family conflict

To vague, I know. Just wandering I'd anybody else has had this, what the Fuck, feeling.

I'm pretty much of the opinion that most of my immediate family is nuts. My Dad is really the only sane one of the bunch. I'm not on speaking terms with several of them for different reasons.

Is your situation the way it is because you defend your mother? Or is it because you do not?

Families are overrated...I'll end up pissing one of my brothers or sisters off over Thanksgiving by making fun of Obama's welfare voters or some comment about how borrowing money is retarded...but we'll get some good laughs out it too :)

Stop talking to them. Best thing I ever did. They'll come around after their drama ridden brains start to function correctly.

Yes in my case the conflict is tied the church the mormon church to be exact. I feel your pain the church turned my entire family against me because I became outspoken. I can do nothing except live my life like there dead.

Actually, both. I defended her two decades ago against my Dads horrendous behaviour during the divorce. Years later, I'm the bad guy cause I've seen the truth and no longer defend her in the same way. Big lesson: if your parents divorce when you are an adult, run to the other side of the country and don't get involved at Any level.

Hah, lucky for me they divorced when I was about three. Similar situation for my husband's side of things. It gets tough when you realize they both acted nasty to each other.

Tell them all that you want no part of it. It doesn't seem like it would help but sometimes it does. It salvaged a relationship or two for me in the past when I wasn't involved in the conflict but both sides are trying to pull you around. If they really aren't willing to allow you to not be involved then they can sit and stew for a few months, years or whatever. The no bullshit approach really is simple.

That's just my 2c, take it or leave it.

Religion or lifestyle choices. Yes, I understand that too. I have made lifestyle choices that are outside family norm, and I am demonized despite the fact that I am paying my bills. Atleast, I was until I was shocked by my wife's $2500 dental bill. New baby had already used up my cash reserves. Asked for a loan. Big explosion. Borrowing from a friend instead. I can pay it back by mid December.

Yeah, don't borrow money from family. Just don't. Been there, done that when we were in a pinch and it exploded in our faces later on. We paid it back in full and quickly, but it didn't make any difference.

I'll never do that again.

And i agree with the comments of others. I must distance myself. It is amazing to realize how the one person who appeared to be helping me most has actually caused the most harm to me. Naturally, she feels very wronged by me for my changed attitude towards her.