seems like a risk, but it's not, because the alternative is living lies that corrode your soul, in order to "be" somebody. There are a great many wealthy, socially connected dead people who are convinced they are truly - truly - superior for this "accomplishment." It's a sight that has made Earth famous throughout the Galaxy. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1600351  United Kingdom11/12/2012 02:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Manu-Koelbren User ID: 27210074  Spain11/12/2012 02:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no such thing as friends Quoting: ^TrInItY^ only people using each other to different degrees when the using is balanced both parties benefit so they pretend to care about each other but they really don't not beyond the benefits of the 'friendship' I don't think there are any genuine beings left in the world.. once the innocence of the child is gone it's kill or be killed, use or be used... this is the reality of life there is nothing genuine about a relationship in a humans life past childhood... sorry you might not want to admit that to yourself but this is the truth of life as a human Absolutely. "Your gates will be open continually; They will not be closed day or night, So that men may bring to you the wealth of the nations, With their kings led in procession. For the nation and the kingdom which will not serve you will perish, And the nations will be utterly ruined." |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 19484311 Denmark11/12/2012 02:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before you get married, you usually have some close friends. Quoting: Earth Daughter Afterwards, the spouse becomes the best friend. Not always, but most of the time. Kids come along and you sometimes make friends with the parents of your kid's friends or teammates. I think it has to do with what you have in common. When your married and your friend's are still single, you have less in common. And when you have children and someone else doesn't, same thing. If you manage to have and keep a real close friend ship with one person throughout all of life's changes: marriage, kids, etc... then you are a very fortunate person. Most of the time life gets in the way. You move away, etc... OMG, do people live like this? I guess im insane or something but that seems really weird to me? so if you're married you can't be friends with single people? and if you have a husband you ditch your friends? and if you have kids you only make friends with the kids friends parents? really i dont think we live in the same world, people have some severly weirded out soapopera views on things, even here, you sound like the script of days of our lives! |
| sn0w (OP) User ID: 25965629 United States11/12/2012 02:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Also, you attract people who are like yourself, ever thought of that? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19484311 Maybe you are the one you're actually posting about here? No, you're right it's not you, it is all the women in the world that dont make friends ever :D lol You also attract your opposites too homey. sn0w |
| Earth Daughter Wide Awake User ID: 27476817 United States11/12/2012 02:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before you get married, you usually have some close friends. Quoting: Earth Daughter Afterwards, the spouse becomes the best friend. Not always, but most of the time. Kids come along and you sometimes make friends with the parents of your kid's friends or teammates. I think it has to do with what you have in common. When your married and your friend's are still single, you have less in common. And when you have children and someone else doesn't, same thing. If you manage to have and keep a real close friend ship with one person throughout all of life's changes: marriage, kids, etc... then you are a very fortunate person. Most of the time life gets in the way. You move away, etc... OMG, do people live like this? I guess im insane or something but that seems really weird to me? so if you're married you can't be friends with single people? and if you have a husband you ditch your friends? and if you have kids you only make friends with the kids friends parents? really i dont think we live in the same world, people have some severly weirded out soapopera views on things, even here, you sound like the script of days of our lives! It's not a matter of ditching someone. It's a matter of sharing interests. From my heart to yours. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26048166 United States11/12/2012 02:19 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no such thing as friends Quoting: ^TrInItY^ only people using each other to different degrees when the using is balanced both parties benefit so they pretend to care about each other but they really don't not beyond the benefits of the 'friendship' I don't think there are any genuine beings left in the world.. once the innocence of the child is gone it's kill or be killed, use or be used... this is the reality of life there is nothing genuine about a relationship in a humans life past childhood... sorry you might not want to admit that to yourself but this is the truth of life as a human Well said ^ |
| sn0w (OP) User ID: 25965629 United States11/12/2012 02:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's a well known fact that many women keep their real personalities hidden away from their boyfriends until they get get married and then let it all out like an odious fart once the man is tied to her financially. Which says a lot about women. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1600351 yup... I think this is what we call the debate between who you're going to show the world... the next time you meet someone, if you're going to show your true self, or your social mask. ie: if you're going to show your true self or your persona... which basically means 'assumed character' it takes invested time and effort to get to know somebody. and when you meet a woman she usually puts on a show of display thats not genuine, until she has sunk her claws into you... and then her true self starts coming out. not ALL women mind you, but most women, usually put on a front of showmanship when interacting with a man at the begining... then the real self starts coming out a bit later into the relationship. I do believe the truth eventually comes out. in that regard, you never really do know people. and you never really do know what people are talking about unless they're genuine and centered. sn0w |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27531702 United States11/12/2012 02:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before you get married, you usually have some close friends. Quoting: Earth Daughter Afterwards, the spouse becomes the best friend. Not always, but most of the time. Kids come along and you sometimes make friends with the parents of your kid's friends or teammates. I think it has to do with what you have in common. When your married and your friend's are still single, you have less in common. And when you have children and someone else doesn't, same thing. If you manage to have and keep a real close friend ship with one person throughout all of life's changes: marriage, kids, etc... then you are a very fortunate person. Most of the time life gets in the way. You move away, etc... So very true. I haven't retained one single friend since having gotten married and having a baby. It's a shame. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 5271623 United States11/12/2012 02:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Before you get married, you usually have some close friends. Quoting: Earth Daughter Afterwards, the spouse becomes the best friend. Not always, but most of the time. Kids come along and you sometimes make friends with the parents of your kid's friends or teammates. I think it has to do with what you have in common. When your married and your friend's are still single, you have less in common. And when you have children and someone else doesn't, same thing. If you manage to have and keep a real close friend ship with one person throughout all of life's changes: marriage, kids, etc... then you are a very fortunate person. Most of the time life gets in the way. You move away, etc... So very true. I haven't retained one single friend since having gotten married and having a baby. It's a shame. People come, people go Some grow young, some grow cold I woke up in between A memory and a dream |
| Hellena Handbasket User ID: 1439176 United States11/12/2012 02:27 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have had only a handful of genuine friendships in my lifetime. Just for periods of time, tho'. Usually during a period of hardship or job that was really rough. I have met & had friendships just a few sterling, outstanding females. OP, I think you are basically correct. I'm not a drinker so that eliminates about 90% of any social life with "friends". I always stayed clear of drinkers or pill poppers. Stayed away from chronic dieters too. Their main topics of conversation is food or clothes. And women backbiting and backstabby? I've known some savages. Now? I am alone. And you know what? Thats just fine with me. I try to be friendly but most old women .. well... ah well, I'd just rather by by myself. Edited to add that my husband was the best friend I ever had. Last Edited by Hellena Handbasket on 11/12/2012 02:30 AM |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25818130  Canada11/12/2012 09:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marriages end because people grow apart. Why should it be any different with other friends? Unless a person is following exactly the same path as you in their life, or you are both absulutely free of the tendancy to judge, that friendship will eventually end entirely, or be reduced. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25818130 Canada11/12/2012 09:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Marriages end because people grow apart. Why should it be any different with other friends? Unless a person is following exactly the same path as you in their life, or you are both absulutely free of the tendancy to judge, that friendship will eventually end entirely, or be reduced. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25818130 I would also add that people are most capable of finding that ongoing friendship if they are at absolute peace with their own company. Truly, the success in any relationship depends on how comfortable you are with yourself. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 4334338 Canada11/12/2012 09:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no such thing as friends Quoting: ^TrInItY^ only people using each other to different degrees when the using is balanced both parties benefit so they pretend to care about each other but they really don't not beyond the benefits of the 'friendship' I don't think there are any genuine beings left in the world.. once the innocence of the child is gone it's kill or be killed, use or be used... this is the reality of life there is nothing genuine about a relationship in a humans life past childhood... sorry you might not want to admit that to yourself but this is the truth of life as a human yeah man, I have to agree with this. I never really believed in the concept of friendships. a lot of my closest friends over the years have turned into my worst enemies, and I have some mentee's who are experiencing the same thing. but trinity, what about the mentor/mentee relationship? I think that's a genuine relationship, as I have learned a great deal from the 5-8 mentors i've had over the years... I considered them genuine relationships... not friendships, but genuine relationships. so while there may not be genuine beings left in the world, there maybe genuine relationships... but your right, even those relationships, we're still using each other... however, i have found those relationships to provide me with the shortcut/wisdom/experiences i need to grow and learn faster. good post homey, i appreciate you stopping by. :) mentor / mentee relationship is destined to end badly when the mentee no longer needs the mentor this the mentor knows going in he makes the ultimate sacrifice of himself for his student... he goes in knowing they will betray him in the end... he does this out a sense of duty to the discipline Ï can be your Mentor if you would like, Trinity. I have much to teach you, grasshopper. -EAT |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 16764653 United States11/12/2012 09:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have a handfull of genuine friends that I've known since preschool. They are real. Women on the other hand are too petty and conniving to be friends with another woman. Except in extremely rare circumstances. But even then it is gained with the hormones that make them crazy. What's even more funny is when a woman realizes this and tries to be friends with a man. When the man only wants to fuck her. Unless he's a queer or something. But I see it all the time. Even my wife wants to hang out with me and my buddies. It's cool once in awhile but sorry ladies you upset the dynamic so you're not always invited. Besides you can't ride a snowmobile at 100 mph. Nobody wants to wait up for you. I feel bad for ladies. The only time in life they are genuinely complete is when they are raising babies. |
| >~* Flutterby Fringe*~< On the trail of MY TRUTH User ID: 19535695 United States11/12/2012 09:17 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Maybe I am fortunate. I have a couple of true friends one since I was 12 I would trust her with my life. We have gotten past all the using and im right no im right haggles of a friendship . 38 years is a long time. I feel blessed. “Out of this war, the greatest since the beginning of history, a new world must be born, a world that would justify the sacrifices offered by humanity. This new world must be a world in which there shall be no exploitation of the weak by the strong, of the good by the evil; where there will be no humiliation of the poor by the violence of the rich; where the products of intellect, science and art will serve society for the betterment and beautification of life, and not the individuals for achieving wealth. This new world shall not be a world of the downtrodden and humiliated, but of free men and women and free nations, equal in dignity and respect for Mankind and Nature.” - Nikola Tesla Summum Bonum Try if you must, but I WILL NOT deny the SOURCE/Naima, for IT encompasses ALL of Me and is the very beat of my heart( which is the sacred gate ) We are All Stardust ~ I was born on the Moon's day (Monday) |
| TheBridge User ID: 16233071  Ireland11/12/2012 09:18 AM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My g/f is 22 and has a group of friends who have been together since they were 13. Theres about 10 of them and they are always there for eachother and its all really genuine, just saying. between the material and the astral planes... My Blog: www.everythingastral.blogspot.com |
| DOT 2 DOT User ID: 24338672 United States11/12/2012 09:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | In my experience a lot of female friendships are centered around gossip. I couldn't say what guy friendships are about, maybe sports and drinking. The best friendships I've had were with males. Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid, it is true that most stupid people are conservative. John Stuart Mill ************ It's much harder to be a liberal than a conservative. Why? Because it is easier to give someone the finger than a helping hand. Mike Royko |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 27589026  Germany11/12/2012 09:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no such thing as friends Quoting: ^TrInItY^ only people using each other to different degrees when the using is balanced both parties benefit so they pretend to care about each other but they really don't not beyond the benefits of the 'friendship' I don't think there are any genuine beings left in the world.. once the innocence of the child is gone it's kill or be killed, use or be used... this is the reality of life there is nothing genuine about a relationship in a humans life past childhood... sorry you might not want to admit that to yourself but this is the truth of life as a human well said. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25818130 Canada11/12/2012 09:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My g/f is 22 and has a group of friends who have been together since they were 13. Theres about 10 of them and they are always there for eachother and its all really genuine, just saying. Quoting: TheBridge Your girlfriend is still a child. Of course she still has these friends. At this stage in life they are all following about the same path. Ask her where these "friends" are when she is 40. |
| sn0w (OP) User ID: 25965629 United States11/12/2012 09:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | mentor / mentee relationship is destined to end badly when the mentee no longer needs the mentor Quoting: ^TrInItY^ this the mentor knows going in he makes the ultimate sacrifice of himself for his student... he goes in knowing they will betray him in the end... he does this out a sense of duty to the discipline Yeah but trin, the fact that the mentor sacrifices a part of himself basically time, guidance, experience, wisdom, so the mentee can achieve his objectives faster brings pleasure. "If the youth of this world aren't guided with wisdom, the sins of the father will return to haunt the children." I know you don't like islam, but the koran might be right when it says that. The fact that the mentor doesn't want his mentee to make the same mistakes he made may bring him pleasure knowing that history won't repeat itself. Perpetuating the cycle of ignorance on this planet can be put to an end if we sch00l the y0uth of this nation with wisdom and guidance... and if the mentee no longer needs the mentor, I think this is a good thing. /Discuss. Last Edited by sn0w on 11/12/2012 09:32 AM sn0w |
