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Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?

 
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?

either:

1. troll

2. you put a a serious 'personal' situation on a forum like glp..lol

3. or if true and you actually need advice from random people to keep or not keep your wife.. no wonder you got cheated on.

/2cents
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
Not sure if anyone has said this yet...
First you need to smash that motherfucker that fucked your wife.
You need to, cause you can't beat your wife and somebody needs to pay for it.

Your wife will begin to see you as a real man that takes no shit. Then you stuff it in her ass to remind her who's boss.

Sad thing is women that cheat are likely to do it again, so find yourself a piece of tail on the side. Always wondering if she's still cheating will drive you nuts, but if you have something to make those feelings go away....

Beyond that, be a good husband. Love her, take her out sometimes and raise your kid well.
Patience is a virtue I just can't wait to achieve - CalmShock
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
She was always faithful, hard worker, great mother. I don't think I can trust her even though I feel she would never do it again. Nobody else can believe she did it neither. She had her tubes crossed at doctor request, she claims it made her crazy. Sounds lame to me, but I love her, can't stand it with or without her now.
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Heart to heart, if she had the audacity to do that, what's to keep her from doing it again? Besides how are you going to ever be able to trust her? And now she may suspect ur gonnna do the same cause she has a guilty conscience. I would say unless you guys saw a really good counselor, to prevent further heartbreak, you might wanna consider divorce. I know that's tough. And on that note, Jesus Christ loves you and will always be faithful to you. If you wanna know how to be saved you can email me. gimmiethatchedda@yahoo.com

Wish you the very best friend.
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
This is non of my business but here it goes....

Forgive her whether or not you decide to divorce or not.

I do not think it is worth ending your marriage over, if it was just a 1 time deal. And the saying "once a cheater is always a cheater" is a lie. Don't be fooled by the saying. Everyone is different.

You said she was a virgin when you married her...?

As much as we like to think that our spouses never think about things like that..... they do. But we are only human. Even our spouses.


You and your wife can work through this. Yes it could be very tough but rewarding as well. Not only for you and your daughter but your wife as well.

Better or for worse.

You probably can't see it at the moment but this could turn around to be a good thing. A very good thing that could make you and your wifes relationship stronger and refreshed.

Cheating yourself will not make you feel any better and only serve to deepen the wound.

Take some time to gather your thoughts.

Talk through it with your wife in a rational manner.

The sooner you realize that we all have made mistakes and we all screw up at one point or another the better of you'll be.

Has your wife been good to you...?

Is it really worth throwing in the towel over "sex"...?

It was curiosity maybe...?

It sounds to me that you know your wife truly loves you with all her heart but she got taken in by curiosity.

If you can truly forgive her and move past this, drop it.....

The better off and stronger your marriage can and will become.

And your wife will respect and love you even more then you know.

Don't lord it over her, just simply forgive her and let her know you still love and always will love her.

It only gets better. Much better.
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
Not sure if anyone has said this yet...
First you need to smash that motherfucker that fucked your wife.
You need to, cause you can't beat your wife and somebody needs to pay for it.

Beyond that, be a good husband. Love her, take her out sometimes and raise your kid well.
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The thought entered my mind but he is a cop. This is one time in my life I have felt like a pussy, but you cant fight the law, too many of them.
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
Not sure if anyone has said this yet...
First you need to smash that motherfucker that fucked your wife.
You need to, cause you can't beat your wife and somebody needs to pay for it.

Beyond that, be a good husband. Love her, take her out sometimes and raise your kid well.
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The thought entered my mind but he is a cop. This is one time in my life I have felt like a pussy, but you cant fight the law, too many of them.
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This is a problem for sure, but don't let that prevent some form of retribution.
Find some homeless guys and give them a hundred bucks to smash out his windows.

Is he married too? If so, tell your wife to call his and tell her everything or divorce.

There are many ways to skin a cat... get creative but cover your ass.
Patience is a virtue I just can't wait to achieve - CalmShock
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
He's a schmuck, already divorced. Heck with him anyways, it is her that provided the pussy, he just obliged her.
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
If you want to keep tabs on your wife from now on, check out
[link to www.mobistealth.com]

All is fair in love and war.
Patience is a virtue I just can't wait to achieve - CalmShock
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Interesting, would feel wrong doing that, but how do you download the software to a phone. You know, in case I had a change of opinion. lol
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Interesting, would feel wrong doing that, but how do you download the software to a phone. You know, in case I had a change of opinion. lol
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all you need is 5 minutes with the phone. Once you purchase it, it sends a link to your email. Use her phone to go to your email, click the link and it downloads the software to the phone.
Patience is a virtue I just can't wait to achieve - CalmShock
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This is up to you. Man the fuck up! Why in the hell would you bring this here? Sounds like you've made up your mind already.
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There's a lot of ideas and good info here, then there's the dark side to, zippy. Just have to sort it out dude.
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
She's 43, I am 46. I got her as a virgin, never dreamed she would cheat, especially this late in the game. I was always faithful, had plenty of opportunity to step out but I never did. Family was always what kept me in line. I would feel a sucker if I let her back in.
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You're only a,sucker if she truly isn't sorry ..... you can tell if she is....it isn't hard to tell if a woman is truly sorry

if she is tell her what you need from her emotionally to get thru this and if she's willing to do this then it will be a sign hat she is truly sorry
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I got her as a virgin,
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What, did you buy her online or somethin'..?
Propaganda has to be popular and has to accommodate itself to the comprehension of the least intelligent of those whom it seeks to reach...
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
if you do take her back then you can't be tracking her phone man.....your 46 , you know this....relationships can't work with secrets like that

just tell her that she is going to have to make sure that she doesn't do things that makes you suspicious.....

Tell her if she does do,something that makes you suspicious then you have aright to,ask her about it and that she can never get mad at you for asking
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Oh she is very sorry. She realizes that I am the one that makes everything click so to say. She is a big help also, no doubt. Without me she realizes things will be tough. Tough on both of us, but more so her. She's not stupid, but a little naive, then again, aint we all in certain areas...
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I got her as a virgin,
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What, did you buy her online or somethin'..?
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It's unsual in this day and age but it happens,every now,and then.....my ex wife was a virgin when I married her and she was really pretty ...just very shy too tho

and then she left

The end =)

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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
Oh she is very sorry. She realizes that I am the one that makes everything click so to say. She is a big help also, no doubt. Without me she realizes things will be tough. Tough on both of us, but more so her. She's not stupid, but a little naive, then again, aint we all in certain areas...
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I understand man....I feel for you sir.....there's nothing that's hurts a man worse in this life then for the woman that he loves to cheat on him....it's a pain that no one can ever know until it happens to them .... a man doesn't ev en realize this type of pain is even a possibility until it happens to him and then he says......"I didn't even realize that this type of pain was real"

I wasn't even in love with my wife anymore when she cheated on me and it still hurt like hell so I can only imagine what it feels like if you're in love

I'm sure you know this but I'll say it anyway

there's prob only two possibilities why she cheated...

1 ......she is in her early fourties.....the height of her sexual peak as far as sex desire is concerned ....if you aren't meeting her needs in this area then go get cialis ...I've tried it and it worked for me


2.....she was feeling unwanted by you from,an emotional viewpoint and this other man made her feel good about herself emotionally ....if this is the case then ask what you can do to meet her emotional needs

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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
This happened to me too, and I look back at it now and think to myself damn I was a pussy. My problem before is that I wanted to save my marriage and she didn't care, once someone doesn't care it is over. Now if shit like this happens... cya bitch.
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
She did feel unwanted, she knows now, that was not the case. I am gonna run her through the ringer. Was with a women last night myself. I will tell her when time is right. If she still wants this after that, it will speak volumes. She has always been very jealous type and for no good reason. Now she will have reason. If her loves is true, it will show. One more thought. I think the word love, while all great and everything doesn't trump the word passion. You can love many, but passions are what you need to make it. I have it for her, we will see if she has it for me.
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
She was always faithful, hard worker, great mother. I don't think I can trust her even though I feel she would never do it again. Nobody else can believe she did it neither. She had her tubes crossed at doctor request, she claims it made her crazy. Sounds lame to me, but I love her, can't stand it with or without her now.
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SORRY TO HEAR IT......ITS GOING TO BE A HAUNTING JOURNEY FOR YOU FORGIVNESS WILL HELP HEAL YOU, BUT IT DOESNT MEAN BE AN IDIOT, WHAT YOU ALLOW WILL ONLY HAPPEN AGAIN...TYING TUBES DOESNT DO THAT.
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
Forgive and forget her trespasses and she shall forgive and forget your trespasses.

Love each other and come together again.


For this is the way of God and His Christ that everyone should forgive the sins and the trespasses of others and come together again and love each other.


Faithfulness in Marriage


2/9/07 From Jesus The Christ, Our Lord and Savior - A Letter Given to Timothy, For Kudos, and For All Those Who Have Ears to Hear

My son, stay faithful both to Me and your wife, for in this are you clean. She has gone out of the way, and you and she have not followed Me as you should, neither have you obeyed all My laws of marriage... My commandments of love. You have not walked fully in My ways.

I say to you this: Greater is the sin of your wife, for I have commanded all to abide in marriage under God, as they should. Yet the Cornerstone, of which I am and have placed within you, to it you have not harkened. And your wife has endeavored to cast it and the sanctity of marriage away, as a cord strewn about her neck. And so, My son, stay faithful. You both remain married in the eyes of God, for the laws of men have no bearing on the true judgment of God carried out by The Son. So then, married or unmarried in the eyes of men, married you remain, until which time she binds herself to another by intimacy. Whether it be in the body or of the mind, whether it be before or after the certificate of divorce is confirmed... IT IS ADULTERY, and a desecration of that sanctified by The Father, also sanctified in blood between all those who have retained their virginity until the night of their copulation.

So then, pray for your wife and stay true to her in body and mind, and it shall be credited unto you for righteousness. And to her, it shall be as rebellion, for she has not followed after Me, nor has she turned to Me in truth. Rather, she has given heed to sly and seducing words of others, to justify that within herself that she knows to be wrong and against My commandments. I have given her of Myself, yet she does stifle that which was given unto her as a blessing and a cleansing, choosing sin and disobedience. And so it is with heavy of heart, I must let those, who go their own way, stumble, so they might return to Me again, asking that I might lift them up. And if these do not come before the time appointed, and will not walk in My ways, I shall behold their hearts... And if I see not of Myself in them, they shall not be gathered but left unto refinement, whereby tribulation they shall return to Me, and in this they shall be upheld and lifted up.

And what of these, who spew false doctrine and divide that which is not to be divided?... They shall receive recompense, in full, for their error. Thus is the love and severity of God, for He shall correct and discipline even all those He loves.

Remember God is just in everything and knows all the works of His children, and will judge... And so manifest all things which will bring them back to the Way, and the Truth, and the Life, which is in Me and I am. For your wife has become a wild olive branch and shall be broken off, but The Lord’s will is that she be grafted in again... And I am able to graft her in again according to the good pleasure of The Father’s will. I am her Father also, and her Shepherd, and so I let my sheep wander where they will so they may learn. Yet I will not let them fall, for I am He who will always go out for them and lead them back again. I have already laid down My life for them and have taken it up again, so they might be established in My sight, in My very presence. These know My voice and will again return at My calling of them.

So take heed to yourself, and do all I ask of you, and abide in all patience and faith, trusting in God with all long-suffering and prayer. And when the day comes, for it comes quickly, you shall be gone from this place and all your beloved with you, and your wife also, if she so chooses to heed My calling of her before the time.



In the days following, you shall see the angels of Heaven

Ascending and descending upon The Son of Man...



In this, take great comfort.



I know all My sheep...

I have always known them...

And with Me shall they abide, forever and ever.



Amen.

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Regarding Divorce


9/15/04 From God The Father - A Letter Given to Timothy, For Kathy, and For All Those Who Have Ears to Hear

Question asked by Timothy, for Kathy: Lord, did Kathy act rightly by divorcing Arthur?


[Answer from God The Father] Timothy, I tell you, she has not, for she has sinned and should come to repentance, and reconcile to her husband and he to her. He, too, does believe in Me, though he does not share this openly. Arthur have I also called, as I have with all men of the earth... And he has heard Me.

My commandment, concerning these things of the heart and My law of marriage, did I bestow upon My servant, Paul, to be put forth to all peoples and nations. I have sanctified marriage, and all who believe in Me must obey My Word. All things I say are true and for man’s benefit, to keep him from pain and sin. Now go and tell Kathy to read what Paul says to the Corinthians[1], and to heed his words... They are not his words but Mine, and Mine alone, as are the words I have put forth through your mind.

Timothy, My faithful servant of the end of this age and the beginning of the next, My blessings be with you and upon you, says The Lord... And to your mother, mother of your beloved and wife of Arthur.

[1] 1 Corinthians 7:10-16


Source:
Letters from God and His Christ



1 Corinthians 7:10-16 KJV
(10) And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
(11) But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
(12) But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
(13) And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
(14) For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
(15) But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
(16) For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
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Re: Wife of 23 years cheated on me, should I divorce?
DIVORCE her! especially if you got some evidence.
Once a cheater, always a cheater! I know because I am one!I probably cheated over a hundred times!

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Don't stone her muzzies, let me have her!
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Biblically, in Jesus' own words, cheating is an acceptable reason to divorce your wife.

"But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery."
- Matthew 5:32 NIV
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She was always faithful, hard worker, great mother. I don't think I can trust her even though I feel she would never do it again. Nobody else can believe she did it neither. She had her tubes crossed at doctor request, she claims it made her crazy. Sounds lame to me, but I love her, can't stand it with or without her now.
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HOW DID THIS MAN SEDUCE YOUR WIFE?????????????????????????
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WWJD
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She was always faithful, hard worker, great mother. I don't think I can trust her even though I feel she would never do it again. Nobody else can believe she did it neither. She had her tubes crossed at doctor request, she claims it made her crazy. Sounds lame to me, but I love her, can't stand it with or without her now.
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Dump her and get a life.
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This is NOT about you or her anymore. From the time your child was born, it became about the child, to some extent. If she's repentant, then stay. Create a lock down scenario. Get Spectorsoft(.com) for her computer and GPS her phone and/or car, until you're sure it's over and are able to verify what she claims. Do everything you can to stop the relationship.
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She was always faithful, hard worker, great mother. I don't think I can trust her even though I feel she would never do it again. Nobody else can believe she did it neither. She had her tubes crossed at doctor request, she claims it made her crazy. Sounds lame to me, but I love her, can't stand it with or without her now.
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You love her.

Shit happens.

Grow up.

Get over it.

Move on.

Choose to be happy.

This is wise advice, above. Don't piss on it.
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I agree.

She fucked up.

Either get over it or be done with her because I'm sure you are perfect.
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put an ad on Craig's List calling for a bad bitch to fuck. Show it to your wife.

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